What you consider clingy others will not. I have had clingy girlfriends and one many years ago was literally exploding my phone nonstop when I wouldn't reply.
My last one was clingy and wanted to hang out so much to the point where I had to argue about getting a load of laundry done. It became too much. She'd want to hang out way too much and the pressure was all on me with her having no car. I was losing gas like nuts and she couldn't reimburse me really. I was lucky to get 10 bucks outta her for gas. That was nothing compared to what I was doing commute-wise. Worst of all was her rambling for minutes on end and me trying to get a word in was "interrupting." Clingy people get irrational. Now I spot clinginess really fast.
I was hooking up with one girl and she was dissecting my day down to the minute practically. She was forcing herself onto me. It sounds great at first. But when you have this feeling that someone's so fixated on you to the point where they need to know your every move, it is a really creepy feeling.
Nowadays I do have this feeling that girls have been called clingy when they weren't and now feel the need to keep a distance for fear of that word. But in reality, clinginess is real, but those cases are extreme.
The internet, television, magazines, and all sorts of media have brainwashed people into thinking it's the absolute worst crime in the dating world to be "clingy". Even the term that they have dubbed this type of behavior is cringeworthy. Sure, there are always extremes, but most people nowadays want to quickly jump to the conclusion that someone is clingy just because they really like them and want to spend a lot of time with them, when this is the most natural thing in the world. It causes people to be self-conscious about their behavior, which could prevent them from doing or acting like they normally would in a dating relationship, ultimately leading to relationship failure.
An ex of my cousin:
10: My cousin wakes up - Two texts from girlfriend saying good morning.
Lets pretend his phone dies and he can't respond for a few minutes.
10:05 - Four messages from girlfriend worrying
Cousin responds with hi.
10:06 - Girl asks him how he is
Cousin goes for a jog after saying good.
10:45 - Fifty texts and call from girlfriend wondering where the fuck he is.
That is clingy.
Cousin tries to dump her. She goes over to his house and gets on her knees and begs him not to dump her. She kisses his feet.
That is clingy.
Not what you stated.
me and my boyfriend are clingy we spend every spare moment together and never get tired of each other but I think that if we ever did need space we'd be able to give that space for a while because we care about each other. That said we do both have our own interests and sometimes our interests merge we are still independent with work and stuff obviously we just love being around each other... and sometimes literally cling to each other hahaha You just need to find someone who is clingy too and find a balance!
I think sometimes it just depends on the person.
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I'm clingy girl and I love having a clingy guy. But there are its limits. "Too clingy" for me is when everywhere you go together, he has to be all up on you at all times, you have to report at all times where you are and what you're doing with who for how long. When pretty much you just feel sufficated by them. In order to be missed by someone, you have to allow them to miss you. Time apart is really good for relationships. So i mean yeah, space is needed every now and then. And usually when you ask for space, they understand. But some people are so clingy that they keep on doing it even more than before. But on a calm level of clingy, I like it.
I'm just not a clingy person... I'm busy pursuing three careers, and I like a lot of time to myself. It doesn't mean I love any less or that they should be worried about if I'd cheat.
The careers I'm pursuing could involve me traveling on location for a certain amount of time, I don't need or want someone who will freak out if they don't see me for two days.
The attention may be great but super annoying, everyone needs their space, distance, trust & what not. Ain't nothing wrong with lots of attention and love but sometimes too much can smoother you. I get what you're saying though about not worrying about cheating or being bored.
-They get easily jealous.
-At some point, it's stalkerish.
Another reason that other answerers haven't brought up yet is that there's no challenge. I get bored very easily & when someone is clingy, I take them for granted & I don't respect them as much.
- You have little personal time/privacy
- Feeling someone is that emotionally dependent on you is pressurising/ draining
- It's hard to respect someone so dependent
- comes across as desperate/ makes you feel disgusted to even be associated with them
- irritating having someone hover over you 24/7
- often hand in hand with possessiveness, jealousy and controlling behaviour
- quickly feel suffocated by them/ they are so dependent on you it's like you are trapped in the relationship/ a break up would be a big deal full of confrontations which I like to avoid
- I NEED SPACE STOP FUCKING TEXTING ME DONT YOU HAVE ANYTHING ELSE GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE (just me venting)
Yeah... soz I just hate clingy people. That said one person's clingy might just be normal for someone else.
I think different people want to spend more time with their S. O. more than others. They also need affection more than others. When these people date someone who isn't like them, the S. O. finds them clingy, but it could just be they are not compatible.
I just find it annoying because I'm independent and I can't stand having someone hover over me. They tend to be come real naggy and it's like they ALWAYS need attention. A clingy guy will turn me off INSTNATLY.
Clingly people are insecure. They jump to conclusions about everything and anything you do when you're not around with them, by assuming the worst. Clingy people are selfish and assume their own agendas are far more important than those they cling to.
Clingy when intertwined with jealousy is one dangerous explosive combo. No one wants that. The cute type of clingy is the kind where one partner is leaving for work in the morning and the other playfully tries to make them stay.
The leech is just too much, but of course there are people who like being drained dry. Maybe not the best analogy...
I don't hate clingy people, rather I try to understand why they're like that and empathize with them for the lack of attention they were given for them to become like that.
Why is being clingy seen as such a crime?
Is it bad that you love a person so much that you want to spend all of your freetime together?
Girls that have been clingy to me have always been misleading. They were doing it to make me like them when they themselves didn't like me :S
Because most people need their space and privacy too.
I don't even know, but my ex dumped me because he says that I "care too much."
Because they are blood sucking leeches that deter the future.
Yeah I like clingy people, it just means there more committed to you and such. I am rather clingy myself, some people don't like it.
People dont like to feel smothered is all, but they also dont want to hurt your feelings.
because it inevitably gets annoying to always be yelled at when you did nothing wrong
As long as it's not some extreme thing I don't think it's so bad. You sound cute lol.
Everyone needs their privacy and space. No one likes to be smothered constantly.
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