I'm kinda amazed you waited so long actually...
I like to bring up exclusivity as soon as we're having regular sex. Not because I need her to be my girlfriend, but because I want my sex life to be as clean as possible... no unexpected outside partners and std's and stuff.
So I say something like this (not during sex...): Hey Susie, now that we're having regular sex I think we should express our expectations from each other... simply because I want to keep our sex life STD free, if you know what I mean. Soooo... I don't NEED us to be exclusive, but I'd prefer if neither of us were having sex with other people. To be honest I'm not going to be dating anyone else while I'm sating you anyways but I'd like to know where you're at with it.
If I'm comfortable enough to be having sex with you then I'm definitely comfortable enough to be open and honest about my expectations.
She might have a different idea as to where we should be, and I am always open to discussing it.
I bet if you take the same approach you'll be fine.
Besides... if you scare him off by having an honest conversation about your relationship expectations then perhaps he's not good enough for you any ways. Right?
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I don't think its too soon. If he isn't ready, he can say so. If the mere idea you want that scares him off, it wasn't going to happen, ever.
It's never okay for a girl to bring up exclusivity. You should let him take the lead and be the man. I know it's hard and obviously you care about him a lot. If you want to stir the pot the next time he asks you out, tell him you made other plans. You don't have to lie and say that you went out with another guy. Just seem mysterious and don't give too many details about what you're doing. If he really cares about you he will wonder and ask you to be his girlfriend.
If you want to risk it by bringing it up then go ahead. What is even worst is that he may agree to not hurt your feelings but he will feel like he got it easy and he didn't have to work for it. Let him work for it girl! Let him be uncomfortable with the thought of sharing you with other guys. Trust me. Be patient.
your feelings are equally important to his. two months is certainly not too soon. especially for the time spent together. bring it up, you have every right to and I think he can respect that.
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Personally going from two key things you put down in writing
A: he's very busy and he always wants you to stay
B:Hes making you breakfast in the morning
All you will be doing is confirming pretty much how he's feeling anyway.
A guy will generally just assume your an item if stuff like that's going down, but if it will make you feel better to broach the subject, yeah by all means ,but sounds to me like not much has to be said.WAYYYYYYY too early. If he's that busy, he isn't dating anyone else. If you're a cool chick (and I'll bet you are), he's already loyal to you. We love ease and comfort. Doing the "where is ths going" will only pressure him to please you, then he'll resent it and will pull away.
He digs you. Don't f*** it up.Great question!
You say you've been dating for 2 months. How long have you been having sex? And how long have you been staying over? On the weekends is a date assumed or do you two still have to set it up? And do you think (or know) he's seeing other women or are you just assuming he might be?
In terms of timing, I'd say if you've been having sex for awhile, you can certainly ask about exclusivity. He may not bring it up so if it's important to you, you should ask.2 months is good enough. It's not like you're asking to bear his children or anything.
Go for it.Rofl 2 months? You should of sealed the deal like a month ago.
no it's perfectly fine
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