Should a Biological Birth-Father have access to to children, after a Divorce or Breakup. ?

[VonDutch_daguys]

I have seen many men Crash and Burn when it came to Basic visitation Rights. And how they In some cases even kill the child's father, for wanting to spend quality time with his children.

• If a man wants to be there for his children, They won't allow him (mainly The Mother)
• If he wants to be Part if his child's life , she denied him the Access.
• Father's who "want" to be there, are not allowed

Yes. Many women feel that Children need a Father figure... True , I won't deny that. And I would not take it away from them.

my Issue that I have.

these Same People feel that Yes a child needs a father figure. "but that it does not have to be The Biological Birth-Father.

Dear men , you knew the Risk before you made her pregnant

Yes Biological Birth-Father should be involved

That's up to Women and Women alone to decide whether she wants the Biological Father to be in her child's life.

[rigmarole]

The biological father should have 50/50 custody with the mother of their own children unless they are currently incarcerated, a convicted child abuser, or they completely neglect the child (i. e. they are a drug addict that disappears for days at a time and is found passed out on random street corners leaving the child to fend for themselves for basic survival). There should be no such thing as child support payments. You have the kid for 50% of the time, so when they are with you you take care of their basic needs and parent the way you want.

[rigmarole]

Same goes for women. If they are a degenerate that fits any of the above criteria, then they should lose custody, otherwise they should have 50/50 custody.

[californianjoe]

first option

[VonDutch_daguys]

I blame Men. Because so many children are growing up without their Fathers and I feel that it's the child that suffers at the end of the day. Because that man , can just marry another Woman and live happily married raising his two other Children. Whom he fathered successfully. So who gets hurt? Who is the real victim?
1. Is The Spiteful ex?
2. Is it the Deprived Father (who is now happily married raising two other children)?
3. Or is it the child?(who was caught in the middle of their little squabbles)

[LaurenM1997]

My dad has a wife and two other children I feel left out so I know what you mean by that

[VonDutch_daguys]

@LaurenM1997 if your ex "WANTS" to be part his children life. "LET HIM" for your child's Sake. That your child may be included and feel Part of "BOTH" families. Close to normal as possible. And they may feel Complete and whole. As humans

[VonDutch_daguys]

I never felt complete because my parents didn't get along. Eventually my father just gave up trying. Trust me that is not a feeling you want your kids to be feeling

[VonDutch_daguys]

Let them feel Complete by having both "BIOLOGICAL" Parents. 💕🙏

[LaurenM1997]

I don’t have children I’m talking about my actual father but ok dokes

[LaurenM1997]

My dad has other kids that’s what I’m talking about I don’t have kids nor do I want kids

[Apple1996]

I think it depends on the child's age. A baby/toddler that is breastfeeding I don't ever think is right for the dad to have alone time with them without the mother around.

If the child is older then yes ofc they should be able to see the child for one on one time.

[VonDutch_daguys]

That is rather sexist statement, as Men can make Bottles, stay awake putting baby to sleep. Burbing, Etc. I have seen men quitting their Jobs to help wife take care if the baby. So your comments are Sexist. And unjust. Not to mention gender biased.

[VonDutch_daguys]

What about men who stay up all night with crying infant.
There's no fairness or equity in your statement. Just Plain Gender-Bias

[Apple1996]

Most breastfed babies refuse bottles. I have experienced it with all my childern. They took months to use a bottle or cup when they were past a year or two old. My 10 month old right now literally only breastfeeds and drink a little water through a medicine dropper. He would not be able to go even a hour without me near him or he'd starve

[Apple1996]

It's not sexist when that's the most healthy thing for a baby

[VonDutch_daguys]

Every baby isn't the same. I was raised by a single father. My Aunt's husband took care of their adopted son all by himself. The daily routines

[VonDutch_daguys]

It's women like yourself, that Discourage men from wanting children. Men don't want kids because I'm they're nit allowed to raise them.

[Apple1996]

Sure that does sometimes happen but it is not what's ideal for the baby. Nature designed women to care and feed their babies. The ones who don't do that are just shit mothers

[VonDutch_daguys]

A lot if men nowadays are Pulling out of marriage and family because of people like you

[Apple1996]

My husband likes having kids and agrees it's healthy and normal for me as their mother to be their main caretaker since that's what is natural into the early years

[VonDutch_daguys]

So congratulations. Because "Sensible-Men" (who want to be Parents) will not be making kids. SO "Power to You"✊✊✊✊

[Apple1996]

I'm pretty sure it's the opposite most men don't want kids with a woman that isn't traditional and won't care for the kids 😂

[VonDutch_daguys]

FIRST YOU SAY THIS
Sure that does sometimes happen but it is not what's ideal for the baby. Nature designed women to care and feed their babies. The ones who don't do that are just shit mothers

The you say. THIS
My husband likes having kids and agrees it's healthy and normal for me as their mother to be their main caretaker since that's what is natural into the early years

My Question: make up your bloody mind. So you want men to be Involved or Not? Don't dilly-Dally

[VonDutch_daguys]

Because it's sounds like an act if either Spite or Malice

[Apple1996]

Those things go along with each other so I'm not seeing the confusion

[VonDutch_daguys]

In America for a man to be a Parent is next to Impossible. Because on the one hand you feel A-B-C and in the other hand you feel X-Y-Z. NO WONDER we Have a Fatherless Society.

[Apple1996]

Well my kids have a father and he loves that i breastfeed the babies 🤷‍♀️

[VonDutch_daguys]

Anyway I'm glad that my father was nit only Part of my life I am Glad he Raised my siblings and I since baby's day. I'm glad he made our Bottles, out his kids to bed etc.
But most of all I'm Glad our mother "ALLOWED HIM" 🙏🙏✌️✌️✌️

[VonDutch_daguys]

My mother ALLOWED HIM.
She never felt Sexism or Bias She left him to navigate his way and LET HIM fulfill his Duty. I'm now an adult and I'm thankful for his input.

[VonDutch_daguys]

Really Now? Really-now?

[Apple1996]

Cool for you that your mother didn't try harder enough to feed you properly 🤷‍♀️

[VonDutch_daguys]

Oh she did alright. But she never discouraged Her husband from participating in his duties like you have in all respects

[Apple1996]

Dad's can help in other ways like caring for the mom so she can then care for the baby

[VonDutch_daguys]

Bullocks. Both Parents should be involved in raising the child. Nit just one. I'm sorry that your Father didn't play a role in your life and I sympathize. But don't Discourage Parent's who want to Raise their kids. It's unjust and unfair. Biyhe men and Women have A role of parenting. Nit just one parent.

[VonDutch_daguys]

Father's should Step Up. And Play his Role. And they should not Slack off. Because of people like Yourself

[Apple1996]

My dad was very involved in my life but he didn't take over my mother's role in caring for me as a baby.
Mothers and fathers have separate roles in raising childern

[VonDutch_daguys]

But more and more Men are Choosing not to Pregnate women.
Unless he's a Horny Moron who doesn't give a shit about his children.

[Apple1996]

Ofc but fathers are not meant to feed babies. That goes against nature and what's most healthy for the baby

[VonDutch_daguys]

In your Country.
In mine it's different
Every country has their own set if cultural background and differences. How men act in your Country suffers from how they Act in mine
Have a good day ✌️

[VonDutch_daguys]

In our Country things are different and Women in our country have different expectations of men over here.

[VonDutch_daguys]

As I said before every country is different. What. Believe in your Nation, is nit what another country believe in theirs. Let's please respect each other's Beliefs, cultural background and differences. thank you,🙏✌️

[HelpfulWoman]

so long as not abusive etc, then yes, they absolutely should be involved. and it should always be notorised as a court document to be used in evidence if either party fails in their duty to help the kids thrive

[VonDutch_daguys]

Having a Civil relationship with The Exes (firbtyw children's sake) is the first Steps. Then Comes Co-operation and Compromise.

[VonDutch_daguys]

For the * typo

[VonDutch_daguys]

So many fatherless children in the world 🌎🌍

[Anonymous]

It depends on the circumstances, but the reality is that many men who are worthy fathers and want to be a part of their child's lives are not allowed to, for many reasons, and it is the chidren and the fathers who are the victims of that.

The biggest injustice is that a father doesn't even have the legal right to know he has a child in the world. It's barbaric, and yet it's not even seen as a serious issue. Disgusting.

[VonDutch_daguys]

Men know the Risks involved in breeding with a woman, yet jeopardize not only themselves but their Children too. Because they are under the illusion she created at the time that they'll all live happily ever after. With a Big house a d a sunny porch. Weh. Reality hits then it's all too late. Men don't think. They don't use their Brains. That is the problem. You need to research your rights. Have them secured daily. So when the worst happens they'd be equipped and we'll equipped. To secure visitation at least. Without any drama. But the best is to Consult with a Social Worker (thatdeqk with fathers rights) aswell as do research. Men are unaware of the help that's available to them.

[VonDutch_daguys]

Sorry for the typos I'm just so worked up

[LaurenM1997]

Yes as long as there’s no abuse or anything a long the lines of that or anything else like that

[LaurenM1997]

My mum never denied access to me to my father but he’s denied me in life and rejected me

[Katie1964]

Kids, especially boys but girls also, need their fathers involved in their lives.

[slatyb]

Yes, they should and they do in all the United States.

[LiamJHayden]

As long as he has not surrendered his parental rights and is not an abuser and helps support the children, yes. Unfortunately the courts in many areas have not caught up. Yet.

[strateguy632]

3rd.