Why you shouldn't date someone who looks way more attractive than you

[Anonymous]

There are advantages but there's also disadvantages too. I'm a 10 out of 10 and I know about this so I'm trying to warn you.

Don't do it

They won't be into you as much as you're into them

If the person you're dating is of higher mating value, then that definitely means they're definitely not going to be as excited as you are.

They will most likely use you for their own advantage

This person most likely knows that they're more attractive than you, so they'd expect you to kiss their ass because they know that you're the one who's getting the better deal. There's usually a reason why they decided to date you. For example, your money or your niceness is what they want to take an advantage of.

They're more likely to leave you for someone better

If someone is way more attractive than you, that means they have more dating options than you and won't lose anything for leaving you for someone better. What's the point of dating a person who's more likely to attract a lot of people who are better than you? That's a lot of competition. If they're more attractive than you, they most likely know there's better options or eventually realize that they can do better. So they'll eventually get tired of dating you and go for one of the better options.

It's very likely there's something wrong with them

Normal people aren't genuinely interested in dating someone who's less attractive than them. It's just the instincts of every species to not want to downgrade their genes. Why would a normal person decide to date someone who's less attractive than them? It's very likely that this person is downright mean, insecure, poor, lazy, drug addict, unbearably stupid, unfaithful, mentally ill, or etc. All these negative traits can lower a person's league. See also for more traits that determine a person's league

But if there's nothing wrong with them?

So what if the person who's more attractive than you doesn't have any serious issues, wasn't taking an advantage of you, and was really into you? This situation is very unlikely to occur. Break ups are very common these days. People's lives and minds can be complicated. Because it's rare for mentally sane people to date someone who's way less attractive than them, you most likely won't be able to find someone who's just as good if you break up with them. It will be a painful breakup for you. It will make your expectations higher and you will be disappointed when you can't find someone just as good, which will taint your future relationships with people who aren't just as good and it would make it unlikely for you to find love again.

[CT_CD]

I agree. I'm also a 10/10

[Ranger2019]

Yeah, i bet.

[brennanhuff]

no he is, I've heard that from other GAG women

[surfsup69]

@brennanhuff I've heard too. Everyone knows that an ::anonymous:: person is getting told that he's a 10/10 from other GAG women.

[grashopper]

Pics or dit didn't happen

[surfsup69]

@grashopper What do we need pics for? Just like the OP, we're a 10/10 and we don't need no stinking pics to prove it!

[grashopper]

@surfsup69 I'm a 100/10

[ManOnFire]

Well, it certainly is interesting, and I do believe that there's a lot of truth here that would apply to very attractive people who are WEALTHY, but maybe not the average population. And I do think that what you say would apply to very attractive women far more than very attractive men.

It's all curious because I personally am not really attracted to very gorgeous women anymore at this point in my life. I've had enough experience with them and have found that many don't really have a lot of character or personality and seem to have dull interests and 'basic bitch' lifestyles. They tend to think that their looks are most important in life too.

[cykasenpai]

Well said. Although I can't attest to the latter, I do think this applies better to women than men. Men are much more likely to "trade down", it's just in their nature (there is clear statistics on this).

[jennifer_bloom]

So the person who wrote this is a pathological liar, arrogant, selfish and has no respect for himself or respect for others which is why he says that he is a 10 out of 10 and only dates other 10s. Any moron with a brain would know that a 10 hottie with no personality and no brain is hell on wheels but this guy has never had a real relationship which is why he thinks being hot is enough.

[MajorZero]

No need to call names. Discuss your points in an educated way. It’s his point of view, help him by being a person that can provide value in your opinion.

[Kemil_Zhoki]

@MajorZero I would usually agree, but the asker is ridiculously delusional.

[Beee123]

hey every guy wants a 10 lol, even the ugly ones want 10s

[OlderAndWiser]

Since you are a 10/10 and you have described what you consider to be a typical 10/10 personality, I will assume that you have described yourself. That means that you, too, are an asshole. . . or someone who enjoys trolling! :) :) :)

[StingRayxoxo]

For most of my life, I selected dates/partners who were less attractive than me. I naively thought that it would prevent being cheated on or broken up with.

[noubigdumbdumb]

I agreed with your original point to an extent, but not exactly your arguments.

It's true, dating someone "way out of your league" is generally unseen. However, when you put someone on such a pedestal, you're actively giving them that power. Use your brain. Unless you're trying to get a celebrity or something, there's not many people who are "out of your league". Relationships aren't always about physical attraction, though obviously, it will play a part.

I'm a literal perfect example of something like this. Before anyone says anything, I'm a realist and I don't see any relationships through shit like rose-colored glasses and things. My girlfriend of 2 years, initially I thought was also "way out of my league". She was a "10/10", 19k followers on instagram, had a group of rich friends, that sort of thing. Now back at me. I'd say I'm a 7/10 on a normal day, can go up to a 8.5/10 or so depending on fashion, with a measly 400 followers at the time. So she's definitely in a "league higher" than me. Now, it's no denying to anyone that she's the one who looks better out of the 2 of us in the relationships. However, we're both attracted to each other because we both have the same interests and common things between us. Also, consider that we started off with next to 0 mutual friends, completely different schools, and we still somehow got together and have stayed together through all this. You can't just assume shit like this, relationships and dating aren't always about physical looks. They play a part in physical attraction, but it's only a small part of the whole picture unless you're immature as hell.

[Rashad]

This is completely false!

Physical apperance is quite important but so is a lot more things. Such as sex drive - are the 2 compatibility sexually. Most divorces happen because of the sex drive incompatibility, one of them ends up cheating on the other. Not because of their physical look. When one person has a strong sex drive and the other one doesn’t. One of them ends up cheating on the other one.
It can also be said about financial issues, some girls don’t want to work Hard and will go for a guy that is more wealthy because she knows he can offer a house in a better neighbor hood, less stressful life etc.
so you can say this in every matter, in the relationship.

I have had beutiful married woman with more attractive husbands that chose to sleep with me or one of my friends. Because the guy she was with had a lower sex drive! and wouldn’t f** her when she needed him to!

Also, with other issues for example financial hardship. Will lead woman to look for mates that are wealthier. I have paid a married girl 600$ to spend a night with me. And she didn’t do it because her husband wasn’t attractive! she did it because her husband couldn’t buy her things she wanted!

[Anonymous]

Not to toot my own horn but I know I am good looking. And I always find myself talking to guys that are less attractive and I never date them. I'll just talk to them for a week until I get bored or the guy gets too clingy and I dump him.

I also like my ego to be stroked and how they basically worship me. I usually talk to more than one guy at once with no real intent to date them. If they interest me enough I sometimes give my fake burner number to text them. But the fact that they bend over backwards for me hardcore makes me like them less. Like I would respect a guy who has self respect and doesn't become my puppet. But guys that literally change everything about themselves just to be with me makes me find them really annoying. I always encounter guys like this. I've never met a guy who tries to take control. Its always the guys who fall all over chasing me and trying to please me. I have these moments where I talk to a few guys until I get tired of them. I either ghost them or break it off through text harshly. Then months pass and I get bored and do it again. I know it's a problem. I'm trying to stop. I know the majority of them really want to use me for sex and have that satisfaction. That's more the reason I mess with them knowing that I'm just torturing them while they jump through hoops for me and I just cut it off without the slightest thought about them.

[CubsterShura]

Girl, get help.

[Lonewolf881]

I can relate on only guys wanting me for sex I don’t blame u for playing games with them. It’s not like they truly want me anyways

[Anonymous]

i was blocked by @jennifer_bloom, but in this case, I agree in some ways. The author does have a point that dating somebody way more attractive than you think people perceive you as can lead to all sorts of issues. It's not to say never do it, as I also hear so called super attractive people being often dateless because people are too scared to approach. In my methods, don't focus on dating at all too much. Meet many people, get to know many people and when you like one of them, perhaps isolate them a bit and see to maybe slowly take it further. There's at least 3 or 4 girls I can list that I know many guys would have lost it because they talked a lot to just me. Many guys would be thinking "OMG A GIRL IS TALKING TO ME! ITS A SIGN!" and this is BAD. The best thing in my opinion to do, is see women like you see men. Just ordinary fellows wanting to interact with anybody and usually not show specific interest beyond an ally or friend. Treat it as such, and make it known you're committed to treating it as such if the topic comes up, and the women worth it will find value in that and may even approach you instead. Worked for me twice. Never put a human on a pedestal due to looks. They are a human likely somewhat broken with many flaws problems and horrible gross things they do, but keep it well hidden for public image sake. Be realistic with anybody. Nobody is special. All grow old and wrinkled, eventually dying. Facts of life.

[btbc92]

All of this sounds like a VERY insecure person to me. A person like that is just selfish. All your concerned about is looks and that is who you will attract. "If someone is way more attractive than you, that means they have more dating options than you and won't lose anything for leaving you for someone better." No. They have more SEX options, not better dating options. Big difference. Not that hard to screw anybody or anything.

[myTake Owner]

If the person is actually more attractive than it definitely means they have more dating options. Like it or not, people always want to settle for the best person they can get.

[btbc92]

No. Nobody with common sense CARES about that. I don't. I don't look at looks. I see the person is HUMAN. And they have feelings too. I can care less what others do. I don't treat people differently based on physical looks. Maybe you do. But then it says a lot about you. So if you want to treat people like s*** because of looks, guess how you're going to get treated as? You guess it.

[btbc92]

Sounds like you lack confidence. If you don't see your self enough, and that other person doesn't feel the same way you view yourself. then it's not them, it's you. And nobody can love a 'negative' person.

[btbc92]

Anybody*

[btbc92]

I have YET to see a good-natured person seek the affections of an ill-intended hypocrite with good looks. Because trust me. I'm one of those people who rejected so-called 10/10 men coming towards me because they lack what I needed in a partner.

[myTake Owner]

The only people who don't care about looks are unattractive people because barely anyone is interested to date them so they can't be picky on looks.

[btbc92]

I smell BS.

[btbc92]

And since when you think for other people. Sounds like you don't have many good friends.

[myTake Owner]

When you reject someone, it's almost always because of their looks. How would you know what they would be like as a partner? I smell BS. You're obviously the one who lacks confidence because you rejected a guy who you think is a 10/10 and thinking it's because he supposedly lacks what you 'need' when you don't know him well enough. I mean I doubt he was ever friends with you, so you obviously rejected him because you know he could easily leave you for someone better and there's something wrong with him. Hypocrite.

[btbc92]

"When you reject someone, it's almost always because of their looks. How would you know what they would be like as a partner?" By being FRIENDS FIRST? H-ello? " You're obviously the one who lacks confidence because you rejected a guy who you think is a 10/10 and thinking it's because he supposedly lacks what you 'need' when you don't know him well enough." Buddy you don't know WHY I rejected them. I rejected them because 1: I never date somebody I was never friends with FIRST. Rule #1. Rule #2, I am NOT having premarital sex before marriage and NEVER do I want a person who only wants to be with me because of my looks. I care about a person's heart. The looks come after for consideration of sexual attraction in general. That is the least of my mind.

"I mean I doubt he was ever friends with you, so you obviously rejected him because you know he could easily leave you for someone better and there's something wrong with him. Hypocrite." And WHY would I WANT a fickle person like that?

[btbc92]

Seriously man. Do you really know what you're talking about or somebody hurt you so bad you can't see the reality? The reality is I would never want a person who doesn't have eyes on me. He's eying other chicks, I would have left anyway. Who wants to be treated like that? That's evil. If I say I love somebody. I mean it. If I can't find myself having a future with that person, I won't be them. Also, I am a Christian. And many guys that approached me WEREN'T Christian or want to date somebody like me anyway. They only approached me because I 'looked cute'. Their words, not mine. When I told them that I wanted to be friends first to see if where compatible, they scoffed at me, told me how nobody would want to date or marry me, and how I would make a bad wife and mother! So thank you very much. For your ignorance.

[btbc92]

Why date somebody who would emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and mentally abuse me? No thank you! I don't even treat atheist that way and I have atheist friends.

[Lonewolf881]

So that’s why I’m single lmao

[btbc92]

@Lonewolf881 No. You're single because you make no effort to befriend somebody and get to know what they are about. Your single, because you don't know what you want, need and value in a man, and desire for the future, such as marriage. You want something that badly, GO GET IT. A relationship is not about you. It's about that other person. Are you prepared to be 100% selfless of your wants, needs, and desires for another person? Think about that before you say 'I want somebody'.

[Lonewolf881]

Whether you get to know someone or not doesn’t raise or chances with them they’re still gonna pick the more attractive person over you or reject you. I’ve tried about everything I gave up lol@btbc92

[btbc92]

@Lonewolf881 Then why date them? That's you being foolish and it has nothing to do with them. Period. It means you have personal issues that need to get addressed before you end up hurting a person who wants to do life right with you. THEN they'll make your self fulfilling prophesy true. The things you say, I will never do. So why get somebody who I easily swayed by looks?

[yucychan]

What a stupid take. By your logic, that means I have to purposely look for ugly people to date. And attractive, good-looking people don't deserve to have relationships with normal-looking people. What nonsense.
People can't choose how they look, we are all born with unique features that make us more attractive or less attractive. And it's pretty unfair to say that I can only date this group of people because of my looks.
And you claiming yourself as 10 out of 10, and coming up with this bs relationship advice only shows that you are obnoxious to the brim.

[myTake Owner]

and aren't you too old to date someone more attractive and younger than you?

[yucychan]

That's not my real age. I'm way younger.

[CubsterShura]

Even if she was old, so what? There are plenty of women who still look beautiful at that age and there are plenty of men who like older women. Ugh blue anon mind your own business, god damn it!

[FlyingHorses]

If someone describes themselves as a 10/10 that automatically means that they are not a 10/10 as they clearly have a douchebag personality which makes them less attractive! The right person is going to be completely into you and think you are the most beautiful thing on the planet regardless of how your looks measure up to other people! What you're really saying is 'don't date someone who's an arrogant arsehole and thinks they are better looking than you' which is pretty much a given anyway!

[awkwardman]

10/10 my ass! Like you said they clearly have a douchebag personality. at least I know I'm a 2/ on my good days.

[Rosie00]

I disagree completely about almost every point you made and almost everything you said. Also no one is a 10/10 and I know that’s rich coming from me but it’s almost impossible. People don’t pick partners based on entirely looks I mean I’m not going to sit here like a god and say I’ve never gone out with someone because they were attractive obviously I have i mean if I didn’t find them attractive I wouldn’t of gone up to them but I’ve also been out with someone completely based on their personality and over a few days started to find them really attractive.

[Rosie00]

Also if someone says they are a 10/10 that straight away makes them not a 10/10. I mean not once have I come across and genuinely beautiful woman or straight up gorgeous man and they’ve said ‘yes I know I would describe myself a 10/10. Perfect actually’ un ironically and if they did they’d automatically become less attractive defeating the fact that they look good.

[victoriaxoxo]

I agree. I often date down my league because the guys are less problematic and if breakups occur I know that it is more likely that I will move on and they will spend the next few years wishing they had another shot with me.

Damn, that sounded really shallow, but this is something I reflected on recently because before I didn't realise why I automatically consider guys who are slightly less attractive than me to be 'dating material' and almost never those who are way hotter. The cons of that kind of mentality for me were that I began assuming that every guy who is more ugly is automatically going to be nicer and cause less drama. Which is not true in a minority of cases, as I came to find lol.

[Gus0692]

It's always kids who think this way. When you get a little older and start to realize that there's more to relationships than sex and looks, you'll find values and personality make or break a relationship.

[victoriaxoxo]

@Gus0692 I’m just a few years younger than you... the ageism on this site is beyond me.
I fully comprehend that it is not just about sex, but at the moment I’m a bachelorette that travels a lot so I had to place myself into that shallow mindset, it does however make relationships easier 8/10 times.

[brennanhuff]

You are 10/10... yet you post as anonymous... nice troll job lol. Plus that's not you to decide but others. Even if you're good looking, I'm sure plenty of women don't see you as a perfect 10. And there's so much more than looks. You placed looks as automatically as higher value. Yes a person who is ugly will have not have high value or desire. But there's many other factors in attractivness. For example, a person that's a 10, but not so smart, and then another person who is a 7 or 8, so good looking too, but say is very smart, talented, witty, kind, they are of higher value than the 10 to me, because they are more well rounded in other attractive attributes to go with the physical.

[Anonymous]

Since girls are at first not attracted to any gender. Women do not experience sexual attraction until they form a emotional connection with someone. In general, Women are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender, but if an emotional connection is formed with someone else, they may experience sexual attraction towards the specific partner (s).

A muscular body, attractive guy is just nice looking as like nice painting or it is something that attract them. Because before forming emotional connection they can't feel attracted to muscular body, attractive guy even muscular body would not attract them until they get to know a guy. That's why girls are lucky. They date and fallen in love with right guy.

[Nita2585]

Boy you told the ABSOLUTE TRUTH!

[Opinion Owner]

@Nita2585 Yes I know brother.

[PetrovaFire92]

You are right!

[Opinion Owner]

@PetrovaFire92 I know brother.

[myTake Owner]

This is obviously bs. If there is a handsome guy, normal girls don’t even need to know his name to be sexually attracted to him. Demisexuality is a myth. Girls who claim to feel sexual attraction after forming emotional connection are obviously repressed. That’s not normal.

[Elaurious]

You are not good looking and trying to harbor negative feelings in people against those who are. No attractive person thinks like this. I do agree that dating in your league is better for other reason, but a really attractive person would not write this bullocks.

[Ellie-V]

So your advice is to play into your own low self esteem instead of overcoming them and the growing confidence it takes to pursue someone who may be more attractive than you? Hmm...
This is just sad.

[myTake Owner]

Why is common sense and realism being being mistaken for low self esteem? I'm a ten out of ten and I'm not interested in pursuing someone.

[CubsterShura]

Yawn, I knew it before even clicking that this is going to be a blue anon or a blue user with depressing username sharing toxic stuff out of bitterness.

[ManOnFire]

Lmfao. Funny points there. But I do think he has a point on some things.

[CubsterShura]

Only a jerk would mistreat a partner like that.

[Kemil_Zhoki]

It is amazing how many anons are 10's, isn't it?

[CubsterShura]

@Kemil_Zhoki it might be the same troll, it several trolls encouraged by one.

[CubsterShura]

Or**

And by the way this guy is telling everyone that if a relationship with an attractive person didn't work out then it must be because of the reason that he stated. Gosh he needs a life.

Hey blue anon, God forbid but if today you ever had a severe accident and got your skin burned or cut and you are left with permanent marks and scars from that incidence, where will you go in life since you so heavily depend on your 10/10 looks?

[Q-tip-boy]

He's just talking about looks. It doesn't mean he doesn't give importance to personality. However, people are just making this assumption. Looks do count while making decisions about getting into relationships. Of course personality has to be given priority. i agree with this mytake upto some extent

[CubsterShura]

@Q-tip-boy bro you don't know this troll and things he stated in past. Yes he never said personality isn't important, but he heavily disregards people who are less attractive.

[Q-tip-boy]

May be i dont know.

[passinby]

I guess I don't care and will go with ugly to hot and have and do. The way it really works is out of a purely random event, I meet someone, we hit it off; she has flaws and I have flaws but something unexplained happens. We find ourselves locked in this attraction beam. There are attractants that are beneath the surface that our conscious minds don’t even process so this is all irrelevant in my view.

[BigFishSmallPond]

Being someone that has dated way out of my league... She was way more into me, she never used me and infact begged me to use her, she never even thought about leaving at all even though everyone is better, unfortunately there was something wrong with her but it wasn't anything super major compared to my issues.

[PetrovaFire92]

Are you guys still together or did you break up with her?

[myTake Owner]

So you dated someone more attractive than you and you're telling me that it didn't work out, great.

[candycanehearts]

That is so dumb and childish it obviously wasn't bc of her or his looks refusing to listen to a whole story and only taking out what u want is stupid and pathetic and it doesn't prove anything to anyone