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If we are together for some time, I enjoy having sex with my boyfriend. It's intimate and a good way to bond. Plus, good exercise!
Very important, I need some type of sexual play in my relationship.
I don't need sex, but some kind of intimate contact would be nice.
I'm waiting for merriage
That's soo awesome!! Envy u for that.. I am waiting as well
That's good. I don't have much, so I'm not gonna ruin something that good by doing things wrong... if I get a second change with a girl I love
Chance
so if u get her back u r going to ruin her?
No, that's why I wanna build a life with the right way. Besides, I screwed up before I even got to kiss her. And the guy she's with is already ruining her. He cheated on her and abused her a few years back, handle twisted her dreams and believes and is converting her to Islamic beliefs. I wouldve tried to change her too-but to help her. I won't go into detail, but she has a rough past but he only took advantage.
sry for my language but asshole... that's terrable
fyi so u don't get the wrong idea for some reason.. im calling him the asshole
Yeah... but as much as I hate to admit it... I was too. She was having issues and outta fear of what could've happen and said horrible things... instead of helping her avoid the path I feared... I helped hlped push her down... that was about 6 years ago after I spent 4 years to relocate her-she moved as I was working up the courage to pursue her then
awwe.. well at least now u know what u did wrong now
Yeah. Just hope it pays off
the mistakes make u who u r.. it makes u wiser
The cost was too high. I'd sacrifice everything to go back to the 1st day I met her... not that I have much worth fighter for except that second chance.
But what you sad reminds me of a song: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0VDNMtn0t2A . I remember a night we stayed up til about 3:30 for me 2:30 for just talking and listening to music, ironically, she was more into that rap nonsense.
Said
awwwe... yea I love all dif kinds of music, and I remember a few times I stayed up all night talking
I'm good so long as it's not rap, oldies, or Oprah
Or jazz and disco... but I suppose those count is oldies
yea im more into country myself.. dance, very little rap, mettle I likr
Country and rock are my main two. Though, country will always be number 1, I grew up with it
Check this one out: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DJpGOIFc204 . The first time I saw the vid was by accident.
that's cool
Yeah. He's been been an inspiration to me
really.. how so?
We both have been through hell and back. I really didn't have people to rais me in my earlier years... unless you think alcoholics and drug addicts are good examples to live by. So, I I turned to cartoons. I learned to fight and never give up til the mission is through
ahh kk yea
Good! Find a compatible partner and go for it! :-)
@TenderFantasy I did...
in my opinion, without sex it's just a friendship.
ok but what about waiting till marriage to have sex?
in my opinion, the idea of waiting for marriage is an idea that lets society control your sex life. It is letting society tell you "you are not ready for sex until you are married, and once you are married you are ready for sex." You should certainly wait until you are ready, but that could be tomorrow, next month, it could even be years AFTER you are married.
Also, not everyone wants to get married. All it really is is documenting a relationship with the state you live in. It doesn't add anything. It carries the benefit of being allowed to visit each other in the hospital, and, under the right conditions, certain tax benefits, but it doesn't accomplish anything beyond that.
Of course, this could all just be my age speaking. When I was young, abstaining from sex made a kind of sense because I didn't know what it was - there was an element of mysticism to it. But now it's like jogging: fun and healthy, and if a girl didn't want to do it in a relationship, I wouldn't understand.
ok so I want to wait till I am married, mostly bc I don't want to get nocked up before marriage, and I figured that I would mean more to him knowing I haven't had another dick shoved up my pussy except for his.. and so what u r saying is, its pointless in waiting? basically? right?
for one thing, there are many ways to avoid getting pregnant.
as for being a virgin bride, that concept only tends to fully appeal to younger guys. If you are hoping to get married young, it could work out. Though, a caution: those who marry young are also more prone to divorce - the reason being that the two of you haven't fully developed into your adult selves, so you've essentially marrying a stranger.
It's complicated for a lot of reasons. Younger guys who are willing to wait for sex usually have one of two reasons: 1) They aren't actually that interested in sex or 2) They are aspiring cheaters. The second one is an obvious problem, but the first is a little more subtle, because you run into possible issues of sexual compatibility. Girls can want sex but still hold out. Guy's don't really function like that - if a guy can hold out on sex, he doesn't want it. I'm speaking in general, of course. There are exceptions, but not many.
But to answer your question directly, yes, there is no point in waiting for marriage. There is, however, a very good point in waiting until you are ready, and I think it's important to understand that you can't set a date or ceremony for that.
ok so what do u think about religious reasons on waiting?
im sry im bomb barding u with questions.. im just curious
i don't mind question. It's why I'm here, actually :-)
I'm not religious, myself. So for me, personally, if I were with a girl who wanted to wait for marriage because of religious reasons, the lack of sex wouldn't present nearly as big of a risk to our incompatibility as our religious differences. But even that depends on 'how religious' she is, and if she wants to put off marriage strictly for religious reasons, then I would consider that pretty religious.
However, there are other possibilities as well. It could be that she doesn't want to have sex and is only using her religion as an excuse. This is the most frightening possibility, in my opinion, because it means there is no guarantee she'll want sex even after we are married. There is also the possibility that she wants sex, but is only held back by her religious conviction. If this is truly the case, it tends to result in other 'benefits' that can be just as good as sex, or even better, so I wouldn't mind waiting too much.
kk.. thanks for ur thoughts! ;)
no problem :-D
Opinion Owner, there are ways to prevent pregnancy but what if you get attatched to the woman or the woman is just THAT fertile? I heard that birth control isn't 100% and accidents can happen. Do you mean to say that it was really done on purpose because maybe the odds really of getting pregnant from a one time act of sex is 20/80? I searched that on wikipedia by the way a long time ago. I'm not one to just have sex with any old tom dick or harry but I do want sex but I am not willing to do it with just anyone and like the other lady said, I am not doing it (waiting ) just so that I don't get pregnant ( I am not on birth control any way), but what I am saying is that by not engaging before sex you ensure that the guy is serious about you and wants to commit through better or for worse, through sickness and in health, richer or for poorer, till death.. or is that too serious or big of a commitment to you? How come others have no problem with it (my parents)? My brother... and many
others I have seen.
@TenderFantasy I think there is wrong in waiting, and stuff like that.. yes the stupid birth control pill don't always work.. that is how my older brother came along, my mother was on birth control and used a condom but the condom broke and the pills did not work. I do not trust birth control and that's one reason I am waiting to! the other is that I think that my husband would love/respect me more if he knew that I didn't have another dick up my pussy except for his
@TenderFantasy
The stats on birth control are a teensy bit misleading. When they say it's 99% effective (or whatever the number is), they don't mean that 1% of the time you use it it won't work - they mean for 1% of the population it doesn't work. If it works for you at all, it will always work for you.
There is nothing wrong with waiting until you know a guy is serious about you. I'm just saying that marriage isn't the only way to indicate that. I would even go so far as to say that marriage indicates nothing of the sort. Getting married doesn't mean you are in love - just like going to church doesn't make you a christian.
As for commitment, personally, I take commitment very seriously. If I commit to something, it's forever and it is unconditional. The women I've known in the past seem to not take commitment as seriously. The first thing they want to do is change me into someone other than myself. That's not commitment to a person, that's commitment to a project.
@asker
Respect is the wrong word. If a guy says he 'respects' you for being a virgin bride, that just means he thinks he owns you. If that's what you're into, there is nothing wrong with that, but I just want to be clear.
I meant that there was nothing wrong with waiting, that was m mistake, and I mean respect me as in he would respect my decisions on waiting and would be willing to wait for me to be ready
oh. yes, there is nothing wrong with waiting. You will find that some guys won't agree to it, but that's an issue of compatibility, not an issue of value or respect.
of course, it's worth pointing out that there is nothing wrong with not waiting either...
"of course, it's worth pointing out that there is nothing wrong with not waiting either..."
Pregnancy (some women are really fertile), emotional attatchement, stis if they are sleeping around...
@TenderFantasy yeah, there are ways around pregnancy and stis. As for emotional attachment, not all girls are susceptible to that sort of thing.
anyway, those are "risks" not something "wrong" with it. If you walk down the street you could be hit with a meteor. That's a risk. Does that make it wrong?
Yes, there is nothing wrong with waiting and there is nothing wrong with not waiting, lets just give it a rest. we all r humans and we all have our own thoughts about life and what u should do in ur life. so lets just give it a rest. there is no right answer
Of course I need sex.
If there is no sex it is just friendship. If you are in a relationship sex is important on a regular basis.
no, I have to disagree with u there... but that's because I am waiting till I am married for sex
As an adult? There IS NO RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SEX.
Why be in a relationship if there's no sex?
religious reasons, and also than u will know that u won't have sex except with the one u actually love, won't be able to get nocked up until u actually r married and want them
afraid of getting knocked up... that's what condoms and birth control are for
but there not reliable.. that's how my older brother came along. she was on birth control and they used a condom, the condom broke and BAM a child. They didn't even know it broke at the time ether
most people who used that argument are either covering up the fact that they did not use a condom or the woman put holes on the condom, it happens
the chance of a condom not working, if properly fitted, is like the probability of dying in a plane accident
ok so u think that.. with my mother at the time being deathly afraid of her father, made the condom break during the fucking
Your mother? I thought we were talking about your older brother. in either casethe guy was probably not wearing a condom
your mom probably became born again and then raised you in fear of sex and told you a lie about the condom breaking to scare you into chastity
how else did my brother come along? my brother has never had sex yet and yes.. my mother had my father wear condom but they was cheap ones back 20 years ago
well there you go, he probably wore lamb skin and not latex
cheap condoms=never a good idea
yea.. ya think.. but also the birth control pills didn't work
well in most cases it is the man's fault and not the woman's, wearing a condom is really the only more effective way of birth control since some pills may not be as effective as others, IUD's are 100% effective but they are a little more expensive, so it is up to the man to purchase the right condom and fit it correctly
KK.. i never had sex b4 so i will believe u
yeah, I've had sex many times, with the right condom and making sure you put it on correctly , the chance of having a baby is virtually non existant. Another reason for condoms slipping is the lack of proper education thanks to abstinence only education being preached in a lot of areas. Because of this boys are not taught how to properly put on a condom.
WOW!!!
yeah, it really does sound pathetic but some guys really do not know how to put on a condom and most times that is where people mess up with condoms, they either buy the wrong kind (lamb skin vs latex or wrong size) or frankly they just don't know how to position the condom right
yea that's all i can say is wow lol
also if someone has magnums, it is an ego thing for them and most likely will be too big. with that I say, ladies run for the hills lol
hahahahahaha XD
Its very important.. it brings u closer
Not that important
i want sex
lmao.. Y