Why give me your number when you aren't interested in the end...

[Fox0507]

So this happened to me twice. I have asked a woman for her number which she gives me to only find out that she doesn't respond when I contact her... I just don't get it? Why give me your number when in the end you really aren't that interested... My most recent case, I would like to think she was interested in me because she actually made sure that her number was correct by taking me phone and putting her number in it herself... But since then I really haven't heard from her... I mean I've of course initiated or tried to initiate a conversation since she gave me her number... And I've played it smart I haven't come off too eager or needy... I even waited a day until I contacted her... In fact she really doesn't even know me to even have an opinion about me, at least about my character... Seriously, I don't understand how you can give me your number, act interested and then later change your mind so to speak... Seriously can any lady out there explain this...?

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I guess another question to add to this one is, is there a way to prevent this from happening again. Like I said this has happened to me twice. I mean is there a way to sense that even if a woman comes off interested, it's most likely she really is not. I just want to emphasize that when I ask for these women's numbers it's after we've talk for awhile at whatever venue we were at.

[eaeaea]

Interestingly someone else on this sight asked a question... something along the ways of "would you give me your number.. and so on...

One chick responded.. She would, due to the fact that 'she knows it takes a lot for a guy to go up to a girl', therefore she she gives it 'always'.. I see it as, she feels sorry for the dude, like "Awww what a brave little soldier, let me give him my number." When in reality she is not interested at all.

And this chick got BEST Answer. and all the guys replying.. "yea this one", "she knows", and blah blah blah. ... So you all are full of sh*t! Why do you all want that, and then you end up here asking why you're being rejected after she clearly gave you her number! It's stupid, really. If she truly isn't interested why should she give you her number? Just to make you guys feel better "at the moment"? because she will be rejecting you later. All the while you're waiting on her, you could have been looking elsewhere, where someone IS truly interested in you, and not just giving you her number because she thought you had the balls to go up to her. I can't find the question on here... But I think it's pathetic how she got BA, when in the end you all end up confused as to why she isn't interested. If that's what you want, then don't complain!

[Fox0507]

Well like I mentioned before this girl approached me and started talking to me. In fact the first time this happened it was the same situation in that I was approached by the girl. Which definitely makes things confusing because if you think about it the women came up to me and started talking then they are fine with giving out their number to then later flake out...anyway point is I didn't get the numbers because I was brave and approached the girl... She came up to me...

[eaeaea]

Well, maybe she just wanted to befriend you, but men always think we want something else just because we talk with you guys, and flirting is usually natural, doesn't always imply we do it because we are interested other than just for a pleasant conversation.. Maybe after she found out you wanted to keep in touch just to hook up or that you're interested in something more intimate with her, she figured she'd back off a little... and now you're feeling like you're getting the cold shoulder.

[Fox0507]

Unless she can read minds how the hell does someone come to the conclusion that all I want to do is hook up especially when I didn't say or hint that was what I was only interested in. In fact that wasn't what I was interested in. Plus how conversation wasn't flirtatious at all it was a normal get to know conversation aka am interested in you and want to get to know you. Seriously I had no "sinister" intentions when I adked for her number..

[eaeaea]

Well, guys do that all the time too. They meet another girl that they find more interesting and forget about the previous one, since it wasn't anything serious anyway. Maybe at the time she thought it was interesting to talk with you, and now perhaps she might have lost ineterst, or she's too busy with something else.

[Anonymous]

Girls give their number when you ask sometimes just not to be rude, don't know how t say no or because they want to seem nice... I have gotten numbers from guys and never called them, I usually don't give them my number but get theirs instead.

I'm not sure bout when you change your mind since I haven't ever changed my mind after, but maybe she wasn't actually interested.

[Fox0507]

Ok I can understand just giving your number to be nice... But this girl actual put her number in my phone... I mean I don't know about you but that comes off as very interested when you are phyiscally putting your number into the guys phone...

[Opinion Owner]

I see, well she could of been interested but ended up finding someone else or if she was drinking at the time she could of been acting that way because of it, but these are just some of my guesses on it.

[Fox0507]

I should also add that the time she gave me her number she came up and started talking to me it wasn't like I approached her and then asked for her number...

[Opinion Owner]

Well then she was probably for sure interested at the time, but either of those options could still apply to that still.

[Fox0507]

You might be right about the drinking... But unless she find someone else in a span of a day then I don't think was or is the case... I should also add that before I asked for her number we were talking for a while and she was asking me questions to get to know me hence why I say she came off as interested... Bottom-line the way she was behaving was pretty much giving me the green-light to ask for her number...

[Opinion Owner]

Well with drinking people can come off as more interested, Almost every guy I met when drinking I am nice to but generally I don't want numbers or anything just enjoying hanging out with them at the time, I don't know if that's just me but I'd generally be fine with them if they seemed like they wanted to be friends but usually guys don't want friendship. Maybe tryin to mention things that would seem like you want to get or give a number like mention it was fun ad would be nice to hang out again

[Anonymous]

Get the number by saying you would like to take her out to dinner sometime.

Then wait two days before contacting her.

Then CALL her. Honestly, do not text her.

I've done this strategy on about 12 girls. 11 of them I was able to talk to on the phone. The 12th never responded. Of the 11, 2 or 3 had boyfriends...and all of the others have gone out with me on a first date. And these girls are top notch. Girls that any guy would want to be with.

[AndyWes]

Sadly, women will frequently give their numbers out and sometimes even agree to dates when they're not interested, only to refuse to text you back or flake out on the date at the last minute.

Somehow this strikes women as being much 'kinder' and less 'rude' than being courteous enough to be up front and honest.

[eaeaea]

And somehow men prefer that as well, according to most on here.

[AndyWes]

If the men on here would prefer women to accept dates and flake, or to give their numbers but never return a call, then they're not men, they're eunuchs or aliens, perhaps.

[Anonymous]

I am the type of person that gives my number to people whenever they ask me and I am interesting in getting to know them or just being friends... but sometimes I tend to ignore some guys even thought I was the one to give my number away... In my case I ignore the people who just seam to be desperete... (hope is not your case) :3 What I call desperate is when you call somone every hour... Which happen to me before that why I had to ignore...

[Fox0507]

Nah... When I first got her number I waited a day before I contacted her and when I did contact her I only texted her once that entire day. She responded that one time only and when she did again she came off as being interested... I should also add that she approached me initially ... I didn't approach her when I got her number.