Guys, I need some advice on my relationship/future of my relationship. Some clarity, from a mans point of view. Please help me understand?

princesspeachchi
My BF & I have been together for 9 years (we are both 28) & we live together (6 yrs). We have been through a lot (family issues, moving 4 hours from our hometown to further pursue our careers, him going to back to college while I supported both of us, illnesses, etc). We share finances, rent an apartment together. We don't split things 50/50 or anything. We share bank account & our each others co-signers on loans, credit cards, etc. He is a writer & is focusing on that right now - which means we live on my income alone. Our relationship is GREAT. I love him with my whole heart & can’t see myself with anyone else but I have made it VERY clear from the day we started dating that marriage & children were something that I wanted, eventually (He agreed).
9 years into our relationship & now into our late 20's, I want to have that eventually be now, so that in our 30's we can start having kids. I have told him this. We started "ring shopping" 6 (SIX!!) years ago. We always seem to go ring shopping on/near our anniversary or around other holidays (his idea, not mine - which this year, if he brings that up, I am refusing to go look at something that I have looked at a million times & have already picked out). He talks about what he wants for a wedding, etc. BUT whenever I bring up getting engaged or going to the courthouse to get married, he gets upset. Telling me that I need to stop worrying about it. Now, lets be honest - I will be paying for a majority of my ring - which is only $500 & I am OK with this. His career could take another 10-15 years to "take off". I am just wondering why he does this to me? He knows that I want a marriage (which we practically have - so why not go to the court house & make this legal?) Why take me to look at rings for 6 flipping years? His he just stringing me along? We are planning on making a huge cross country move in the fall & my father has expressed his concern about this. Thoughts? Am I being too pushy? Even after 9 yrs?
Guys, I need some advice on my relationship/future of my relationship. Some clarity, from a mans point of view. Please help me understand?
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