Oh god, I'm sorry... I kind of had the same problem. My boyfriend didn't cheat but his 'close friend' would send him half naked pictures and pictures of her nipple piercings (and this girl was getting married in a couple weeks!), I had even seen them, there had been at least 4 I had seen all while he was telling me he loved me and all this stuff. One day I just exploded. I know you said you've talked to him but you have to find a way to get your point across and if he just doesn't get it then I dont think that its a healthy relationship. You need to be able to trust your partner and I think sometimes there maybe little reasons why you dont trust them but cheating, everything gets thrown out the window when someone cheats. There is never ever ever an excuse for cheating, he should have talked to you about your relationship if he was unhappy, not go running to the closes home wrecker he could find. I can't say I know how you feel but I am so sorry you had to go through that, no one deserves that no matter what the circumstances of your relationship are. I know what it was like for my best friend, her boyfriend cheated 7 times in Georgia, 9 times in Vegas, and 1 in Reno and those are the only times that we know of, please dont let it get to that point, no one is worth that. Oh and I know its probably not my place, but I dont think a cheater should have an input on how you discipline your son, only a man should help you figure that out and he has proved he's not a man but how he ran away from your relationship instead of fixing it. Good luck to you and your son, I hope your boyfriend can understand your point of view.
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Unless your guy is a professional in the psychology/counselling field, he's not really fit to provide adequate help to this girl. Don't let him use that as an excuse to spend time with her... the best thing he can do is refer her to someone working in that field.
As for what you should do with him, honestly I'd say to leave him. Cheating takes two to tango, yet he's trying to lay all the blame on her. Talk about a classic case of the pot calling the kettle black. He seems to have zero respect for who he's actually with, disregarding a valid request that he cut or at least minimize contact with the girl he has already cheated on you with..
This guy wants to have his cake and to eat it too. I agree it's a really all-around shitty situation, in the end it's your call how to best navigate it.
If i would be you, i would not be with him. He had sex with this girl and is treating her like his GF while helping her and spending a lot of time with her. Then in addition to this, she is known as a HOMEWRECKER, this would alone be good enough for me to leave, but hey? it's not the end! And after all of this HE IS STILL WANTING TO STAY IN CONTACT WITH HER, i am sorry but i just wouldn't feel comfortable in such relationship, he is treating her way too good, he definitely likes her.
I think you should break up with him. Men and women can never be friends.
Well of he did anything with her during the break up, its technically not cheating. And now, since she lives in another state, and since you have your bfs word, you don't have to worry about cheating anymore. You trust your bf don't you? But if the other persons husband was right about her ruining relationships you might want to be cautios of this girl. Maybe you should get the husband to talk to your bf about this girl, but to tell your bf that you had nothing to do with it (if he asks), because the hisband has experience with this girl, he may be able to talk some sense into your bf.
If he physically got with her, that's cheating. But I mean he might be just friends and asked her for advice.
I agree cheating is wrong though. if he did cheat, that's bad.
Could you help me pls? There's a female friend who seems to want to cheat with me. Would appreciate some advice: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1370383-is-this-flirty-female-friend-into-me-am-i-into-her-why-do-i
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It's a difficult situation.
With what happened I can see why you'd want him to cut contact with her, but with her current state I can understand why he wouldn't want to do that, escpecially sinse she is potentially suicidal.
You'll just have to stick it out. Either that or break up with him.
I'm sorry that I have to be the one to say that, I understand it isn't what you want to hearShe is but a mere percentage of the problem. The problem, as I see it, is in his consideration to leave you for her and the resultant fear and insecurity it caused you to have.
You do not trust the guy as far as you can see him. You no longer entirely trust in the feelings he says he has for you or in his ability to be a platonic friend to her, and rightfully so. So why stay?I am sorry i don't care if he cheated emotionally or physically... But he has cheated and he doesn't care about you at all as he is not ready to cut all contacts with her... which of course bothers you... which you have right to be!
I say you dump this guy.. cause you deserve a lot Better... she is like a magnet and she has got control over him.. and also seems like a phyco...
I think he is using you and you should dump himIf he is talking to another girl over text message you need to do double take on him
you need to trust your guy a little
she seems to be a friend and guys are like this with friendsShe sounds like psycho bat shit crazy person. I say just cut your losses and be done with both of them
He'll do it again. Dump him and find a man who you deserve.
In what way did he 'emotionally cheat'?
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