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Dating As A Black Man, and Why it Remains Difficult (Page 2)
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I agree with most of this but there are plenty of white girls who say stuff like "I only date black guys". There are also plenty of black guys who only wanna date white girls, and there are even some white guys who only want to date black girls. So it's not some specific thing that works only "against" black guys.
But do they truly want to be with you or are you just some fetish for them?
@BubbleBoy69 I agree 100%, If they started telling me how much they love white guys and how they would never date their own race that would be a huge red flag.
It's not just black men, it's browner men in general. Like East Asian, Middle Eastern, or South Asian men.
I blame the media, since white or Latino men get the best treatment. Look who's always portrayed as the action hero or romantic? White men. Look who's gracing those modeling magazines? White or Latino men.
Meanwhile, there's negative connotations associated with us browner folks, due to that stupid media plastered all over the walls. A lot of darker women want white men so badly, even if he's chubby and pimply.
There's a saying that "he who has all the gold makes all the rules" in Aladdin. Well, white men have most of the gold and therefore, they make a lot of the rules.
>>>>>>"There's a saying that 'he who has all the gold makes all the rules' in Aladdin."
LOL that was one of my favorite parts in Aladdin. :D
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"A lot of darker women want White men so badly" I know many who prefer Non White men and I am one of these women. I tend to go for the Middle Eastern men because I find them to be the most attractive.
Pfft you act like its us vs them. Grow up, some girls aren't attracted and others are. Seriously people are getting tired of others making race the central issue, its not like we have not heard it a 1000 times but when a culture doesn't do anything but cause more hate rather than fix itself, it makes you wonder as to who is really progressive and who is not. I hate race debates and i hate racism with a passion, but i won't stand by while people just wine and act like they don't realize a verrrry relevant problem.
I hear what you are saying but remember, environment encourages your choices in mates.
For example, if a black kid grew up in Korea, he'd be into, yup, you guessed it, Korean/Asian girls.
You said you grew up in a white neighborhood, so naturally that's the case.
However, they are not into black guys because of the same reason.
You could go to a city, where people are more diverse and open to you, like NYC.
"I have seen black men like this, but only in the ghetto."
Careful, I grew up in the ghetto.
Remember, there are black people and n*ggas
Chris Rock said it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f3PJF0YE-x4
Am a black young man i come from a poor family but my family background is rich its just everyome takes advantage of each other. Anyway i was offfed a job with fed ex but turned it down becuase i was be a nurse and they only have morning hours. But this is not about that every girl i have every date so far 4 girls parents have had a problem with me becuase of my skin color. My new girlfriend of 1 weeks mom loves me as a persom but pretty much told my girlfriend she does not want her dating me just becauae am black.
Mmmmm, some of this is true, and I'm black myself. But you still have a LOT of white girls who love dating us. In fact black guy-white girl relationships are the most common interracial relationships in America, probably next to black guy-Latina ones. I've gotten some bad reception from some white girls, but most of it has been good.
It's actually white-hispanic pairings followed by white-asian then it's black-white
@RedThread No, I still think black-white have to be the most common, and then those other ones. Either way, even if they really are first, black men are still not failing as bad as he's saying.
Yeah you can look up the stats but yeah I wasn't saying black men or women are failing in dating by any means.
@RedThread I'll check 'em out.
No they are not anymore. Sorry son.
You mentioned:
But you still have a LOT of white girls who love dating us.
When I see a lot of black men with white women, it is usually with white women who are obese. I see this quite often.
However... if you see a black celebrity with a white girl...
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The white woman is typically in shape and better looking.
I have had a lot of white women like me in the past, but they were usually like the white women you see in "Teen Moms"... ironically a lot of them became teen moms after high school.
I've definitely seen what you're talking about, but I've also seen a lot of black and white relationships where the white girl was fine as shit. I think you're either overthinking it too much, or not really noticing the bigger picture of it all. Black guy-white girl relationships are far from uncommon.
Most aren't really good looking when they date black dudes.. All i see is over weight or slopy white girls & i never see latinas with blacks.. Latinas go for white boys.. Latinas are very racist towards black men
@LadyBug69 Again, I've seen some of what you're talking about, but I've also seen a lot of the opposite. I'm black so I probably would know best. Latinas are actually much more open-minded about dating outside their race because Latinos more often prefer their own women. Latinas dating black men is pretty common, and I have Latina friends who like me and other guys beCAUSE we're black.
LoL your so wrong.. Im talking on most Latinas.. Look up preferences from latinas instead of judging from your own experiences xD
Im telling you that most good looking latinas date either their own or white men!!
@LadyBug69 I'm not just judging from my own experiences. I do know that plenty prefer their own men, but relationships between black men and Latinas is probably the second most common kind of relationships among black men. I know that a lot of Latinas say they don't like their men because they're overbearing and aggressive. They also find the domestic violence to be more than they can bear as well. I don't mean to be rude, but you're younger than I am, so I don't know if you've even really had as much experience with Hispanics as I have. Are you Hispanic?
Im black & i date Latinos only so i know for sure, not just from statistics but in my experiences from latina friends.. Good looking latinas definitely rather go for Latino and white men.. Maybe 5 out of 100 will go to black.. Give it up already
Can you give me your opinion on (my take) on the dating section? ?
@LadyBug69 So because I'm a black male and I also have experience with Latinas, I must be wrong. But you're black and you've had experience with Latinos, and you must be right. Lol.
Like i said.. Look it up on google.
You said that its probably the most common 2nd in black men dating? Yes maybe BUT IN BLACK INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS ONLY & NOT RELATIONSHIPS IN GENERAL.. I just looked it up again on google, it said that Latinas go for white men as their 2nd choice... Give it up already! !..
and for the record, Latinos & white girls are 2nd to Asian and black guy white girl is 3rd!
Just because you see a lot black guy white girl couple dont mean its the most common among all minorities.. C'mon dude dont be an idiot
@LadyBug69 I Googled it, even though I've already read a lot about these relationships, but I Googled it again for your sake. Still I've found quite a lot of stuff talking about relationships between Latinas and black men and even how Latinas prefer them. Also this video from a Latina herself might interest you: https://youtu.be/-S8CuOkOohk
I'm not denying that there are Latinas who only like white men, but you can't make me your fool about this. As I said I have known several Latinas, one who is married to a black man, and most of them say they either love black men or don't mind them. I don't know what your area or your circles are like.
An interesting coincidence as this post is akin to a BBC feature article published yesterday. See "What it's like for ethnic minorities dating online": www.BBC.co.uk/.../83fb8f3e-f1f6-4df9-ab5c-14e856ce486b
Very interesting find. I like that. As a black woman, she has noticed that her white girlfriends got more attention than her. I feel that same way... HOWEVER.. it seems that a lot of women these days fetishsize white men, especially black women.
I relate with your experiences 100% given that I have had my own share of racial prejudice and discrimination in online and offline dating as a black guy. I'm highly educated, very fit, and earn a decent salary in a prestigious job.
dating in general is hard dude. and also that is why when you have found someone who even likes you a little bit, you hold on and you work at it to make it work. I hate dating. everyone has their own problems and I understand you want to find the love of your life and you are hitting some walls. don't let it hinder your way of thinking, continue to have hope and you will find your partner. good luck
It is very hard for short non-muscular guys but tall muscular guys. 2 things are too important.
Being Tall
Being Muscular
If the guy doesn't have both of these qualities, then it can be fuckin difficult for the guy to date a girl.
Even a 158 cm girl doesn't want to date a man who is under 180 cm. She says a man can't be under 180 cm. How the hell can a man be under 180 cm? It sucks.
All the smart black women I know date black men nearly exclusively. Most of them gave never been with a thug.
Likewise, most of the unintelligent white chicks I know have dated a thug.
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It's a matter of class, a lot. Choose the ponds you're fishing in wisely.
Things changing now all the smart women going after white boys.
Is that guy @polocrew?
@finalgagaccountVNMC This is a gif of polocrew
https://i.imgur.com/S2Jhj5C.gif
Holy shit @polocrew that really you :o. He is huge
@finalgagaccountVNMC strong coming from someone who directly falls in that stereotype too fgit
Lmfaooo man was just kidding, but thT you for real @polocrew?
@finalgagaccountVNMC read my last comment fgit
Lol narcissism? Don't get what u talking about fgt 😂😂😂
@finalgagaccountVNMC stop trying to stereotype me when u exCtly that stereotype too fuking idiot lmfao
Genuinely thought the guy in the gif was you lol I mean u could have posted long back before I joined and someone saved it
@finalgagaccountVNMC yea right he don't even have tattoo, he's just posting whatever fgit and don't stereotype ur own stereotype idiot lmao that only mean u don't like ur self lmfao.
I am not white brah 😂😂😂😂
The video reminds me of a white guy message me with "waz up n** lips" by the way I'm half white and half Hispanic its hard for a lot of people because you can't find decent on the internet. This is why I'm isolating myself from dating until I'm ready to date again because I am fed up.
Try dating Hispanics, they are definitely worth it <3
@LadyBug69 I like white and Hispanics XD
This topic is about black men, how do you feel about them?
@Rick-Lewis If he attractive and I like his personality I would date him unless something happen.
I am one person who doesn't really care about the physical attribute of a man as long as i like him or love him. Dating or having a relationship with someone need not dependent on his or her skin color. What matters most is how you will treat her or him. I always give my all when i love someone.
The amount of black men dating and having kids outside their race is growing. especially those marrying outside their race. Statistically in the next 20 years biracial people ( white and black) eill ne the face of the U. S and fashion industry exotic biracial people are being created at high rates.
You take online dating too seriously. Its full of riddle talkers and fakes.
1) Online dating is sh*t and not representative of offline dating (even for white men).
2) I think black men can definitely get dates, but... they have to try harder to not look like thugs than white men or they won't get dates: a white men can get away with casual clothing and not mentioning an education, a black men needs to be sharply dressed and mention his degree and occupation.
Im not gunna lie, all ill ever date is white men or Hispanic/Latino is as far as ill go..
Its just that black men have such a bad
Reputation that my parents will not accept..
Another thing is mixed babies, I've heard that white people would rather want a white/latin mix than any other look..
Its not that people are racist, its more about preferences...
& The reason black woman are dating outside may be because black men have took it too far
You mentioned:
"Its not that people are racist, its more about preferences"
It's all about race. What you said here - "black men have such a bad reputation" and "black men have took it too far", just shows it comes down to race.
What people fail to realize, is that, not all black people are bad. The media only shows the ugly side of black society. There's also an ugly side of white society and an ugly side of hispanic society, but those are downplayed by the media.
Based on my personality and credentials I listed above in my take:
" I am currently working on my Masters. I am a senior project manager for a web development firm. I have my own condo (working on getting a house) I have a car. I am very articulate. I am also a snappy dresser."
Does the media talk about black men like me?
I just dont find black men attractive although i love black people..
Its just that black men lack the baby face features of a latino or white boy..
Like those sorft features.. lips, nose, the hair, soft skin color, the cute catty eyes.. <3
Oh... I understand. Everyone likes what they like. Now... I want you to imagine being told that "you are not good enough to date because of your skin color" basically everyday and by black women as well. Everyone prefers the white boy first and then the hispanic guy, because they are similar to white guys, but slightly more tan.
Typical. White and Latino guys get the lion's share, while black, East Asian, Middle Eastern, and South Asian men get thrown in the dumpster.
I've never once seen on Tinder where a hole has said "no black guys" but rather the opposite.
And yeah I agree with the race baiting thing. I'll see picture where they'll put "looking to get my swirl on! 👱🏻" in their profile and I instantly swipe left.
You mean this?
https://i.imgur.com/JPBcnvO.jpg
I don't bother with black guys because they are all in your face about wanting a "thottie"
Not trying to stereotype but ALL of the girls I know who hooked up with a black guy and got pregnant, ended up being alone with the kid.
If I meet a nice black guy who is shy and not a loud douche bag then I would date him if he wanted to date me back
here's a thought; don't chase dumbasses that chase the 'thug stereotype' :v
I'm doing more than fine in the dating department and I mean that for all races not just black women by the way. Also, it's more of the attitude that makes dating and attracting women for me very easy.
Ok... that's it... I'm writing a book.
I actually hate the "thug" type, that guy in the first pic looks really good to me though. I see where you're coming from, it's a bad stereotype, and just being black in general you'll get those kind of assumptions made about you. If I'm dating a black guy then I want him to be the opposite of the thug type. More similar to me in many of those things, just like the way you described yourself.