I think he likes me but he has a girlfriend!

[moonlightromance]

he started talking to me first and kept being really nice and asked me a lot of questions about myself. he even stares at me a lot and his friends will stare and smile at me. he offered to take my paper and strikes up conversations and everything. he even flirts with me. so I brought up his girlfriend. he said they'd been dating for 5 months and was acting like his girl friend annoyed him. I said they made a cute couple and said it was cute that they were dating and he sarcastically said "yeah..its SO awesome" and rolled his eyes. he kept saying that she had his balls in grip after 3 days of dating her. I'm not sure if he's happy with her but I think he likes me. help me. give me advice.

[Anonymous]

I'm in a similar situation, only from the guy's POV.

I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months, but I'm not happy. Why? Because she's dishonest and manipulative. She's the type of girl who tries to be the perfect girlfriend, pretends to love sex, pretends to love the guy, while sliding in innuendos and "hints" about marriage, while trying to get close with the guy's friends and family, and become so intertwined in his life; that marriage is but a formality.

A big part of me wants to just be dispassionate and dump her, strait up, cold and heartless. But an other part of me, is human. That although her being dumped is inevitable, it should be done with some kind of transition; so it's emotionally easier on her.

But what happens when (the guy) is "technically" in a relationship with someone else, but not really? What happens when he's within those 3-4 months of slowly creating emotional distance and breaking off those intimate bonds with his girlfriend so he can more smoothly transition into a break-up?

To him, he's not really seeing anyone else. I have a girl in my class who looks at me constantly and lets me know that she's interested with her eyes. But at the same time, she knows I have a girlfriend. And I (the guy) find myself in a tough situation. It feels awkward.

It's more awkward being the guy with the girlfriend talking to an other girl, than it is to be the other girl talking to the guy with a girlfriend (of which he's communicated he's not happy with).

Unfortunately, after 3-4 months, when I'm single; me and this girl will just be friends. And that's the same situation you're going to find yourself in too if you expect him to do anything more. He's already done more than enough.

If you're interested in him, now it's your turn to communicate that to him.

[martyfellow]

Sounds just like a married man flirting with a single woman. Watch out, he may just be handing you a line..just looking for a quick affair with no strings. Unless that's what you want!

[LaDiabla13]

Would you want to be with a guy that would cheat on his girl for you? Don't get jazzed because he shows you attention. What do you think is going to happen when you get that? He going to turn around and do the same thing to you.

I oughta know. I've dated an attached man, easiest way in the world to get your feelings hurt.

[TornApart]

stay away from those... if he does like you, and leaves his girlfriend for you. he may cheat on another girl while he is with you. don't think about it, and try your best to not think about him. because you may get hurt in the long run...

harsh I know... but you don't want your heart broken.

[bluersunshine]

Leave him alone. You do not want to be the relationship wrecker. If he likes you, he should break up with this girl, who he's only just started seeing. If he treats her like this anyway, how will he treat you?

[Curiouskevin]

A lot of guys talk about their spouses like this to see if a woman might be interested in them..It's very likely their relationship is really fine, so don't fall for this!

[Anonymous]

What martyfellow said...

You shouldn't get involved with people who are already in relationships, that's just a huge red flag.

[Anonymous]

If you really like them break them up if angelina got brad then why not you