Why does my boyfriend always throw the past in my face? I don't know what to do
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years..i was 14 when we started dating and he was 19. We have lived together from the very beginning. Our relationship wasn’t the greatest, it has had a lot of ups and downs…and we have always worked through it. for the past while it has seemed like everything was finally looking for the better…until he started throwing the past in my face..what I mean is people I’ve slept with before him, he throws those guys in my face..it hurts like hell considering I hate every guy I slept with before him now..and in the end its always the same story “im sorry, I’ll quit, I won't do it again” and I always forgive him..we are engaged, planning to get married someday..so why the hell are we having these stupid immature fights? I don’t want to go through this anymore..but its hard to leave him over such a small thing and its hard to leave him because I'm so used of him, and I'm scared to leave him because we’ve been together for so long..advice? I love him, he’s my best friend..and our relationship is great besides this problem..we always have so much fun together I guess I don’t want to leave him but I have no idea how else to fix this problem.!
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look if things are this bad, you need a break. He's not the best guy ever for you if he won't leave the past alone. look ima open up a bit and maybe you won't care maybe you will. I just got out of a relationship say 2 months ago I was with his for almost 2 years and he was my first. I dated many guys before him and did plenty with them too never naked nothing. he was my first in all that category. I cheated on him in the first month and we got past it. he always brought it up never let it go. I tried to understand but if he got back with me knowing what I had done, he shouldve let it go. our relationship ended really bad. too bad ;( my best friend, my everything is now my worst enemy. I stilll love him and it really hurts but I know its donewith. the guy I've been talking to is amazing weve been friends for about 4 months now going out, having sex all that. my family loves him, his loves me. I can't seem to give him my all , my everything and he truly respects me. never has he brought up the past. my past. he's kind of clean. point is he loves me for me. the past to him doesn't count and won't count. he knows most of it but never asked. I never thought id find someone like him especially coming out of such a bad relationship. and now I'm truly in love regreting giving my exboyfriend my everything :( point is: you probably don't think you'll find anything better because you're so used to him so in love with him but trust me I know you're not happy and you'll find something better. foreal you're better off alone than with bad company.
What Guys Said 3
I was 14 when we started dating ""what I mean is people I've slept with before him, he throws those guys in my face."That can't be a great number thus.He just uses any argument he can find to get the upper hand in a discussion. Either he feels inferior in a discussion or he is just mean.
The real question is WHY is he bringing up the past? I mean, something must trigger it like nagging or a fight of some sort? Is the past the card he always plays when he gets in trouble?
ya I don't like him, he sounds insensitive and an asshole, I get annoyed when my girlfriend says no but I don't go tell her to f*ck some other guy cuase of it, I think you guys should break up and see what else is out there cause you met him when you were so young, do you not wonder what else is out there? you probably don't even know how a lot of adults date other then the ones you have been on with him cause your past relationships you were a preteen
What Girls Said 2
well I don't recomend leaving him since you guys could definatley be soulmates. but next time when he brings it up you should yell at him and tell him that if he doesn't stop you would leave him adn that it really hurts your feelings when he brings up the past and tell him you never do it to him so it shouldnt matter.
My boyfriend always brings up my past and promiscuity from before we met and says I have no right to be mad. But if I bring up his four year relationship that almost entered into an engagement, I'm out of line. Men just get like that. I tell mine that he needs to stop doing this or that because it's taking it's toll on the relationship and he'll tell me it's me that's doing everything, etc.