Do you get triggered when someone says they are happy they never had an ex?

[marish01]

I noticed that many people who had ex boyfriends or girlfriend insult me when I say that I am glad I don't have ex sexual relationships. They say I shouldn't be proud of it, it is not an accomplishment.
But why would I not be happy that I am not heartbroken? Am I missing out? Lol

[Cherry234]

I don't think you're missing out. Some people are lucky to never have gone through that type pf heartbreak. Life is hard enough w/o having to worry about someone breaking your heart. I don't have an ex either. It's better to wait (even if it's a long time) for the right person instead of jumping from one person to another

[marish01]

I never understood how they dated so many people?
Did they want each relationship to last forever or they wanted to change their lover?

[Cherry234]

I don't know

[GoldenCage]

people here are from different cultures and religious beliefs. You can't take everything at face value. Their experiences and beliefs don't have to be yours. Having said that. Usually maintaining a relationship requires a lot of growth and work. It comes a lot from experience. Many virgins be it men or women have unrealistic expectations on how things should be. Many have long list of requirements. Now whether that's good or bad. huh who knows. Love is luck first and hard work second. Experienced or not. If you're lucky to find someone who'd meet you there and work with you. Thank who cares if you had experience or not. In terms of missing out. Having experience does not always mean it was all bad. Yes there is heartache but there is lots of joy and memories and live in between. Not everyone who had experience made wrong choices and is damaged.

So don't make assumptions about them the same way they make about you darling.

[SixFootSexy]

No risk, no reward. You can do everything nearly perfectly and still get your heart broken because there is no such thing as a perfect person. If you want to stay single, just keep the attitude that you'll never be with someone unless they're willing to marry you first. You might find that, you also might end up a 40-yo virgin. That's certainly okay, but also realize decisions that you made with yourself in life to get to that place.

[marish01]

I didn't say I won't try. I am glad I didn't try.
I had time so I worked on my views and personality a lot. I am the best version of me and I know what I want.

[Interstate]

No. If things turned out the way you needed them to (in a positive manner), you HAVE accomplished what you needed. Your friends are just implying since you haven't made sex an activity in your past relationships, you have failed because sex HAS to be a basis. These are people who have no morals or respect for their body or the other's. If your stance is NO SEX and you made that a success, that alone is an accomplishment.

[CrazyGirl2]

Because life is not just made up of happy positive experiences! We lean more from our mistakes than we ever do from out successes! A person who has never experienced heartbreak is incomplete! Think of the worlds most beautiful art, music, architecture… you think THAT comes from a happy sheltered life? No! That beauty comes from pain + time to heal…

[marish01]

I need to get heartbroken as soon as possible.

[CrazyGirl2]

That’s not the point, but… Maybe you should live life to the point where you actually RISK heartbreak! Also, having a boyfriend or a girlfriend and breaking up with them doesn’t have anything to do with sex! You can have a relationship with someone be totally in love with them, and then, for some reason, it just doesn’t work out. You don’t NEED to have sex with someone to be in love with them. You don’t NEED to have sex with someone to feel the loss of that relationship!

[Nomina]

That's an odd one. I don't think that would bother me. I WISH I had never had to deal with more than one guy. I WISH I had been one of those people who had found their one when young and that's that, they're set.

I do get that it's one of those lessons in life but there are many ways to be heartbroken. You don't even need to have been in a relationship with someone to be romantically heartbroken.

I'm happy for you. As far as I'm concerned, that's a great gift.

[snowgirl123]

maybe they envy you. look, there was a time in this world in which virginity or having only one partner and being happy with them for your whole life was something extremely valued. now people believe that being a virgin is funny, or that it is prized to have as many partners and experiences as possible. do not allow what people think to be your mindset. there is true beauty in what many people despise, beauty is in the eye of the humble beholder.

[libsaretards]

I've met ONE person who has never had an ex. My best friend and his fiancee are high school sweethearts and have been through hell and back together and the love is strong. I'm happy for him. Some people find the right person immediately while others have to search. Everyone's lives follow a different trajectory, so what is the point in getting offended at what someone else has never endured?

[humpbackjack]

I definitely think you are missing out but that just makes it even better when you find your love and have sex also I think being able to stay a virgin nowadays is a pretty big accomplishment and as beautiful as you are you will find your love and you’ll have an amazing gift to give him and what a lucky man he will be

[Juxtapose]

You're like one of those people who say you are good at chess because you have never really played and thus have never lost.

Failure is what you use to learn and on average to master something it takes about ten thousand hours. The less experience you have in romance and dating, the worse off you are.

[marish01]

You could compare chess to sports but not to love

[marish01]

"The less experience you have in romance and dating, the worse off you are."
This is illogical because a woman who has more experience in breakups is not more likely to have a successful relationships than the woman who has 0 or 1 breakup

[marish01]

"The less experience you have in romance and dating, the worse off you are."
This is illogical because a woman who has more experience in breakups is LESS likely to have a successful relationship than the woman who has 0 or 1 breakup

[Juxtapose]

All a breakup means is a lack of compatibility.

[marish01]

That means they are not wise enough to make the right choice

[Juxtapose]

Your naive & your kack of REAL LIFE wisdom (which comes from experience) shows.

[sensible27]

I think she's right. It doesn't take a lot to figure out someone is not compatible with you. You can clarify how she's naive

Do you play chess?

[marish01]

There is not just one human being with who I have a bad relationshil. There is no onw In my workplace and in my family with whom I argue. But some of them argue with each other. So I know it is me who can have peaceful relationships with them.
Not to mention how much they love me.
And I know it mostly is due to my maturity, wisdom, patience, self control, tolerance and my understanding of people's different personalities and attitudes.
Of course I am way more likely to choose the right man and build successful relationships with him than expeeiences women with emotional baggage.
This can't be said about others.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Nah, I get it. That's definitely a positive thing to it.

I don't get triggered by someone being happy with their situation.

What's important is we don't shame or look down on others just because they live in different situations.

[marish01]

There is nothing shameful about being happy for not being heartbroken, right?

[Little_Bumblebee]

No, being heartbroken sucks.

I'm happy I haven't broken any bones, because then I haven't felt that pain that goes with it. Same shit.

Of course, you learn a lot about yourself and before the heartbreak, you might have been really happy and had great experiences with someone - which is why it hurts so much.

But I understand why someone is relieved they haven't experienced that pain. Because it hurts like a mother fudger.

[Jamie05rhs]

I am also glad that I don't have any exes. But I don't think there's anything wrong with it. If you date someone and it doesn't work out, that's nothing to be ashamed of. I just think people look dumb when they have sex with someone and then break up. They shouldn't be giving out sex so easily and so quickly.

[loveslongnails]

Why would I get triggered? I don't care if people have never had relationships - that's their business.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Don't listen to the idiots being critical or posting false equivalencies, you aren't missing out on anything by being careful.

[ohshee]

Well I feel the same way you do and I don't think you are missing out

[Hangry06]

Why would i be triggered over someone's relationships? No one has time for that

[marish01]

So many women did lol

[lightbulb27]

No, I don't care. It just means you are likely stagnant emotionally.

[jasco]

I mean i don't believe yiu haven't had anyone date you but who knows. As for are you missing out? Yes and no. As long as your happy it doesn't really matter

[Redstang88]

No but I can definitely your attitude getting in people’s nerves

[marish01]

Yes because I don't envy them

[Redstang88]

More like you look down on them, but whatever

[shadowarrior99]

They usually only care about getting their way. That's it

[Pandupillu]

Nopes, I wouldn't be, cause I understand the fact that every one has a different life. You cannot compare an apple to an orange

[harrisonarabrlla]

I just think it's an ignorant statement. I've learned and grown so much from my experiences, I wouldn't be the person I am today. I'm very grateful for it

[Zygum]

Yes, they are right because in your culture, multi lovers is a :Pride:girl or boy who do not have many lovers, is considered :a Dump:

[Tstrbrainer]

They are thinking that you are like them, if you are like them, they might be right.

If you are different, then they are wrong