I need some advice on this break up?

[Anonymous]

I have been with this guy for 3 year. He is a business owner I went to his business place for the first time and there was a gurl that worked there and I heard people saying that they were involved and he even drinked a juice and gave her the rest and they drank off the same bottle. No one knew we were together as yet. I asked him y they were saying that and why they drank off the sane bottle. He got mad and a few days later he told me its over between us and he slept with her because I listened to what people saud and asked him about it so I will cheat on him so he starts having sex first. Was I being insecured? He even blocked me after calling him.

[DaveJord]

So, this what it called, "Blame Shifting"

So, this a clear sign of co-dependent behavior and these types of people make the absolute worse type of relationships. So, no I do not think you did anything wrong, it's all pretty crazy behavior, and this guy was using you and you when called it out he went into full on TOXIC RETARD MODE.

He cheated on you first but made it your fault that for why he had to cheat first. In truth he was probably already banging this other chick, and only told you he cheated on you first now, as smoke screen to hide all the other time they did it. Yeah, makes no sense right, because that is what Co-Dependent TOXIC RETARDS do.

You need to block this guy and move on fast and thank God you found on now and not later.

[Cynicaldreamer]

"He got mad and a few days later he told me its over between us and he slept with her because I listened to what people said and asked him about it so I will cheat on him so he starts having sex first."

What kind of gaslighting, manipulative crap is he trying to play? He's making you into the bad guy and saying you're the reason he cheated? LOLOL. Girl, get rid of that trash. He was cheating on her from the getgo. He just made you into the bad guy because you called him out on it. I had an ex like that: he said he cheated on me because I was "emotionally immature." No, he just wanted an excuse to cheat and used you as the reason to end the relationship.

Seriously, just block him back and don't even associate with him anymore; he's not worth it.

[Asker]

I wonder if I had overreacted at first seeing that He just drank some of it then gave her the rest and he didn't drink back from it.

[Summeroflove]

Well. I think it’s for the best. He sounds like someone who isn’t good anyways. The best thing he did was leave.

[Hasan2023]

Nooo you are alright he's the jerk and don't worry there are 7.837 billion people in this world you will find someone wayy better then him.

[Snedger____]

The man is a pure asshole. He cheated you and tried to make it your mistake by telling that you were insecure. You’re not and they have probably had sex before.

Cool. Time to find a new guy. 3 years is not a big deal

[LegendaryDater]

If he blocked you that is all you need to know. He's gaslighting you into thinking you're crazy. Nobody shares bottles with someone they aren't involved with. That is dumb.

[RavVid]

Well 3 years is quite some time. He is quite a piece of works I think. Don't look back.

[Sparkie460]

Just be done with that jerk and move on. He was trying to turn the table and make you the bad person instead of him. You deserve better than that

[Anonymous]

It shouldn't have took 3 years to go see him at his business if you really meant something to him. I think you were just a Side Chick.

[Asker]

I guess I just didn't want to see things for what they were.

[Opinion Owner]

I've done that too. It can waste a lot of time.

[Dudewquestions]

He got called out and deflected blame

[Anonymous]

Meh fuck him, he seems like a douchbag