Oooh...here's a question I have to answer...
The guy cares because technically that means you were just using him.
Let's clarify one thing. You can't be "just friends, but not really". You are either friends. Or you are not friends. It is that simple.
If you were friendly to a guy for a while, but you stop being friends as soon as you decide you're not going to date him, then that means you were using him.
Just because this is common in the sad world we live in, doesn't make it right.
A guy should care. If the guy does not care that you stopped talking to him, then that means he was also using you, or he didn't really care about you one way or the other to begin with. The guy may have gotten used to women acting this way, but if he is even close to genuine, he will care.
A guy does not need to be obsessed with you to get hurt over being used. No one likes being used. You wouldn't like it either if a guy you thought was just being friendly decided to one day stop talking to you. You'd call him an a**hole, because that would be proof he was using you.
Why should there be a double standard? So many women treat men horribly. Is it any surprise that I know so many men who say they could never be friends with a woman? Because most women act like the don't deserve or want friendship from the opposite sex. The whole "friendship zone" thing is bullsh*t too. Just another excuse for women to try to manipulate men. Women use the "friendship zone" as a threat because they don't want guys as friends that they can't get rid of, and unfortunately men play along with this game.
I've recently decided I have no time or desire to play this game, no time for women who are two-faced, no time for women who think the only purpose of men is as a dating prospect, and have no understanding that men should be treated the same way as any other human being.
I just wish every man would make that same realization.
Let's be clear. When you talk to a guy or hang out or flirt with him, you are making no promises about what kind of relationships you two will have. But you are telling him that you like talking to him, and you like hanging out with him. You don't have to be best friends, and you don't have to become lovers. But you should remain as friendly with the guy as you were to begin with. If that's not true, you are being incredibly fake and deceptive.
No better than someone who only pretends to be friends with you to get money from you, and walks away as soon as they learn you are poor, or they've taken all your money. No one likes to be used that way. Keep the business separate from the friendship. You can do business with your friends, but you can't be friends with people you're using just to do business with.
And with dating it's the same thing. You can date someone you're friendly with, but you shouldn't be friends with someone only because you might date them. Otherwise, you were never friends to begin with and everything is a lie.
That's because we want something that we don't have.
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I suppose because you created a base line for the friendship where you talked to them on a normal basis and then went cold and shut them out for no reason. So the person is like wtf is wrong with her? Change in behavior when unwarranted, is going to be questioned.
The conclusions are going to be something along these lines, 1) she too touchy and gets pissed off for no reason, thus is unfit for living, 2) she's a flake, 3) she uses people for attention and then drops them when she gets bored and is generally a bad person, or 4) she was attracted and wanted to be more then friends so she aggressively pursued the getting to know you phase, and when the guy didn't jump at the opportunity to escalate the situation she moved on to talk to other men.
In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter that she's gone, but the difference in the norm is going to be noticed. If you warm up to people, and then go cold for no reason, it's just odd.
-_- I love silence. It's when she is speaking that she is bothering me lol, she better be short and straight to the point because she's annoying me.
I've talked to girls not really as friends but flirted a bit, then stopped talking. I didn't care at all.
He was probably crushing on you...now he's just being butt hurt.
In my experience, we don't. It's women who care when you go silent on them.
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