we used to be so close and most of the time we have like a 5 sec conv. but he talks with random people so much more than me. So why is he uncomfortable to be with me?
or what is your interpretation of his behavior?
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you guys both obviously have a connection still...and feeling for one another...its weird because neither of you want to make it uncomfortable and get too close, making it uncomfortable...therefore you are both making it uncomfortable because you are trying not to make it uncomfortable...lol do you understand? its tough being friends with an ex esp if its a recent break up, the only time I feel you should be friends with your ex is 1) you can picture yourself at a drive in move with your ex and his new girl and you and your new guy...youre sitting in teh back and they start kissing - this shouldnt phase you which means you can be friends - if it does, you can't at the moment 2) you're trying to prove you're more mature than you used to be, show that youve changed things that may have caused a break up, prooving you still care and want to be with them eventually if they can ever trust you again 3) you both are still in love but want to see if its for real and you're seeing other people but still communicating...im not sure of your situation exactly but it seems there is a small tension because neither ofyou want to be uncomfortable and you both ahve forgotten what you were like before you dated - try being that way but keep the "friends" line distinct and make sure its known...its hard to not be all close and lovely dovey as you used to be and what feels natural to you when around that person...id say give it some more time, you both are still grieving the break up it seems...not sure how much I helped but I gave my 2 cents...2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE