Why is my girlfriend passive in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

She always expect that I take decisitions that both of we should be taking. Even when it´s time to have sex I got to do the first move or not she will not say a word, is like she don´t want to do nothing or she don´t want to take the iniciative.

I´m her first boyfriend and she is my first girlfriend*

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We have almost a year together*

[KaySee]

she's probably a passive person which is ok sometimes but i can see it being frustrating and hard to read. I would suggest you tell her that you genuinely want to hear her opinion. If you ask her what she wants to eat and she says i dont know. Tell her that you have chosen the last however many times and you want to hear where she wants to go. As for in the bed you can try to get her to be more vocal by asking questions. Dont interrogate her but ask her to tell you how it feels, give her things to say. Just give her a little guidance and she should loosen up some

[_ImmaClassic_]

Personally I think she is testing you. I'm 14 and that's how I behave sometimes with my sort-of boyfriend. When I am in a relationship I often play hard-to-get, and maybe she is just trying to see how "into" her you are. In the worst case scenario, fake it 'til you make it. Hope I helped!!!

[dipta]

Is sex your prime example of important 'decisions you both should be making'?
I think relationships are mostly a combination of two people's personality, so if she is being too passive is probably because that's how things were from the start and she trusts you will take action.

[Anonymous]

Some girls are raised that way, some are shy, some are kinda traditional and expect a guy to lead and make decisions, some think that's what you'd want etc. Talk to her about it (tactfully) to see what's going on.

[moviedude714]

well if you are her first then thats probably more understandable