I know for a fact that my boyfriend is very serious with this relationship. He loves me a lot and does a lot for me. He changed a lot as well comparing to before. There's this one thing that I find it very troubling our relationship. We talked about this before and came to a conclusion that we would fix it in time. The issue is, he cares only about the big picture of the relationship. For example, he changed his career for a better future, he changed his smoking habits, he's planning to buy a house for us and have kids etcs. However, he don't care about those other things that I care about and that's when our argument starts. For example, he didn't come home for dinner because he went to visit his friend last minute or, he decided to have couple of drinks when he know he was suppose to pick me up from work (end up couldn't pick me up). He find those things are very minor. If he can't be home for dinner, just leave it on the kitchen table and he will eat it when he's back or, I can take the cab home on that day. However, I would get mad. When I try to talk to him about how these things that makes me upset, he gets really annoyed and start talking to me a rebelious attitude like 'Seriously?". I then cry because I feel that he minimizes my feelings and that hurts. When I cry, he don't even care anymore because he said it's the same thing over and over again. After with the serious talk we had he almost cried. He said he does care about my feelings but just those things don't matter to him and that he needs to be more considering. I accepted that answer. However, the same thing happens again. I think to be honest, one reason is because he hates to be wrong and don't want to admit it. I want to sit down with him again regarding how he minizie the things that matter to me but, I don't want it to start as an argument. How should I approach him?
My boyfriend minimizes my feelings because he thinks that it's not something major. What should I do next?
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