Regret a breakup?

[Anonymous]

Does the dumper ever miss the dumpee? Do they ever miss them or even regret their decision? I mean I'm sure it can happen or not but.. any experiences to share? This question goes mainly to dumpers but everyone can answer.

[luke_4u]

Man, that's a good question. I sure wish I knew. My wife of over 20 years met a guy in the bar, and she was gone. I sure never saw it coming. You'll have to take my word for it of course, but I was always good to her, and I raised all four of her kids from her previous marriage. She left me in Sept. of 06, and to this day I don't know if she ever had any regrets, as she doesn't talk to me. I'd like to think that she at least has a little guilt over what she's done, but it doesn't look like it. So to answer your question, I really don't know if they ever have any regrets or if they're ever sorry, and wish they could turn the clock back. I guess it all depends on the person, some people have no conscience and couldn't care less whether or not they hurt someone. But if they left you for another person and it doesn't work out the way they had hoped it would, I guess there's a chance they might try to come back. I suppose part of it would depend on why they left in the first place.

[Asker]

I think that if she loved you.. she probably feels guilty for the way she left you. but some people are so disapointing.. I just like to think that karma really exists lol

[nova_as_in_casanova]

Well I've been looking for an answer to my question which kinda goes along with this. The girl I was with stopped talking to me for a while because she started having feelings for her ex again after she dumped him. Now we're starting to warm up to each other again but she is still thinking about him and I can't figure out how to win her over because this guy isn't the greatest guy on the earth. Any help with this would be great.

[Aggemam]

Off course the dumper miss the person they dumped! After all, there's always a reason why you've spent time with the person in the first place. Some times things just doesn't work out the way you want it to and you realize that you just can't be with the person. It doesn't mean that you don't still like the person or even miss the person.

I just dumped this guy I was dating a couple of weeks ago because I found out that he was a PUA (pick uo artist) trying to make it his way of living. It made me really jealous so I decided to dump him. I still think about him and I miss him. I'm not even sure if dumping him was the right thing to do.

[siewchin]

true story : my ex dumped me for a totally inferior girl (huh?!) and they broke up within 2 months! we still kept close contact as I still can't get over the fact he DUMPED me but after the fiasco, he was extra nice to me (I think he was trying to earn his way back to my good book) and we still have sex. in the end, he begged me to accept him back which I never did because I saw thru his whole game. serve him right! (please excuse the tone as I still have a little vengeance in me, LOL!)

[Reeses-pieces777]

idk. only if he realizes he's dumped a good one

for me

my ex, one of them who dumped me, I know he's had trouble dating other girls since me, partly because 1. he's a jerk and 2. he realizes he lost a good one so :-P haha

[Anonymous]

Of course! I dumped my ex about 8 months ago and I miss him like crazy...I think I might even still love him. Ugh. It is awful too because he has a new girlfriend and I don't feel like it would be right for me to tell him how I feel.

[Asker]

I think that's what the dumpee desires the most.. that one day the dumper regrets their decision and that there's no coming back

[Opinion Owner]

So he would probably just rub it in my face if I did admit to still having feelings for him?

[Asker]

I mean.. are you sure you still love him romantically? or are you just a little jelous since he moved on? (girls seem to want what they can't have) the thing is.. if you still really love him and are certain about it, you should fight for him of course even though he might not want you back.. I'm curious of one thing.. why did you dump him in the first place?

[Opinion Owner]

Well part of why I regret dumping him is because I really and truly cannot remember why I did it. I mean don't get me wrong we fought here and there and bickered like every normal couple does from time to time, but I was under a lot of stress at college and things were just really tough and it kind of just happened. I figured we would just get back together. apparently I should not have assumed that. I feel back because he continued to call me for months and months after the breakup.

[wickedillusion66]

Even thought I dumped him I miss my ex a lot and its been a little over a year. Sometimes I regret it but I know it was what was best for us at the time.