What do guys think of girls who can't dance? Or are a little uncoordinated?

[bethanyyy]

I'm not the most coordinated person in the world, I'm a petite build, but tall for my size, so just a little "lanky", but not overly. So I feel a bit self conscious about my arms, and what to do with them etc.
Usually, I won't join in in the dancing, and sit on the side to watch, but last night at a wedding, I decided I didn't care, and had one of the best nights ever, dancing with my friends. We were kind of silly at times, but got really into it.
I noticed some guys were watching me, maybe they thought I looked stupid, but I didn't really care, because I was having fun.

So what do you think? Do you think it is unattractive and a turn off? Do you think some girls are best not dancing, and sitting on the side, watching?
I'd love to know your opinions! :)

Massive turn off

Doesn't matter/not an issue

A bit unattractive

It's cute

It's more important that she at least knows how to have fun

[Applefan1]

Well I am not a good dancer either, so you are not alone. :) I don't think it is a turn off at all. If I knew a girl well and we both could not dance very well and wanted to be able to I would suggest we went to dance classes together. It is not a big deal in my opinion as long as the girl is having fun. If a guy is going to judge you for that then he is so shallow and not worth your time. I do feel that some girls and some guys are shy about dancing if they are not good at it. It is far more important she knows how to have fun :)

[bethanyyy]

Thanks for your answer! I think it is more to do with comfort in one's own skin, and forgetting about what others think. I think everyone knows how to move to some extent, but some are just held back, and feel stupid, forgetting what to do when in public. I can dance really well when I'm on my own in my room, but I just get nervous, and self conscious when in public. Unfortunately most dance classes teach more formalised dancing, rather than just how to dance by yourself, or with friends in a crowd. I think I just need to learn a few dance moves really well, and I will feel a lot more confident. YouTube has some good instructional videos too, maybe you can have a look on there also? :)

[kovalinkie19]

I heard in a film once that this was refered to the music moving someone ugly. Anyway, I think it's cute. At the end of the day, most guys don't like to dance and if the girl isn't as good at dancing, there isn't as much pressure. I'm sure it's not as bad as you think, and I think those guys were probably either envious or checking you out. It's a attractive when a girl puts down her guard and has pure fun and wears an unrestricted smile. :)

[bethanyyy]

Awesome answer :) thanks

[kovalinkie19]

*takes a bow* thank you, thank you ;)

[snowangle]

Haha I've always wondered this. I'm a good dancer ONLY if the conditions are right (if I'm with the right friends, if I like the song that's playing, if I've had caffeine, sugar, or alcohol...). But the rest of the time, I look like something horribly uncoordinated and confused.

[bethanyyy]

Hahaha yep, me too, and the conditions just happened to be right at the wedding. But surprisingly no sugar, caffeine, or alcohol!

[snowangle]

Love when that happens! :D

[Anonymous]

I don't really dance but I tell this to people up front. If they don't believe me and try to get me to dance, they are unpleasantly surprised when they force me and that's the end of that lol...

[bethanyyy]

Hahaha

[steveguitar]

no, it is fine. I don't have a clue how to dance and I don't. and I won't. I play by baseball rules and get a designated dancer to fill my spot for the first dance at my wedding and any other dance she may want to have that night.

[bethanyyy]

Wow, that is quite extreme. In the past, I probably would have felt tempted to do something like that too , but dancing is just so fun. Have you tried dancing before?

[steveguitar]

no not really. I don't like moving like that in front of other people lol

[bethanyyy]

Haha well yeah, that was me in the past too, but I've realised that no one actually cares. And the amount of fun is well worth the embarrassment. My advice is to dance in the middle of the crowd, so you can't really be seen, and choose someone to copy their dance moves, until you start to pick up your own moves. I really do recommend it :)

[celect]

i mean depending on the girl it might be a bit unattractive, but if it is an attractive girl with a decent personality i'd actually find it quite attractive. the simple fact that she doesn't care what she looks like and is confident enough to have fun is great. nothing like a girl who can be herself.

[Red_Arrow]

The wedding has come and gone. So, referring to your last question, what did you end up doing with your hair? Must have been olay since you were out there enjoying yourself. :-)

[Red_Arrow]

** okay **

[bethanyyy]

Haha but you haven't answered THIS question yet :)
Well I ended up going back to the hairdresser, and she put a "bleach wash" through it, which helped lighten the brown, and it looks really nice now, which is a relief :)

[Red_Arrow]

I thought bout it but just answered E in the poll; didn't write anything. I have seem lots of women doing their own thing, sometimes looking like a wild woman. :-) I am not so sure the wild woman looks that appealing, but at least she is having fun. But most dancers, men or women, doing their own thing, show that they are at least trying and enjoying themselves. And that is the kind of person I like to know.

[funkipunk]

Choice E, 100%. I don't care if you're a very good dancer. The important thing is if you want to dance, then dance. Don't let the fear of embarrassment control your actions.

[bethanyyy]

Agreed, I discovered how much fun I've been missing out on only just lastnight

[Ferruccio77]

girls dancing silly is ok, guys no.

at least this wasn't you:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UBCH_vswYKk

[bethanyyy]

Hey! I didn't know someone was videoing me!! Haha, no I wasn't quite like that. Fortunately I don't drink :). I was just having fun

[PANDAmonium]

Well Im not the greatest dancer either so I wouldn't hold it against you

[bethanyyy]

Haha, that's good to know :)

[mario1321]

Girlz dancing is completely beautiful awkward or not

[bethanyyy]

That's a really nice attitude :)

[Anonymous]

personally its a let down. because im a great dancer. but it doesn't at all affect is i want to be with her.

[bethanyyy]

What if you can see she has potential, e.g. She can pick up the beat, and can move a bit, but just holds herself back a bit, due to being a little self conscious, and doesn't know too many dance moves? Still a let down?

[Opinion Owner]

i think if she's a little self concious she just needs someone to reassure her, that she's still justs as sexy. so she can let go

[1932ct]

to me its a little of B, C, D, E with B&E probably being the strongest feeling towards that

[Anonymous]

Don't really care, I would be much more concerned with your looks, personality, favourite ice cream. Rather than if you can dance.

[bethanyyy]

So of you liked the look of the girl, etc, then she started to dance, but was just a bit un-co, but okay, however is really enjoying herself, would it change your opinion of her in any way?

[Opinion Owner]

Not at all. That sounds like a girls way of thinking. A girl knowing how to shake her booty though can look sexy. But I don't think most males would care about normal dancing , I don't, my mates don't even the ones who good dancers.

[bethanyyy]

In a way, I feel like I do know how to shake my booty, but I think my fear of appearing all legs and arms holds me back. But I decided to let it go and just have fun last night. Thanks for your opinion :)

[Opinion Owner]

All good :)

[kangaru2]

i am a robot hahah

[bethanyyy]

Haha yep, that's one of my favourite moves!

[Anonymous]

A mix of all the options, apart from A.

[bethanyyy]

That's kind of what I imagined would be the general consensus

[NoblesseOblige]

I judge girls who dance, yes. If super hot, it's ok if you suck. If not, get good.

[NoblesseOblige]

Actually, I saw your last option and yes the timid ones are the worst. Even worse than sucking lol.

[NoblesseOblige]

In fact it's usually the timid ones who suck anyway, since they never dance.

[bethanyyy]

Maybe they're timid because they worry about being judged by guys like you?

[NoblesseOblige]

I used to be timid too. I overcame it and now I can dance. What's your excuse?

[1Advicegirl]

i know how to move my hips i can dance

[bethanyyy]

Well yeah, I know to move my hips too, most people do, but I guess I just feel self conscious about being a little on the lanky side

[1Advicegirl]

aw that ok moving the hips are easy i like dancing to good pop music

[bethanyyy]

Yeah me too, and old school too, so much fun :)

[1Advicegirl]

yep sure is i am listening to ashanti now