No, you are not overreacting. Still, you could deal with this a little differently.
He shouldn't cancel his plans at the last minute. If he must, he should cancel maybe a day ahead, or well in advance. It shows how much he cares for you if he drops spending time with you over spending time with his friends, when in fact you hardly get the chance to be with him.
Tell him this: "I am upset that you dropped everything for your friends. I work 50 hours a week, and I don't appreciate that you can't spend some time with me. I am upset that you aren't willing to spend some time with me. If you really care for me, then you would make the time to be with me." Tell him your true feelings, without putting negative emotions in. Just be honest with your feelings, and explain why you feel the way you do.
Yes, he asked you to join them, but I'm sure you would like to spend some time with him alone, rather than with him and his friends. Yes, you can't find a babysitter at the last minute, but you should let him know. You can't assume that he knows that, even though it may seem obvious. Still, maybe sometimes you could compromise by spending some time with him and his friends. Then you can encourage him to spend some time with you alone.
You have every right to tell him how hut you feel when he does that. However, you should be direct with your feelings and the consequences of his actions. That way, he can see where he has done wrong, and you can work out a solution with him.
No. Just because he has made a mistake, does not mean that you should stop all communication. Rather than stop communicating, which is a common mistake, and just makes him more confused, you should just communicate more. Just tell him your feelings. Remember: never stop communicating just because you are angry. That doesn't solve the problem.
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If he's boys come over, then he has no choice but to NOT kick them out.
I used to live in a middle of nowhere, my first girlfriend lived 15 miles down the road, and my boys 20-25miles, so yup.
Yes and no got to look at it is angle he wants to see is mates which is very normal for men . And you are right to be as you said you work a lot my boyfriend mate phoned and wanted to hang out and he says sorry man my miss is working crazy and I want to spend the evening with her all depends on the guy don't worry if he does it again then you have a problem but just let him have his man night :-)
i would be very upset . don't let him do you like that . you use your money to help him and everything and he brushed you off. you could use that money for your child and yourself . A REAL man wouldn't take money from his girlfriend especially when she has a child.
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Is this a regular thing where he breaks plans? If it is then you have a right to be upset because he is showing that your time is not very important but if it only happens once in a while or this is the first time then I think you are overreacting.
I think you're overreacting a bit, he just wants to have a night with his friends. I wouldn't worry about this.
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