Well the best way to handle this is to be mature about it.
If it did hurt you and upset you just let him know flatly that "I was hurt when you said your ex was prettier. But I know that wasn't your intention."
Avoid blaming him or accusing him.
This will let him know to either avoid these questions with you, which in the future you should respect, or to understand that you are seeking affirmation in the relationship that you are desirable and thus to boost your confidence in these scenarios.
In reality he was just being honest, which is a good thing. Don't encourage him to lie to you.
Honestly it's a good sign that he didn't feed you some lie.
You may not be the prettiest woman in the world, but you're the most desirable woman in the world to him.
That's what's important.
If he can show empathy and put himself in your shoes, he's a good man. If he's struggling, help him understand why the comment upset you.
Once again, avoid blame or accusations.
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Why do you ask something you can't handle knowing?
Asking your boyfriend to rate you? How desperate is that.
He even say you're the prettiest one he's dated and you kept pushing the topic, for what? A constant ego boost.
I feel like its normal to think other woman are beautiful but I don't think its normal or healthy for your boyfriend to be comparing you to other women, especially his ex's. If there his exes then I don't see how he even would still find them attractive, at least not more attractive then his girlfriend. When I break up with someone I lose all attraction to them, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I might could say that they were cute and what not but I could never see them to be more attractive then who I'm currently in love with. I think it's more normal for him to give a compliment to women he doesn't actually know or at least someone he hasn't slept with. But still, he shouldn't be comparing you because all women look completely different and just because a woman who looks nothing like you is beautiful doesn't mean the way you look is any less beautiful. He sounds like an insensitive superficial guy who hasn't grown up yet.
He's an inconsiderate, emotionally intelligent dumb azz. -_- That was f*cked up.
I'd leave a guy if he said that to me. Not only because it's a hurtful comment but due to the ripple effect of words. That comment is going to hurt your self-esteem for who knows how long. Then the result of that hurt self-esteem may cause you to lash out at him, be suspicious of him, feel insecure when you guys are supposed to be on a date, at the beach, or enjoying your time in public together. Not only that, but it's a reflection of his piss poor level of emotional intelligence. That's a nasty, rude comment and only an emotionally unaware dumb ass would think it's okay to voice something like that.
You're nice. If I were you, I'd ignore him for a week without saying anything to him at all/letting him text and call me with no reply them dump him.
I think he was just trying to be honest. I think it was one of those moments he opened his mouth before he thought.
So what if she was? He could have dated Beyoncé but if they had nothing in common they wouldn't have worked. There are plenty of people who aren't the best in relationships. Most people try to date people on their level or slightly above (attractiveness wise). If one person dates too high a mix of things can happen: insecurity, self defence, lack of trust and with some people, abuse. Now it's not a given, but, by dating within your attractive boundaries you generally feel more confident with that person and others.
So what I'm saying is don't beat yourself up. They didn't work out, and I'm willing to bet your boyfriend isn't next top model material himself.
Good luck
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I think you both have some issues to address. When you ask you're SO to rate your appearance you're either asking him to lie to you are you're REALLY confident and don't really need his validation.
He was probably being too honest/blunt with you. Look, you know you're insecure yet you put him in a situation where the best thing he could do was to lie to you. Is that really better?
What i read was... your worth to him isn't entirely based your looks. I mean this other girl was supposedly prettier than you but she wasn't "good enough" to continue to date her. He's with you now, not her and it was his choice.This is a case of girls wanting honesty, but not being able to handle it. Also, the fat that girls simply can't be happy.
He said you're one of the prettiest girls he ever dated. Why dig deeper? If a girl said that to me, I'd be flattered. Now I might ask what you did out of general curiosity, but I'd still be happy with it.
You managed to turn a compliment into an insult. Also, don't worry about the whole rating thing and the height comment, he was joking. Like he was honest and meant it, but overall he doesn't give a fuck so he just threw it out there,This... this is what I think of when I start thinking I might want to date again.
GIRLFRIEND: Do you think I'm pretty?
ME: Of course. You're the most beautiful woman in the world.
GIRLFRIEND: Rate me.
ME: (Ugh) The most beautiful woman in the world is obviously a 10.
GIRLFRIEND: You're lying. You don't really think I'm pretty. I thinkWould you rather he lied?
Don't be insecure. He told you you're an 8. He doesn't find you unattractive. There will always be someone prettier than you but that doesn't mean he's going to run off to them as soon as he gets the chance. He told you his deal: he likes pretty girls but if he doesn't click with them he'll end things. Is he ending things with you?He could have 1) been completely honest which hurts but honesty is good or 2) lied about it to create insecurity in order to create in inferiority complex. Either way you shouldn't take it as bad and self loath because I have said that to an ex before and didn't mean anything negative about it.
I don't understand why he'd say that. I always try to build up my gf's self esteem not bring it down and hurt her feelings. Girls never want to be compared to your ex unless you say how much better she is than your ex
He probably didn't think much of it, considering physical appearance isn't one's primary value that defines them, and also if she was prettier then she was prettier, he is still dating you so whatev'
maybe he did not realise that he has hurt you. but it is best that you make it abundantly clear that it has, and make sure he doesn't do it again
but i believe it was unintentionalHe's honest, and in love it shouldn't have to be you the most beautiful person in the world... it's not about face, it is about feelings, maybe you're that kind of girls wants to get complements all the time
Men don't take little comments to heart as much as women do. He's just inexperienced and has a lot to learn about the mental fragility of some women.
Hard to say without knowing him, but guys play games just like girls. He may want you to feel insecure, thus trying harder to impress him, giving you the illusion that he is the ultimate prize.
He shouldn't, if he cared that much about you he would see you as the most beautiful person. I tell my girlfriend that she is too me (People have try to knock her on her looks).
So women can say that their ex was more attractive but not guys okay fuck logic I guess
Women need honesty they just can't handle it.
what a fuking asshole
and she dumped him then she is smarter too :)
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