Do guys get bothered if a girl has a lot of guy friends?

[Anonymous]

Is it such a bad thing? does it bother you if a girl has a lot of guy friends, or even if theyre not close friends but she gets along with a lot of guys and she's always talking to them (not texting or anything like that).

I work with mostly guys so i have no choice but to talk to them. they always like to mess with me and tease me about things. I have never messed around with any of them in a sexual way and i make it a point that i will joke around with them about almost anything but they must respect me. And they do. Theyve never done anything pervy. They always help me though, and some always hug me. I've hung out with some but its nothing serious.

Anyway, i work with a guy i like and I don't know if he gets bothered by that. he's fairly new so he's barely starting to see how things really are, i hope. Sometimes when i talk to other guys, he will stand there for a bit and then walk away. He won't join in. I don't know why. other times, he'll just watch. I've noticed that if i talk to someone and im not facing him, the guy im talking to will keep looking over at him. I don't know why. I don't know if he gives them looks or something. I've seen it with a few guys at work and even customers. The customers usually just start stuttering and usually stop the conversation.

the other day, another coworker and i walked to our department hugging and the guy i like saw and he said hi but didn't look too happy. He looked serious and kind of didn't want to talk to me. I forced him to talk to me and he rubbed my shoulder. He got all touchy. Also, I don't know why he should care. he's talking to other girls. Im single. And i dont sleep around like he does. Im just a sweet girl who is very likable and my coworkers love me and care about me. plus that coworker i hugged knows i like him and he tells me he has my back.

Anyway, even if nothing is going on, would it still bother you if the girl talked to a lot of guys?

[DodgersGM]

It wouldn't bother me at all.

A secure man will not mind all that much, provided that he knows they're JUST friends, and he knows that you only carry feelings for him and him alone.

Find ways to show him those things, and the issue should disappear.

[Asker]

i started to. i felt bad that he was always doing nice things for me and i thank him for it but i can't even pay him a compliment because i dont want to boost his ego. lately, I've been extra nice. i've bought him coffee and water and i offer my help, and i get extra close and i am more touchy than before. i dont do that with anyone else at all. I've even said it in front of him. the other day, people got offended because i didn't buy them coffee. i said i didn't ask anyone but him.. he was there. also, i let him catch me looking at him. i just look away but i know he sees me. i immediately look back at him and he catches me twice.

at times, i feel like i shouldn't even try. he's talking to other girls. why should i be another one after him if he was plenty or others?

[DodgersGM]

Yeah I agree with you. He's not with you, so he doesn't get a say in who you're friends with. Since you like him though, I do hope it works out.

And thanks for MH.

[micheal727jovanie]

Yeah tbh I get bothered if she has a lot of guy friends how would you feel if your man was surrounded by women every single day? Would you feel secure with your relationship?

[Asker]

Well i am bothered. I know he talks to other girls and that bothers the shit out of me but there's nothing i can do. Im not his girlfriend.

But im not sleeping with any of them. and im nice but i dont treat the other guys like i treat him. I've bought him coffee and non alcoholic drinks. I make excuses to be near him. I get extra close with him. I cover for him. I dont do this for anyone else but him. .

[zombiebabe]

yeah he will feel like he has too many competitors.. and it ain't good according to him

[Asker]

Well, apparently i have many competitors too.

But its not like im sleeping with any of them.

[zombiebabe]

yeah i know what you mean by it but some guys just can't understand it

[Asker]

and why would he care if he's talking to someone and it sounds like he really likes her. why does it matter who i talk to? other than me, there's another girl at work, and he doesn't care who she talks to or what she does. he's always checking up on me like if i was his or something which i think is really unfair.

[Anonymous]

Well... I never bothered about this earlier, and then my ex ended up cheating on me with one of her 'guy friends'.

[Iron_Man]

Of course I do