Ghosting is not a bad thing if you aren't gonna respond forever and just hoping they will get it and leave you alone.
But it is a bad thing if you tell them you love them then one day later ghost them the whole day and then talk to them next day like it didn't happen. And keep on doing this.
They got the point that you are a bitch, yes. If you are a reasonable human being, with reasonable justifications, you have no reason to fear confrontation because people will have no reasons to confront you.
Those who "fear confrontation" are those who are well aware that their behavior deserved it. Just my humble opinion.
@Wolframium If I were sensitive, I could have cursed you out for cursing at me but I didn't. Pointing out something doesn't make me sensitive. You're not very bright.
Your reaction was typical for someone sensitive. To god damn internet "offense". :-D I mean… Oh, the pointlessness. I might not be very bright, but you are bright as a black hole.
@Jeenabenson I could state an opinion without personally attacking you, but I would be misconstruing it, since a fundamental part of my opinion is that you are a bad person.
The profanity is just a faster way to formulate that you are self-serving person who shifts blame onto others in an attempt to avoid taking responsibility for your bad behavior.
I don't know what to say. I’ve been ghosted. The thing you said- “People simply don’t want you in their life if they ghost you”. But what if you people talked for a long time and then suddenly they start ghosting you. Don’t tell me you’ll be able to detach yourself so easily from them after being with them for so long. It hurts. It FUCKING hurts. I demand an explanation and I surely deserve one. And your point might be- “No one owes you an explanation”. Fine then, I’ll go cry in a corner like an infant. But don’t tell me it isn’t a big deal either. If they really wanted me out of their life, why the hell didn’t they block me? But no! They’d keep me as a FACEBOOK friend but they can’t reply when I text them. Wow👏
And and I’m not uttering all this shit above☝️ because I recently got ghosted and I’m mad rn. Mind you it was 2 years ago and I don’t really care tbh. I’m just strictly against the idea which says “GHOSTING IS FINE AND OBVIOUS”
Leave it up to a 16 year girl to try to justify avoiding conflict. Conflict and confrontation are a part of life. If you can't deal with it then you're in for a rocky ride. You'll find out in the adult world that regardless of whether someone appears to be okay with being ditched without any explanation, people do appreciate when someone takes the time to let them know what happened. It's just the right thing to do.
Ehhh I don't really care whether someone ghosts me or not. If they're a stranger, who cares, I don't know them. If they're a friend, don't need them in my life anyways. I know some people call it really rude but speaking from experience, a lot of the time I will ghost people cause if I confront them about it, you know I'm going to explode, cause I don't ghost people for nothing. I think that exploding on them would be far more rude than leaving them on read, yknow?
It is a big deal because say you get close with someone then you ignore them for 3 months then you seem them in person and how will that go? Texting and the net has made people worse human beings so they can use people for what they want then just ignore and disgard them when they don't need them or find someone they think is better.
It's a huge character flaw and shows lack of courtesy to ghost someone. You may not think it's a big deal now until it affects you personally. And trust me, it will happen.
You could also be a decent human being, and treat people with as much respect as they gave you. Ghosting is treating someone as if you have as much reason to respond to someone you have never spoken to before. And that's not a big deal, but you could also debate giving anyone the silent treatment isn't a big deal.
It's immature, and shows you don't have the communication skills to cut ties with people instead of leaving an invisible thread.
How are you married so young I feel sorry for you (well Mostly your husband) and about the ghosting thing. It depends if you’ve been talking for a while and then out of no where they ghost you then yea you’ll be hurt but if you just start talking and then they do it then I don’t think that person should care
Ghosting is a big deal to me. It’s insensitive and freakin rude! Like he you don’t like the person anymore how about you be straight up with them and tell them how you feel and to not contact you anymore just so the person won’t look or feel stupid. Just be considerate of the other person feelings.
It is a big deal. Because the way in which you live your life you view everyone as digital pixels on a screen and don't make actual meaningful relationships with people. Since they are nothing but text on a screen you're far more willing to ghost them because you have no attachment to them on a human level. Vs if a guy asked you in person and you each had no contact information for the other you will he far less likely to ghost.
This is how healthy societies behave not on a virtual screen.
It just means they're cowards to tell the truth. They don't want conflicts because ghosting makes the other person feel good while the other person don't. It's a selfish act for your information. Getting away just because you can.
When you grow up you will realize it is a incredibly childish thing to do. An adult faces up to their choices. If you don't want to be with someone, friends or otherwise, tell them. Don't put your head in a hole and hide like a child.
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The only time I ghosted someone was because they were either dangerous, hurt me, or put me in a sketchy situation.
The problem with being ghosted makes you feel like you don't do anything right and it makes it hard for you to improve your situation when you don't know where you went wrong.
I agree. It's so uncomfortable to have to tell someone that you don't want to see them anymore, or at least that you're not interested. 70% of communication is nonverbal; so, this should be accepted as just that.
I understand your point of view. But you have to realize that for many other people, that's not how they perceive it and that their perception is valid.
It's rude and cowardly. Although I understand due to it's lack of responsibility and recourse. The path of least resistance.
Not talking to someone after 1 date is very different than abruptly cutting off contact with a person you've regularly had conversations with or known for a long time.
That's what people usually mean by ghosting. The context you're using the word Ghost is completely different than most people responding to you are thinking. Who are most people? Most people are not completely detached from others that none of their interactions mean anything.
Its extremely rude to do this kind of thing. Things like ghosting actually make me be less invested in social life. Why would I emotionally invest myself in a girl if she can just decide to ghost me and never talk to me again ever?
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Ghosting is not a bad thing if you aren't gonna respond forever and just hoping they will get it and leave you alone.
But it is a bad thing if you tell them you love them then one day later ghost them the whole day and then talk to them next day like it didn't happen. And keep on doing this.
They got the point that you are a bitch, yes.
If you are a reasonable human being, with reasonable justifications, you have no reason to fear confrontation because people will have no reasons to confront you.
Those who "fear confrontation" are those who are well aware that their behavior deserved it.
Just my humble opinion.
You can state your opinion without personally attacking with profanity.
@Jeenabenson Lol. Who is the sensitive one, again? :-D
@Wolframium If I were sensitive, I could have cursed you out for cursing at me but I didn't. Pointing out something doesn't make me sensitive. You're not very bright.
Your reaction was typical for someone sensitive. To god damn internet "offense". :-D I mean… Oh, the pointlessness.
I might not be very bright, but you are bright as a black hole.
@Jeenabenson I could state an opinion without personally attacking you, but I would be misconstruing it, since a fundamental part of my opinion is that you are a bad person.
The profanity is just a faster way to formulate that you are self-serving person who shifts blame onto others in an attempt to avoid taking responsibility for your bad behavior.
I don't know what to say. I’ve been ghosted. The thing you said- “People simply don’t want you in their life if they ghost you”.
But what if you people talked for a long time and then suddenly they start ghosting you. Don’t tell me you’ll be able to detach yourself so easily from them after being with them for so long. It hurts. It FUCKING hurts.
I demand an explanation and I surely deserve one. And your point might be- “No one owes you an explanation”.
Fine then, I’ll go cry in a corner like an infant.
But don’t tell me it isn’t a big deal either.
If they really wanted me out of their life, why the hell didn’t they block me?
But no! They’d keep me as a FACEBOOK friend but they can’t reply when I text them. Wow👏
And and I’m not uttering all this shit above☝️ because I recently got ghosted and I’m mad rn. Mind you it was 2 years ago and I don’t really care tbh. I’m just strictly against the idea which says “GHOSTING IS FINE AND OBVIOUS”
Leave it up to a 16 year girl to try to justify avoiding conflict. Conflict and confrontation are a part of life. If you can't deal with it then you're in for a rocky ride. You'll find out in the adult world that regardless of whether someone appears to be okay with being ditched without any explanation, people do appreciate when someone takes the time to let them know what happened. It's just the right thing to do.
Ehhh I don't really care whether someone ghosts me or not. If they're a stranger, who cares, I don't know them. If they're a friend, don't need them in my life anyways. I know some people call it really rude but speaking from experience, a lot of the time I will ghost people cause if I confront them about it, you know I'm going to explode, cause I don't ghost people for nothing. I think that exploding on them would be far more rude than leaving them on read, yknow?
It is a big deal because say you get close with someone then you ignore them for 3 months then you seem them in person and how will that go? Texting and the net has made people worse human beings so they can use people for what they want then just ignore and disgard them when they don't need them or find someone they think is better.
Anything that hurts someone's feelings unnecessary is a big deal.
It's a huge character flaw and shows lack of courtesy to ghost someone. You may not think it's a big deal now until it affects you personally. And trust me, it will happen.
It has happened and it doesn’t bother me. That’s why it’s not a big deal to me.
I do agree that it isn't a big deal... But.
You could also be a decent human being, and treat people with as much respect as they gave you. Ghosting is treating someone as if you have as much reason to respond to someone you have never spoken to before. And that's not a big deal, but you could also debate giving anyone the silent treatment isn't a big deal.
It's immature, and shows you don't have the communication skills to cut ties with people instead of leaving an invisible thread.
Is the ghosting you’re referring to the same as when guys on tinder stop replying?
@babylips14 I don't know, sure?
Cause 90% of guys om tinder stop replying at some point.
@babylips14 nice observation? You obviously have a point you're trying to prove, but I don't really use tinder so I wouldn't know.
How are you married so young I feel sorry for you (well
Mostly your husband) and about the ghosting thing. It depends if you’ve been talking for a while and then out of no where they ghost you then yea you’ll be hurt but if you just start talking and then they do it then I don’t think that person should care
I’m not married. Just made a point. If I had a husband I wouldn’t ghost.
Ghosting is a big deal to me. It’s insensitive and freakin rude! Like he you don’t like the person anymore how about you be straight up with them and tell them how you feel and to not contact you anymore just so the person won’t look or feel stupid. Just be considerate of the other person feelings.
It is a big deal. Because the way in which you live your life you view everyone as digital pixels on a screen and don't make actual meaningful relationships with people. Since they are nothing but text on a screen you're far more willing to ghost them because you have no attachment to them on a human level. Vs if a guy asked you in person and you each had no contact information for the other you will he far less likely to ghost.
This is how healthy societies behave not on a virtual screen.
It just means they're cowards to tell the truth. They don't want conflicts because ghosting makes the other person feel good while the other person don't. It's a selfish act for your information. Getting away just because you can.
When you grow up you will realize it is a incredibly childish thing to do. An adult faces up to their choices. If you don't want to be with someone, friends or otherwise, tell them. Don't put your head in a hole and hide like a child.
The only time I ghosted someone was because they were either dangerous, hurt me, or put me in a sketchy situation.
The problem with being ghosted makes you feel like you don't do anything right and it makes it hard for you to improve your situation when you don't know where you went wrong.
I agree. It's so uncomfortable to have to tell someone that you don't want to see them anymore, or at least that you're not interested. 70% of communication is nonverbal; so, this should be accepted as just that.
Kinda makes me feel better when someone ghosts me, let's me know their still too immature to even confront me about anything
True! I'm going to adopt your attitude about ghosting. They were not worth keeping around if they do it to you. It lets you see their true colors.
I understand your point of view. But you have to realize that for many other people, that's not how they perceive it and that their perception is valid.
It's rude and cowardly. Although I understand due to it's lack of responsibility and recourse. The path of least resistance.
Not really. Most people understand it. If I don’t answer your text after a first date, I don’t want to see you.
Not talking to someone after 1 date is very different than abruptly cutting off contact with a person you've regularly had conversations with or known for a long time.
That's what people usually mean by ghosting. The context you're using the word Ghost is completely different than most people responding to you are thinking. Who are most people? Most people are not completely detached from others that none of their interactions mean anything.
I'm 16 so listen to me when I tell the world that my limited experience has shown me that the prevailing wisdom is wrong!
Yeah kid. Sure.
Its extremely rude to do this kind of thing. Things like ghosting actually make me be less invested in social life. Why would I emotionally invest myself in a girl if she can just decide to ghost me and never talk to me again ever?