I hate myself for being so quiet!

[Anonymous]

I don't know what to talk about. I have no social skills. you are a loser if you can't say anything nowadays everyone wants to be around loud and extroverted people. I am the exact opposite and I end up lonely.

i can't change the fact that I'm quiet. I've tried to change it but I just cant. that's how I am!

I am so lonely. since 3 years I am in my worst time of my life.

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I can say I am attractive. Well, that's what people tell me. I I spend a lot time on my looks. But my quietness and shyness always f***s up things.

I was never ever approached by a guy. And this seriously makes me sad and I get even more insecure.

Example:

Theres this guy at my school who always stared at me and you could clearly tell he was interested. Guess what? He never approached me. Instead he is dating a girl now who he doesn't know long. And I know him for so long. That's so f***ed up!

[stubbsy]

Your confidence will grow once you realize that individuality is more important to us guys than a falsified personality, so be up beat about the fact that this guy was interested in you before he dated, and the only reason he found you un approachable was his lack of courage. Some guys need a confident woman because because they can't find any excuse to talk to a girl, so find it hard to approach a girl who you find as shy as you are, but if you try and smile a lot when looked at, this will asure them that you don't bite, and like you say, you enjoy spending time on your appearance, so destiny has chosen you for one of the relationships only you are worthy of. you just might have to be a little patient for him to approach you is all, so work on your confidence and let him know that if approached, your actually quite pleasant to know, good luck,x

[red324]

I like introverted girls like you. They are more trustworthy than loud extroverted girls and have so much more depth to them. I'm kind of the same way with only a couple friends so the fact that I have little social interaction affects my ability to communicate with others. What I've been doing lately is I use the internet to come up with interesting conversation starters with people. You also just have to use your surroundings to come up with stuff to say. Also remember people LOVE to talk about themselves so if you can show an interest in somebody and ask them questions to get a conversation going then you're golden. It could be a simple question like oh I like your necklace where to you get it? Then you go off of what they say and before you know it you have a friend.

[stubbsy]

This might not comfort you, but try and take something from the fact that a lot of men prefer quiet women, we don't like the loud types really, we would always look around for someone you have just explained, so be yourself, you will get noticed for you, and the chances are these girls are loud because they need attention, this will fail them later on when they get none, as for you, your get a lot more, you have talent, it won't go un noticed,x

[moviedude714]

since your a girl, you don't need social-skills, or there just not as important to girls as they are to guys, so if you were a guy in this situation it would be a lot worse

[Anonymous]

try and focus on your looks/ image and you will find that more guys will be willing to try and talk to you