Should I ask out a married woman?

[kriskiss]

OK so there is this Asian woman in my neighborhood who walks in the morning doing her exercises and also works in a nearby restaurant. She always smiles big time at me, gets red in the face, and flirts with me. When I go in to buy food she always chats me up, charges me less than I am suppose to pay saying don't worry about extra dollar or so.

She has a daughter and one time when she walked by my house I asked her if she was married and she said yes and quickly changed the subject. For x mas she got me a little cute gift and we just chit chatted this has been going on and off for about a year. Sometimes I get the feeling she is getting annoyed I have not asked her out. I would but she's married...I think I will anyway though. It's very clear she likes me and when we are talking and I am wearing a tank top with jeans she makes it clear she's checking me out and gets red in the face.

So how should I ask her out knowing she is married and where should I take her. Should I just tell her I like her and just want to hook up since she's married---whats the best way to go about it?

[noobseaplenty]

Here are some rules for dating married women 1. Avoid falling in love or confessing your feelings, make it clear that it is just about sex 2. Be really, REALLY discreet for both your sakes (the woman will usually be very good at doing this on her own, but do your part too, avoid calling her randomly bla bla bla, common sense)

To ask her out, just get a good conversation going and then say something like "hey, what would you say about doing X with me sometime?" X will depend on your situation, maybe it's inviting her in for coffee, maybe going for a drive somewhere

[KERMlT]

Ask her when her next day off is and if she would mind if you take her out on a date. The first date should be casual, you just want to get to know her. A stroll around a lake, or ice skating, etc. You can ask her what is her favorite food and then go eat.

If you just want someone to hook up with, I wouldn't lead her on about it. She may just want to feel wanted again. To be appreciated, loved. She may just want to know she is attractive.

[moniquinha]

I wouldn't go there dude. Being married myself, I'll say that sometimes we will casually flirt with men because it tends to get our juices flowing when the heat has died down some in our marriage. Flirting is harmless unless you have plans to act on it.

Sometimes it's nice to know that another man finds us attractive and would be interested in us. I think its fine to keep the casual flirtation going and even use it as a fantasy, but honestly asking out a married woman is kind of sleazy.

[lustful1]

NO NO NO NO, she has her own life and she's found her one wait till you find your own, how would you feel if someone asked out your wife if you had one

[sal-star]

Shes married you can't have her its called illegal and an affair sorry but find someone single.

[NotSoBad]

Yes, but then don't show up to the date because her husband may be waiting there with an axe.

[Anonymous]

No, never ask out a married women. That's not right.