Should I get mad at my boyfriend for smoking with another girl?

[Kirbycinderella]

Okay, well for starters I'm Kirby and my boyfriends name is Peter. Peter plays hockey and is just the most perfect guy I've ever had. He's 19 almost 20 and I'm 17 almost 18. Now, we both smoke... Weed, ciggs, hookah ya know? The usual.
I had some really bad past relationships and have been cheated on too many times to count. I'm trying (and so far been successfull) to not be mistrusting and jealous of girls around Peter because of my past.

Well, a few nights ago we went to drop off bud at a girls house and she let it slip that they smoked the previous day without me. He never ever mentioned this to me and I heard it from her. Then the next night he called me and was like hey I'm going to smoke with amber I'll be at your house later then instead he went to Chris's house.

So, do I have a right to be jealous? Should I talk to him about it?
Thanks so much
~Kirby

[Distant]

You never have a "right" to be jealous. I smoke with my female friends all of the time. My girlfriend doesn't have anything to worry about when I do. You're most likely just insecure. Ask your boyfriend why you're never invited, if it bothers you.

[PANDAmonium]

If you have a problem with him you should talk to him. Communication is key in a healthy relationship.

[SaVes]

I'm not quite sure what it is exactly that he did that bothers you. That he didn't tell you the first time? Well, he told you the next time beforehand, so that doesn't sound like it should be a big issue.

[Kirbycinderella]

It's just that he's hanging out with girls without me and smoking with them. /: and I don't know how many times he's done it and not told me. :/

[SaVes]

So you don't want him to have female friends?

I still don't quite understand what exactly is bothering you.

[Kirbycinderella]

I mean I want him to...I've just been hurt a lot and don't really have that high of self asteem but I know jealousy ruins relationships so I'm trying to be okay with it. :/ I don't know...

[SaVes]

I understand. But what exactly do you want him to do? He has friends, he'll hang out with them, he won't tell you about every single time he meets one of them, whether it's a girl or a guy. You're entitled to do the same of course.

[Kirbycinderella]

I guess you're right...I'm probably just making mountains out of mole hills...

[SaVes]

Look, if you have actual concerns that something might happen between him and his female friend when he spends time with her, than you obviously don't trust him. And if you don't trust him, then that's generally not a promising foundation for your relationship with him.

So what exactly is it? Actual concerns there might actually be something between them? Are there any indications? Or is it just your general insecurites that origin from your past experiences?

If it's the latter, you'll have to find a way to deal with it. If there are any actual concerns, then there is something severely wrong in your relationship in general!

[Kirbycinderella]

Thank you (:

[SaVes]

You're welcome and good luck! :)

[CursedAngel]

You should talk to him. Tell him you didn't like it and that you hate being lied to.You can never trust guys enough. Talking from experience!

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

its just smoking and its a normal social thing for a lot of people

[damondino]

Stop being so damn jealous as long as he wasn't fingering their arse at the same time you are worried over nothing

[Gazala]

Yep you have a right to be jealous.

[NoblesseOblige]

Is Amber skinny and hot? If so, I'd be worried. Amber is such a hot name too.

[Kirbycinderella]

Cause that helps so much. Thanks.