So I recently broke up with my ex, and he has agreed to meet me for coffee after 2 weeks, but he says he has no intention to get back together cos he just wants to finish his degree first which ends in 2012. Why do you think he is willing to meet me and what should I do when I meet him? My friends say I should just act cool and respect his decision, but how does that help me win him back in the future? I need a little bit of what the male mind thinks...so far all my advice has been from females (which I appreciate) I just wish I knew what he was thinking :(
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Il be nothing but honest with you here... I'm my opinion there are 2 reasons and they are as follows:
1. He does still like/love you and doesn't want to lose you so is keeping the door open by meeting you for coffee...may happen a few times whilst he is doing his degree untill he finishes when you get back together or he goes travelling.
2. He wants to find out if you are dating anyone else or just wants to meet up to keep you interested and hanging on (people say us guys don't like girls chasing them but I have to disagree) If I had a girl chasing me, it gives a certain 'i am the man' attitude and enlarges our ego's. I would mine anyway... maybe its just some of us.
The fact he has agreed to meet you and it was you that asked him and not him asking you makes me think that maybe he does still care about you otherwise he would have said no or made up an excuse...
As for what your friends said...play it cool. Do exactly that! Its hard, very hard, I know I've been there and pressure is a NO NO! Don't talk about getting back together, don't talk about breaking up, don't talk about you as a couple at all! Just be like you were when you first met, have a joke and a laugh and just be happy in eachothers company... men don't like pressure, hense the reason they say 'good to get away from the mrs, she's doing my nut about cleaning and doing this and that' Its not that we oppose doing it, I just we don't like being pressured into it. We are men and we have been taught to do as we want and please, we are alfa after all.
Bottom line is...NO PRESSURE! Agree a time and place and that's it, don't text or call before then or after.
Hope this helps.0