I have been dating a guy for about a month, we have been to three dates, we usually talk every other day. we have great chemistry and in the third date we had a great intimate time. in the third date he mentioned the next time we are together and I was sure that he was enjoying my company because he didn't want me to leave at the end of the date. the problem now IS that after the third date he didn't contact me for 4 days and that's when I Thought maybe he doesn't want to see me again but because I liked him so much I thought I'd text him, so I did and he replayed after 2 hours and said that he sorry for being so busy coz he is a band member and they had a concert (he also works full time and studies part time). we talked and continued talking next morning and he replied even though he was at work but still replayed to my texts, he told me that he got another concert next week and he was practicing the night before. from all of that I thought maybe he likes me coz he is replaying even when he is busy or at work but the problem NOW is its been 5 days since then and he hasn't contacted me! I am so depressed as I really like him and I don't know if I should just forget about him :(
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why does it seem like he always has to be the one to reach out to you first. when you reach out to him he does reply. if he is doing band stuff then it is legit that he is busy.
that said, it really a great sign that he may go 5-days without reaching out to you. I think it may be a sign of how strong his feelings are for you, by which I mean, if he liked you more PERHAPS he'd be more reliable in terms of reaching out... BUT he could also just have tunnel vision and be really focused on his task with the band.
I think you should try not to infer anything from these past few actions, or inaction but rather try and discuss and get a gauge for where his feelings are for you and the relationship1
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