I miss my ex so much that I'm literally scared for my health, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

Everything reminds me of her, even things unrelated to her somehow trigger memories. I could be eating pizza, and it would make me miss her, recalling the times we shared it together. It takes all my willpower not to call her, knowing she has already moved on to someone new. The pain is unbearable; logically, I know I'll get over her someday, but my heart tells me otherwise, fearing I'll never find someone like her again. I see many beautiful girls who are actually attracted to me and would date me but I don't find them attractive at all.
If anyone has gone through this before, what did you that helps you move on.

[sage2021]

Right now you are experiencing a bad case of love sickness.

I have had what you describe and I hated waking up in the morning and facing a whole new day of being love sick. For about the first 4 seconds when you wake up tou don't think about her, then you remember again.

It's even harder to get through this because she is with another guy already. This I why you must not contact her at all.

The only thing that helps with love sickness is time. Sometimes a lot of time.

A psychologist once told me when we were talking about this, she said some men never have another love relationship for the rest of their lives because they never want to feel the pain like you have right now.

Please don't torcher yourself like some people do looking her and pictures of her with her new boyfriend on Facebook. Stay away from doing any checking up on her or you'll only feel worse. You are needing to feel better not worse. It isn't healthy to do that.

You don't have to like it, but you have to do it. Time.

If you get with another chick too soon it will feel phoney. Just going through the motions. Meaningless motions.

Now is a good time to re-examine your life. I know it sounds old fashioned but reading or listening to self-help stuff really helped me. I filled my head with positive affirmations about myself and it actually gave me some meat that I could rely on to find out about myself for the better. It's worth a try. Ok?

The best of luck 🍀 to you!

[strawberrybaby3]

I’ve been through this and trust me it DOES get better no matter what you may think or feel right now. I read from your replies that the breakup was extremely recent and what you’re feeling right now sucks but is completely normal especially because it just happened. You need to feel this and just let it slowly pass on its own. And do NOT contact her under any circumstance, no matter how much you miss her. You will end up regretting it. Show her you don’t need her.

[Asker]

Is there anything specific you've found helpful in coping with the pain of missing them? I can't continue feeling this way, I need to find a way to move on.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I have a tip for you. Listen to your heart when you're together, but once a relationship falls apart, let your head take over!

How long ago did you break up?

[Asker]

It's been a little over a week, but I could sense the breakup coming long before it happened, based on her behavior.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm sorry to hear it fella. Do you have any really good friends who can push you into going out with them? Things like that, even though you might have to force yourself can do you the power of good!

[Asker]

I do have friends that can set me up with them, but I'm just afraid I'll be comparing them with her.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I never meant to set you up with anyone. It's good to go out with friends. The more you do, the quicker you'll realise something. Being in 'no relationship' is much better than being in one that has already died!

[Asker]

Oh, I get it. Honestly, it will be difficult since I live in a different town from most of my close friends due to work. Besides, I'm a big introverted person, so I just try to keep myself busy with work and one or two activities that I enjoy. But even doing these activities can make me miss her. I could be doing something fun, and I'll be thinking of how much I wish she were here to share it with me. It's ridiculous, I know. How can I feel this way about someone who doesn't even want to be with me?

[TommyMountainFigure]

It goes back to the very first thing I said up there. You're letting yourself be controlled by your heart and your emotions are running wild. The second you think with your head, rationality will take over and you will realise what you said in your last sentence is EXACTLY why I said it.

[Cheapskate]

It's completely natural. You are bonded to her chemically. That takes time to diminish. So just give it time. Appreciate everything she has given you. Carry her in your heart.

[Rangers]

Sorry to break it to you, but it's not going to get better, only worse.

Unless, you delete all photos of her, block her on all social media, delete all messages with her, and find someone new. Until you do all of that, it can only get worse

[noohair]

You can't grow and move forward if you linger in the past. This is not cancer, yes it hurts. You can destroy yourself over this.

[strateguy632]

tell your psychologist and work throo it

[Nikki1989]

You meet someone else. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Damn how does your ex look