How to stop bombarding him with texts?

[Anonymous]

I get really anxious when my crush does not answer and start to bombard him with long emotional texts. I also start to cry, one day I did that in front of my little sister who got scared and thought I was dying.
I know it is wrong and drives him away but I could not keep myself away from the phone, ask why he doesn't answer and just write huge monologues. It has gone too far but I don't know how to stop. He thinks I'm too clingy and that is stopping us from moving on. I really want to change that and not bombard him all the time but he not answering makes me terribly anxious and act unrationally, even if he hasn't seen my message but I can see that he is online (we communicate mostly through WhatsApp). I would really appreciate your tips what to do. As I think about it, I get anxious again thinking that maybe I've ruined it all already by acting insane but I really like him and want that inner peace so I could be a better friend and girlfriend.

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If anyone would like to share their opinion, I'd really appreciate it!

[America1st]

Texting and social media ruins a lot of relationships. Using it as the major means of communicating is very foolish and not conducive to a good relationship. You see he's online and get upset if he doesn't interrupt what he is doing to message you. You have very unreasonable expectations. If your expectations of the other person don't get met, you turn that into all kinds of things he might not mean. You are too clingy and needy. Very few men want that. You can stop if you make the decision to do so. Only you have control of what you do. Your problem is your insecurity and you project that on him. Tell him you realize what you are doing is crazy and unwarranted. Tell him you are insecure and are going to work on fixing that. Doing this is making a commitment to him that you are really going to do this. If you don't, he will not trust you in the future. There are reasons you are so insecure. What are they? Do you realize this is your problem? Do you understand it. Until you do, you are not going to be able to fix it. I'm not putting you down or trying to be mean. I take your question seriously and would like to help. I need to know your thoughts about this and I will then ask you questions so I can know what I need to help you. I make no promises, but this is why I'm on GAG. I love helping people and GAG is great for people like me. If you wish to continue, private message me and I'll help. I won't ever ask for any private information about you or where you live in the US. I've done this with a number of girls/women on GAG. Let me know. I'd like to help if I can.

[Asker]

Yes, I would do that but unfortunately I don't have enough XPER to send private messages :) I will do that once I earn them.

[America1st]

How many points do you need. I don't care how many I have. If there is a way to transfer some, I will. I don't pay attention to the numbers and other stuff on GAG. I do it because of people like you. If you don't mind putting the information on this part of the site, I'll try to help. I just don't want people putting things in public that they don't want to. I don't know any other private way we can talk. If you know of one, I'm happy to do it. I don't mind giving a little info of mine, but you definitely shouldn't give me any. It's just not safe for you.

[847342]

It happened with me too.. The thing is stop thinking about him.. If he isn't reply for so long means he's avoiding you.. N the thing is he's already into someone.. N you know.. You sound more like me.. He had made his mind that you're obsessed with him n its true.. The real deal is to divert yourself from him.. Make real friends in your life.. Do crazy things, things that you've never done.. N belive me.. The people who doesn't appreciate you.. They don't deserve you.. You deserve better.. Life is full of opportunities.. Dont waste your time thinking about him or sending him texts.. It will do nothing but it'll deepen the damage in your heart.. Take care

[Anonymous]

Or you can randomly message it to a guy you barely know (only one guy). Make sure you don't disclose any of info with him so you can remain anonymous.

[Bex134]

Try writing those messages on a notes app and not sending them anywhere that way you are letting it out but not bombarding your crush with messages

[RahulTandon]

this is a good one!

[overwh0re]

same! literally my boyfriend tells me its okay but i always feel like im annoying him by wanting to speak to him more...

[RahulTandon]

try this. after sending a message... switch off your phone.. do something else... after some time.. switch on your phone and check the reply. don't be too clingy if you don't wanna loose him. make new chat buddies at g@g and enjoy your time mean while.

[RahulTandon]

Hey did you get past this?