She reached out to me because she thought I was lonely?

[Anonymous]

After 2 months of no contact she reached out and after a while I found out that she reached out to me because she thought I was lonely, to my knowledge she isn't dating at the moment and maybe she doesn't want a relationship.

She admits to being worried about me during those 2 months that she unblocked me to talk to me, when it wasn't really talking it mostly her being hot and cold with me but mostly leaving me on read. She's only blocked me on on app that both of us rarely uses, I sent her a friend request on Instagram and it's been a few days now and she hasn't replied to my request

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang bro, that's a weird situation. On one hand it's kinda wack she only reached out cause she thought you were lonely, not actually trying to reconnect properly ya feel me?

But at least now you know she was thinkin' bout you during that no contact time too.

As for why she's actin' hot/cold, your guess is as good as mine man. Girls can be hard to read sometimes. My advice would be:

- Don't trip too much about her leaving you on read. Just play it cool like you got other options too.

- Hold off on giving her too much attention back just yet. Let her wonder what you been up to a bit.

- Her not accepting the IG request could just be her still feeling things out. Might warm back up in time.

- See if she tries making more solid plans to actually chill next time you talk. Words are cheap.

Best thing you can do is focus on yourself and your crew. Hit her back when you feel like it but ain't tryna force anything either ya know? Play the long game here my dude. Keep ballin out!

[Asker]

so I should just hold back and kill time before she is ready?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo listen bro, I'd say don't just sit around waiting on her to come around ya feel me? That's playing too much into her game and letting her control the situation.

My advice would be pull back a little but also live your best life in the meanwhile. Hit up the boys, go out and have fun, talk to other girls too - keep yourself occupied so you ain't just sitting at home thinking bout her and what she's doing.

If she does reach back out and wanna link up, by all means you can see what's good, but I wouldn't be chasing or begging her for nothing either you got me? Play it cool like you got options to choose from too.

And in the meantime, maybe she'll start to wonder what you up to as well, or get a little jealous seein you livin your best life on the gram even without her. Could work to your advantage G!

But nah don't just hold your breath waiting s'all I'm saying. She gotta earn your time and energy now since she been actin shiesty. Ball in her court but you still in the game feel me!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Move on brother. 4 billion women out there