When me and my ex broke up on the phone she seemed very confused. She said she was conflicted, that she needed space, felt trapped in the relationship, was stressed out, wanted to be closer to her family, her family said she recently was acting different. All her reasons were all over the place but knowing her I could tell she didn't know what to do, she even said "my gut is telling me it won't work out but I don't know" and we started talking and she started bringing up old stuff from 8 months ago about how i didn't help with her boxes and I rolled my eyes because she had forgiven me for not helping her but she kept on bringing it up even now. T
Then she said "I should feel safe to bring up stuff that needs to be resolved." Which i do agree with her. I reflected on how i made her feel because I had been defensive but it took so long for her to put her walls down; I don't know if there is a chance to show her I've reflected on everything.
Also at the end of the conversation she said " Why don't you text me in a month and check up on me I' my feelings might night change i just need space... and also this is not a break but a breakup" I think logically she was thinking the long distance wouldn't work + the little fights. But she has a trait of making assumptions "you will not like it over here" ..."you will get bored"..."why me? " So is that month tentative or can I reach out earlier then a month.
I do want her back, but want to respect her boundaries. Also she offered friendship because she wants me in her life but it seems like that's her trying to eat her cake and have it too.
Then she said "I should feel safe to bring up stuff that needs to be resolved." Which i do agree with her. I reflected on how i made her feel because I had been defensive but it took so long for her to put her walls down; I don't know if there is a chance to show her I've reflected on everything.
Also at the end of the conversation she said " Why don't you text me in a month and check up on me I' my feelings might night change i just need space... and also this is not a break but a breakup" I think logically she was thinking the long distance wouldn't work + the little fights. But she has a trait of making assumptions "you will not like it over here" ..."you will get bored"..."why me? " So is that month tentative or can I reach out earlier then a month.
I do want her back, but want to respect her boundaries. Also she offered friendship because she wants me in her life but it seems like that's her trying to eat her cake and have it too.
