7 things to do to find somebody to date!
Do not play games!
That's right. Throw off your self help covert psychology books. The tactics rarely work, and if you aren't as clever as you believe - things might get worse.
And I don't mean just mind games. Even "guess my age", another common lame-o game. So you look older than you are? Don't try to make people look bad!
Plus, playing around makes people feel you're undeserving. You aren't worth dating. If that's not what you want, stick to genuine date hunts xD.
Can't emphasis enough. Absolutely. This one I found on some NPL seduction site. It said you gotta have friends to make it happen.
So I'm telling you it.
How do you do it? Simply help around. Join a community. Prep as a volunteer. Gather, cheers, clink-clink! If you've got time to kill. I suggest you do the above in your 'leisurely hours'. Find a place to relax and unwind first.
Perks of having great number of friends is advice. Probably being set up also, if lucky.
Plus friendship can be a good start of getting to know them in person. If things work out, you can take them out!
Don't bury your feelings
Confession. Many people chicken out from confessing to their crushes. Stalking them from distance isn't exactly going to go anywhere, naturally.
Introvert or not, pop out the bubble! Yes, laying your feelings bare is hard but spotting them holding hands with somebody else is harder! Agreed.
And you can always move on after rejection. Take Spring Blue Ride anime for instance here.
Hit your past demons!
Clear any baggage from exes. That includes buried feelings and sentimental items. As my mom says about cakes : you can't buy another one if there's still leftovers in fridge!
Let bygones be bygones.
Don't pull out a Ross Geller! By taking your ex girlfriend's name in wedding. Humorous but but so uncool, bro.
Secondly, cure off your issues. By that I mean any parting gift your former babe left you. Including intimacy issues, trust issues, fear of vulnerability etc etc.
Cross off unrealistic off the list!
It most probably helps if you recheck your standards. I'd say GaG is a great way for doing it - evaluation, surveys, comparison.
"I don't go out with smokers."
A wise decision. Won't like playing tongue hockey with a person blowing cancer sticks, would ya?
"I don't like people wearing glasses."
That's... um okay. Tad offensive because this is tech era. Around 60% people wear that so... Yeah.
Enjoy casual dating...
At least for a while. Most people I know are so fucking serious minded.
You can't rush things. Love doesn't work on timelines. Gotta invest time and energy.
So don't tryna browse for baby names while the waiter's getting you desserts on fifth date. I'm not joking, I've a friend who once did this. At first her gushing was all cute but it did freak out her boyfriend.
Know you can have fun. For some, including me the asocial one, enjoying is the hardest part.
Put "dating" on hold
If all doesn't work out with you, you can always focus on self. There's nothing more important and attractive than somebody who's fit and successful.
Take time off from this. Go nuts with friends, take family out! It'd be for the best.
Good luck! X