My boyfriend is an athlete, what do I say to him after his team loses a game?
It's not the type of situation where you could say "Be a man, get over it" because it's basically his livelihood. So I just need advice/pointers from people who have been in this situation on what would be encouraging for him to hear? Serious answers please :) Thank you thank you!
My girlfriend is an opera singer. It's her life. It's what she lives for. Sometimes after a performance, she will be devastated because she missed a part or pronounced something wrong. She's a perfectionist. What you have to do is just show your support. Show him that despite the loss, he still has people in his life that love him no matter what. Give him a big hug and try to calm him. His mind is going to be racing with, "I should have done this, we could have done that", type stuff. Show him the care and affection that he needs from his girlfriend. He is going to be grumpy and frustrated, but just let it go. Don't lash out at him. That will only cause more problems. Tell him not to worry about it, there will always be another opportunity for him/ his team to prove himself/themselves. Do what you can to get his focus away from the game. I hope that this helps!
I'm an athlete myself and I'll admit if I lose a game sometimes I'll just not be in the mood to say anything.
I have acted like an idiot a couple of times and just went off on my girlfriend because she called me up and wanted to talk but that's not because of her that's just because I'm mad in general for loosing.
Just make it be known that you are here for us or how much better you can make us feel if you were around.
To be blunt, a BJ usually solves all problems.
I'm a coach, an ex-swim captain, and a swimmer of 13 years. What I always tell myself and anyone else when they lose is that you can't win every game meet, or race, there might always be someone better than you. The only thing you can personally do is leave your all in the pool (or on the field), if you didn't do that than you have a right to be upset, and use that emotion (fear, anger, rage, sadness, etc) to motivate yourself for the future (if this is the case, leave them be to think on that). If you left your all in the pool or on the field, then you can do nothing but raise your chin up and be proud of yourself and your performance and know that true success comes only to an individual by self-satisfaction in knowing that you gave everything to become the very best that you are capable of.
Commiserate and let him cool off for a bit. If you feel you need to say something, you could go with "Don't be too hard on yourself, you guys played well" or something like that. It's tough to come up with something that won't make him feel worse, so not saying much is probably better. Anyway, after I think a hug and/or kiss, plus maybe a nice dinner for the both of you, would help him relax. Good luck :)
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Just think about what the coaches would say and what number one fans would say.
say something from the two or a mixture of the two, and then add something that’s more ‘You.’
That way he will actually be encouraged, and then he will see his girlfriend who loves him.
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You should act as though he is the most famous athlete out there, who is in no need of sympathy from anyone when he loses, as he's so used to winning. For example, say something like 'you win some, you lose some', and shrug your shoulders.
Nothing simply be present. Some loses are tougher than other such as twice in final four soccer...
Having played streetball most my life, and not losing very frequently, I remember losing a 1v1 basketball game in front of my girlfriend (now ex, sadly), It was a mix of emotions, one part being upset I lost the game, frustrated that my work didn't pay off; the second part being this childish need to make her proud of how good I was. Instead I had to be comforted by her after the loss; which, to be honest, made it feel worse haha. It was because if it's something I'm seriously competitive about, I'm already telling myself nothing is going to feel right until I beat that same person, or have beaten enough people to amend that loss- maybe so I forget about the loss and can safely say it was a fluke. That's why I agree when others say "there really isn't anything you can say to fix it", but beyond fixing, there's always what you can do to move forward..
Best two options I can put out there is as such.
1. If it's a minor game or a small match
Leave it alone, he can handle the loss alone and work hard to make a comeback. Ask him about if he's been practicing, check up on him and see how he's doing? You're his girlfriend, not his coach, so don't sweat the motivational speeches or bad cop act, just keep going like normal.
2. If it's a BIG game, something that impacts his future or his larger aspirations
Make sure to be there for him through this kind of thing if you really love him. If he seems like he's ready to give up or is down in the dumps, ask him to play that sport with you, I think that's always pretty theraputic, playing the sport you love with the person you love tends to disassociate any negative emotions you felt towards it. It might pick him back up so he becomes reinvigorated in his craft and try to play his hardest to overcome the problem. Whatever the circumstance, don't put your own wants and needs first, make sure to see what he wants and reassure him that you support him in what he is pursuing! Don't comfort him as if all hope is lost, empower him to not give up! Best of Luck. That is unfortunately the best advice I can offer from where I'm standing haha as I'm unfamiliar with the details of the situation!
-(No homo)...Tell him he looked sexy out there, that he turned you on with his swagger and gait and sportsmanship
-Tell him that he deserves a back rub, foot rub, and a whatever else rub you can think of
-Tell him that he's a champion in the bed room, that he can have his victory over you and at the end of the night, tell him that he...scored...real well
-Tell him the referee is a douche bag
-That sometimes even the greatest of winners lose competitions sometimes. Some famous celebrities have lost Star Search, but look at them now.
-If all that fails kick him in the nads and tell him to stop whining.
Tell him...
When I see you going up and down the court, sweat glistening off your muscular body, I started to get wet. It made me thing of that one day when you... (add a steamy memory of him and you together when he was sweating). I am glad I have a bit of self control otherwise I would have ran over to you during a time out, ripped your shirt, bit your ear lobe and told you to take me now in the locker room. But the more I thought about it on the ride home, it made my clit throb for you.
I'm sure his mind will be off his sport and onto more personal things. Hope that works.
Some men might not want to talk to others after facing a loss, and if you notice that reaction from him, I'd probably wouldn't have a long talk with him. Instead of talking much, I'd just (do) stuff for him that might help with or that would usually stess him out doing on his own. Ex: while he's in an upset mood, you can buy him food he planned on homemaking or buying himself, neatly fix up his room if all messy, and if you want to, help run some of his errands, if he has some. Anything that may give him some stress, or that he may not feel moody to do, I'd do for him as care. So you can help him maybe even without talking, by just removing some of the extra other loads of work he might have on him that day. But for me, I'd do that and also pray
Mostly us men would not be able to do anything just spend our days in the room over something happened to us whether us losing a game or being humiliated. See that is how masculine works. You should let him be himself for a couple of days then everything's gonna be alright again. Like me. I couldn't get over the break-up two weeks ago EVEN THOUGH I was the one to dump that girl because she told me lies. I'd sit in my dorm bed alone putting on my inner ears and crying. But now ahh I am happy to smile again.
I don't know if it could help you, but in my case saying cute stuff (no matter how dumb or dorky it might sound) helps, like
"don't worry! You'll always be the winner of my heart", or
"you might have not scored now but you'll always score it with me 😉"
This one might be profession sensitive but you could adapt it "you'll always k. o. my heart, baby" (my boyfriend is going towards a MMA fighter profession, so that one is really case sensitive)
You could also be there for him when something happens. Sometimes words don't suffice a loss but just being there for him, offering silent comfort helps (like just buying/making his favorite food, or watching something together in silence, being there in practices or matches if possible help too)
Just make him feel better and don't give him a hard time, he already feel likes sh*t. Give him encouragement to train even harder, tell him you believe in him and that you think he has the potential to be one of the best. Also if you watched the match and know a lot about the sport tell him what you felt were his strengths and compliment him on it.
Actions speek louder than words.
Next time his team loses you should sleep with 2 or 3 members of the other team. Show him he is the lesser man for losing. Also you should encourage the other team members girlfriends to do the samething. Soon you're boyfriend will learn that lossing has real life consequences and will be a wild animal when he next takes to the field.
He will thank you later in life when he is the CO of a large company.
Why say anything besides "Better luck next time!" and let him deal with the rest himself. You can't possibly believe you're going to be the emotional rock he needs with that kind of reassurance. Hugs and kisses and non-verbal communication will mean so much more.
The best thing is to not say anything. I remember how I felt when I played football and we'd lose a game, and honestly there's nothing to say that wouldn't be overtly offensive (like "be a man; get over it") or patronizing, so just don't say anything and if he wants space, give him some.
a There is nothing wrong with sympathizing with your boyfriend after his team loses a game, but try to avoid sounding too negative. It is important to remember that his team's loss is not a reflection on his character or worth as a person. You might say something like, "I'm sorry your team lost, but I know you're a good person and I still love you." or "I'm sorry that you're feeling down, but I'm here for you."
Just act really sad and be like "I'm sorry". Then leave him alone. Men need to brood. After he gets over it a bit he will come to you and say something or give you a hug or whatever and at that point just be super nice and offer him some food/sex/massage/etc.
The main thing is, you don't have to say much. Just be sure to be empathetic and don't try to cheer him up. Make sure to act really down, it will help him get over it faster because then he'll want to cheer you up haha.
keep believing and never give up ! what you do is who you are. When you lose it doesn't mean you're a nobody it means you're my hero to my heart. Being the greatest is all about practice, without practice there is no greatest and the greatest is a hero and that hero is somebody who lies inside of you; which is you need to find who you are and work hard to be that one champion person.
I hope that helps.
I'd say comfort him, like hugging him or putting your head on his shoulder...stuff like that. But just like guys have said, we really don't have anything to say and don't want to say anything. So I guess let time pass and let his "battle wounds" heal.
Tell him its just a game and even the best players of all sports have sh*tty days without a doubt...all of em pitchers, qbs...its human nature to have bad days. then gave him a soft kiss and tell him ull love him even if he's worest player ont he the teamm...then get busy him with...hahahahah
Well, if you keep insisting on "it's OK , you'll win next time" or "You did great, it's just a bad luck" you'll harm his ego because he'll think you find him pathetic and just trying to lift up his mood. Guys are leaders and like challenges so respect that so you win him. Just be there, give him a kiss & give him a warm hug ..a kind smile. Just be supportive by your presence ;)
Well if I were a pro athlete, I think id want my girlfriend to be a release from the sport so I wouldn't talk about it too much. Its probably swimming around in his head most of the time so you can be a welcome break by talking about completely unrelated stuff
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