I told my girlfriend that I love her and she did not say it back. Should I be worried?

[dream]

I told my girlfriend that I love her and she did not say it back. Should I be worried?

[A-Soldiers-Wife07]

I wouldn't be. When me and my husband were dating he said it about a month before I did. I told him that I was falling in love with him, but I wasn't quite there yet. And he wasn't hurt by it. He said he was in love with me, but understands if it takes me a little longer to get there. Just because one person is already in love doesn't mean the other person has to be at the same spot, and it doesn't mean that the other person doesn't have strong feelings either. We're all different people and we all take our own time (or should) at deciding if we're in love or not.

[Deeplove55]

Well, if she's been saying I love you but just didn't that once, no don't worry about it. she just didt say it that one time subconsciencely but if she's never said it back to you then be worried for 2 reasons:

She's scared to cause she's not sure of her feelings yet or

She just doesn't love you

Time will tell. Ask her y she never does and if her response is I don't know y or just not a good ans, then its probably one of those 2 above

[tkd-chika]

I wouldn't be worried. Sometimes people think things move too fast or just don't know what to say at the time if she knew you truly meant it. lol I've done that to a guy before and when he left I felt like an ass and I wished I would have said it back, so no worries maybe your girlfriend thought the same

[lostomantic1987]

no, sometimes people need take in such a pwerful set of words, its possible you feel it and she doesn't which yea isn't the picture perfect sceanrio we all dream to have when we say it but saying it lets her know where your heart and mind is at. If she has any feeling for you she is going to tell you how she feels and where she is at, if she says she doesn't love you yet don't fear, if she doesn't run and stays with you it just means be patient and don't say love again until she does , because she knows how you feel wait for her to tell you how she feels.

[ionlife]

Run for the hills!

Just kidding.

Love should be offered unconditionally. I may be wrong but my gut feeling is that you may have said it with the expectation that she will express it at that moment to you as well which isn't right.

Many times a relationship develops at two different paces for the individuals. One falls quicker in love while the other needs to have some time to come to grips with it. Whatever the case, if you are both comfortable in the relationship and happy, don't put too much emphasis on words.

[dakadan]

NO! Don't force her to be in a place she isn't. When you say you love her and expect something back you are really not telling her you love her because you do (although you might love her). You are really looking for a confirmation of an insecurity. My wife and I regularly tell each other we lover each other, but rarely as a response to the other person. I tell my wife I love her because I do lover her and when she tell me I take it in and enjoy it for what it is.

[Doyle]

I don't think you should be worried. Sometimes it doesn't need to be said. If you tell her you love her and she looks in your eyes and maybe squeezes your hand it could mean she feels the same. Or maybe just giving you a slight hug and looking at you could mean that she feels the same

[chocolate-lover]

no you shouldn't be worried at all.

the girl might be shy to tell you bluntly "I love you".

the more you feel the word, the less likely you would say it "easily".

make sure she is feeling secure with you, and that she don't feel you are just playing, or spending sometime with her.

GOOD LUCK =)

[nobodys-angel911]

I don't think you should be worried that much...I mean once my boyfriend told me that and I felt the exact same way but I was too afraid to say it I don't know you though...it took me a while to say it back

[lorli-august]

First time a guy told me that I couldn't respond for several months. Unfortunately, I just felt pressured to lie to save the relationship. There was too much stress on a couple of words.

[rosynante]

If she isn't acting differently towards you now, you shouldn't be worried necessarily, just be cautious until she is ready to say it back. You don't want to freak her out.

[Romanticguy1988]

More than a year ago . . . Oh well gonna still answer ^_^

Do not be worried about it. . . You are a real man because it was you who said it first!

Keep it strong bro!

[hickeyn]

No don't be worried maybe she just isn't ready to make that commitment, if it is bothering you that much just talk to her about it, and trust me you would rather her say it and mean it rather than saying it and not meaning it so just talk to her and see, or just wait she may need time

[jaclynjune16]

it seems to me that you are moving a little to fast. moving slower will take the relationship back on track.

[HALLEloveesYOU]

no.not yet she may just be thinking about whether she loves you too and for some girls its harder to understand

[DivaGirly19]

no you shouldnt sometimes girls are scared to express thier feelings.

[ladygothicka]

No, maybe she doesn't know if she loves you yet. It depends how long you've been together.

[Anonymous]

Do not be worried. My boyfriend was the first to say it. It took me a few more months to say it back. I wanted to be sure I felt the same and could truly trust him with my heart. As a girl, it is not something I say lightly.

[chocolate-lover]

100% agree =)

[Scrimz21]

be worried but you might be over exagerting. she probably still loves you!

[xo-natalie-x3]

It depends on how long you've been going out. Maybe she didn't think you sincerely meant it, with all your heart.