The guy isn't attracted to me because of my weight... What do I do?

[Anonymous]

We went on a date, he put me in the friends box. Now I can tell he is starting to really like my personality but I had a really bad knee injury a year ago and gained a lot of weight and am now in the process of losing it. I know he thinks I am pretty and I know he thinks I'm awesome but he is super into fitness (he is a personal trainer) and likes really fit girls. Before my injury I was in super awesome shape but now I am 5'3 and 184 lbs :/ My question is: Do I stick with it and keep being his friend and when I am back to my old self allow him to pursue it or do I drop him? Let it be known that he has never told me that he thinks I'm too fat or anything but I know that's the reason why we are just friends. So what do I do? And is it weird that I am not offended by this? Should I be?

[anony84]

Well firstly no one can tell you whether or not you should be offended by something - you either are offended or you aren't so what we think really won't change the way you feel tbh.

If you like him and you think there's a chance he will go for you despite the weight issues, then go for it. If you think there is no chance then really there is no point to wait so you might as well move on and find someone who loves your personality AND your appearance.

[Jackie1106]

I think that a lot of this is your own insecurities! I also think that you should keep trying to get closer to him. Maybe ask him to be your personal trainer! So you can share his passion, you can get what you want with him and with yourself and you can get closer to him. Good luck!