Would you rather sleep around, or be in a relationship?

[AleDeEurope]

So right now, in this point of your life, what would you prefer: sleep around, or be in a relationship?

Please, don't just vote, also explain why, I wanna hear people's opinion and why they chose what they chose.

Sleep Around

Rleationship

[Ozanne]

I've done my sleeping around and I've had a couple relationships, and now I'm married. I can honestly say for me, my sleeping around days were the worst. My logic was that I could just have sex and cut ties and move on to the next guy just to have fun. Wrong. Unless I got to know someone and kind of liked them enough, I was asking for trouble with many. That's where I found my stalkers and scumbags. Just having sex also left me feeling empty when the guy had no problem with disrespecting me in other ways because we had nothing else to go on other than the sex. By that I mean, insulting how I looked, criticizing how I lived my life - all things where his opinion really didn't matter, but I disliked hearing someone tell me things where the main reason was to hurt me and nothing less. Maybe they wanted more than sex? LOL

Anyway, in a relationship, that's where there was someone who I could count on, request safe sex (and if they were willing to get tested or use protection it meant they respected not just me, but himself), and be more of a companion who I enjoyed spending time with.

And almost always were the one-night stands NOT the same feelings on both sides. Many times one person feels a bit more than the other, and might makes moves to want to see the other person again or go for more and have a relationship when it's not at all what the other person wants, or they decide they really don't like the other person that much or want to be seen with them anywhere. Feelings get hurt, and vengeful shit can happen even if you think you've covered your bases.

Anyway, sorry for the long response, but I've been there, done that - and for me at least, sleeping around was only good for the experiences I have to pass along twenty years later to anyone who will listen to me that it's a bad idea. But hey, that was just me.

[AleDeEurope]

Thanks a lot for the detailed response, I was looking forward to answers like this :)

[Stacyzee]

Sleeping around is fun.

I'll use an analogy (that I love to use when discussing this topic).

Casual sex is like a snack.
It hits the spot for a while,
you even find yourself feeling full for a bit.
You eat a few to keep fuel throughout the day.
But eventually, you get hungry again (empty).
You want a meal (relationship).
You realize that in order to be contented/satisfied you have to eat healthy.

Casual sex is fun and convenient. But eventually you want to feel cared for and loved.
Those are feelings you only get while you're romantically involved with someone.

[Azara]

You can eat a bunch of snack sized means throughout the day though and that's better for absorbing nutrients and stabilizing blood sugar which is less stress on your organs also big meals put unnecessary strain on your heart compared to small means. Other than convenience there is no advantage to large means as apposed to snacking throughout the day. :p

[Stacyzee]

I didn't emphasize the size of this meal.
But we do all know if you were raising a child you wouldn't give her a snack bar throughout the day , all day.
I knew someone would try to make this confusing.

[Stacyzee]

You are speaking about a meal size which is irrelevant to this post because I made no mention of that. Please thoroughly read before responding next time, thanks.

[Hidden_P]

Relationship.

I couldn't sleep with different people all the time. I like the support and always having someone to turn to. I like the companionship.

[AleDeEurope]

I get what you're saying... I'm battling right now, not knowing what I should do, if choose relationship or just sleep around, since I've been single for years now.

[Hidden_P]

Thing is it's up to you. We can all preach the pros and cons but it's up to you and what you are after.
Me personally, I need and want support. I need to give someone love, to look after them, to make them breakfast lunch and dinner. It's something that I enjoy doing. I enjoy having someone to turn to and tell everything that happened that day. Best friends are good yes but I get to build a life with someone. And if it's the right someone, you can see go out and have fun and drink with your mates, etc etc.

[Hidden_P]

Thanks for MH!

[AleDeEurope]

Thank you for commenting :)

[I_am_repulsive]

That's cute, but if I may. The advantage of being single, sleeping around is that.
You can do whatever you like
You can date whomever you like
And you can sleep with anyone who will ever let you.

[Hidden_P]

@i_am_repulsive and that's fine if that's what you like. Personally I don't like sleeping around, it makes me feel cheap, nasty and insecure. I prefer to have a best friend with benefits if you will. But that's my choice that I've learnt through experience, it's the way I prefer to be. As I said to the asker, each to their own and do what makes you happy.

[Hidden_P]

And also, as I said to the asked, if your relationship is so stuffy that you can't do what you like and be with others, chances are it's not healthy. Now I'm not saying that makes cheating okay, obviously not, but I mean going out and getting drunk with friends or saying "bumped into someone be late home" or whatever should be acceptable if it doesn't interfere with plans overall (just the same as if you had planned to do something you wouldn't stop and chat).
I'm trying to say a good relationship only stops you from sleeping around, it shouldn't stop other aspects of life.

[I_am_repulsive]

Isn't that the same thing? Having a friend list with benefits of some sort; even best friends? Then again, at least the advantage of being in a relationship is that sex is a constant thing; like a buffet of some sort. I feel somewhat sick writing that to be honest.. but you get my point. Not only that I guess, in a relationships feelings grow, whereas sleeping around is simply objectifying women or men out there; no feelings of attachments whatsoever.

[oldanddecrepid]

I would rather be in a relationship that is built on trust and caring.

Sleeping around... you get the physical stuff out of the way, but then the person (s) you slept with could really care less if something happens to you.

I would rather be part of something where if something ever happens to me... a person that cares is there for me and vice versa.

[AleDeEurope]

Well, I've heard that sleeping around makes people feel more and more lonely, and makes them have more trouble finding love.
I slept with some random girls, but not a lot, so I didn't reach the feeling of being lonely though, but I've heard that a lot.

[oldanddecrepid]

It can... if you just have sex and never try to find someone to love, then you become a lonely person. I would rather take the chance of finding something great, rather than go through life unscathed.

[bryon]

A relationship more often than not give a sense or purpose and stability , where as the sleeping around may give variety it offers no stability and little or no meaning and serves little purpose other than sex and the chance of a STD

[AleDeEurope]

I agree with you Gollum, or would you rather be called Smeagol? xD

[bryon]

My precious !!

[bryon]

I got to watch the 5 armies last night. Awesome !!

[AleDeEurope]

Oh yeah, it was great!

[__berthaa]

my opinion would be to be in a relationship and be committed just to that one person why? well because I think sleeping around is really sick. I don't even plan on doing that , why? because I mean people can go sleep around and think its fun but at the of the day they can get affections and then when they decide to actually be in a relationship , poor to the other person right and how they are going to feel. So this why id just be in a relationship

[Azara]

If I were single... Casual dating see where it goes.

True me and my bf gig j to a relationship first time I asked him out/ to be my bf, but we'd already been friends and interested did a year so in that then it's like darning without any benefits of.

Ideally date a few months then decide if you want to move if forward or just let it play out.

[princessmethteeth]

It all depends on the the relationship. Being in a relationship for relationships sake sounds fucking horrible. Sleeping around is OK but not ideal...

[AleDeEurope]

So what would be your ideal?

[princessmethteeth]

A deeply entangled emotional relationship with an fucking amazing woman. lol

[sammy_31]

Relationship relationship relationship. I never desired to sleep around, I prefer to be with one guy and give him my all then to be spreading a little of me to different guys.

[Prettygurl12]

Relationship.

I find sleeping around to be rather disgusting. Also, I am looking for a spouse. You don't find spouse material men by sleeping around.

[musicbrain5]

I'd rather be in a relationship. Sleeping around is kind of gross to me and it's also incredibly risky.

[lierma]

I would rather be in a relationship, because over time what you need isn`t found in sleeping around. You are able to be comfortable in knowing that your partner respects and treasures you, supports you in your goals and dreams, and knows how to please you in bed as well.

[muspelhem_5]

I would rather screw around. Sleeping can be done at home.

[AleDeEurope]

Why? You can have sex with a girl you feel a connection with, and you will most likely be having sex more while in a relationship than when single.

[muspelhem_5]

I just want to explore atm. But sure, if someone blew my socks off, I might settle down.

[Tonymoulls]

relationship, something about the connection between you and your partner that just means so much more! Plus you can have sex and not have to worry about catching anything!

[singlebee]

Well i rather be in a relationship... It's can be very fulfilling... Just sex can be a little boring...

But as for right now i am single and not really looking for a gf, i dont mind a couple of one nights...

[selfishstars]

I prefer relationships, but casual sex can be enjoyable if I'm single.

[Minamay]

I would love to have someone that chooeses me over casual sex so I choose that too :)
Always do to others what you want others to do to you

[DodgersGM]

Definitely relationship.

Sleeping around doesn't sound fulfilling to me at all, both sexually and emotionally.

[wonderwoman32]

definitely a relationship.. I want it to be valued and meaningful... I can't even stand the idea of sleeping around its so not worth it.

[menina]

I'd rather be in a relationship. Sleeping around is not my thing and I would feel better with myself if I were in a relationship.

[DesiDoo]

I'm looking for something serious that doesn't even involve sex at the moment

[Anonymous]

I'd rather be in a relationship. I find sleeping around as just settling for just about anything when you know clearly that you deserve better. I'd rather be in a real committed relationship.

[Anonymous]

I was sleeping around. Then I met my friends with benefits . Now im even a little tired of my friends with benefits situation so I would say relationship.

[existing_not_living]

Relationship. I don't do one night stands. I only want to have sex with someone I'm in love with.

[meatballs21]

I've done my time in relationships for now. Now I just want to meet new people and see where it goes.