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He let me pay on the first date, what should I do now? (Page 4)
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I always expect people to go halves on a first date anyway, whether it's the man or woman who initiates the date. It seems a bit of rude of him to think that because you initiated the date he expected you to pay for everything, the same applies if it was a man initiating the date and the woman expects him to pay for it all. That ain't cool. Sounds like he won't want to talk to you if he's blocked you. Move on.
The man is always in charge of the date (except for homosexual dates). In this particular situation as the head of the table, the man is entitled to discipline the woman if he feels she is out of line. For whatever offense you committed, your punishment was paying for the meal. If the offender submits a complaint to the man he has the right to terminate communication with the woman.
Objection your honor! lol lol j/k
So which woman pays for homosexual dates? lol
The more feminine one. lol
He probably doesn't want to date someone who primarily cares about his money.
get over it princess. you asked him out, plus aren't we supposed to be equal these days? or does that only apply to women when it suits them?
selective equality all the way!
How is this linked to being misogynistic? I think you have princess syndrome and entitlement issues. Don't be going on dates you can't afford.
Well... I don't mind paying for dates. If I offer to go out and eat at that place, I feel like I pay for it. Or we just take turns, he pays for the food, I pay for something else ext
For God's sake, PEOPLE NEED TO SPLIT THE GODDAMN BILL AND BE DONE WITH IT.
That's all.
by the way, why would you give *him* a second chance? He ain't gna take you back, he blocked yr ass, girl.
Well, you asked him, not vice versa, so that's not a problem - who asks for a date is the one who should pay, but...
The real problem is - that guy is obviously some jerk who doesn't really like you, all he wanted is a free dinner.
Guys almost always have to ask, so 50/50 be the way it should be.
Funny because that behavior is expected from a woman but if a guy does it, he's a jerk...
@amphet11 I don't think so. Girls should ask more often, I hate patriarchal society, I'm a virgin in my late 30s, because women are indoctrinated into thinking guys always have to make the first move.
@JuicyBrain Not true, that's just a femi-nazi propaganda, women can be jerks too.
"that guy is obviously some jerk who doesn't really like you"
You got that from the guy not wanting to pay for her. He's a jerk because of it. It can't be because he was disgusted by her asking him out and then expecting him to pay.
@JuicyBrain No, you misunderstood me, he is a jerk because he blocked her afterward.
Guy didn't pay for the first date: i say that's a great thing as you didn't waste anymore time with him.
This is equivalent to a girl wearing sweats, a hoodie and no make up first date.
I love that analogy!
No, this is the equivalent of a girl not paying on a first date.
You describe human courtship as prostitution by very definition, women are whores, men are johns.
@theccanyon
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Hahaha this is most likely a troll folks.
In the even this is real... grow the f&^* up. It's just about 2017. Chivalry died years ago - both genders are equal now.
we are not equal, men are superior, but we have equal rights, so women who expect men to pay and be chivalrous need to accept the fact that men are superior, women who actually want to be treated equally can live in their delusional bubble that we are equal and the man is likely to let her believe that as long as it makes her happy.
@alphadoggystyle You never learn, do you.
@alphadoggystyle 4.bp.blogspot.com/.../...ock+and+tame+the+cunt.jpg
you're one of these guys
@Toad-1 its you who never learn, as i have been correct from the beginning.
@mostwomenshouldstfu its you who never learn.
@alphadoggystyle Do you want to get put in your place again? Do you, enjoy being wrong or something? Oh wait, you do. That's the very definition of arrogance.
@mostwomenshouldstfu
You never put me in any place, you dont have that ability, i did put you in your place before though, and i can easily do it again. You got raped last time and now you are butthurt. I was never wrong but you where wrong about everything you said, you lost and i won. I dont care if i am being arrogant, facts are all that matters and they are on my side, not yours.
Did you have a fun date besides that? Unlike the days of old where it was socially obligated for a man to pay, many men do not have the same sentiment, usually putting it on either the person who initiated the date or going dutch. Personally I pay for the first date and feel touched when a woman does offer. If you had fun and he did too, what's the harm in you paying for the first one? As long as he covers the second one (if there is one), i don't see the problem.
Well, some guys do think about that. You should've asked him about it before you paid.
But you did ask him out so usually the person who asks is the one who pays. He's not really wrong.
I do not blame him.
Way to screw a starting relationship tho.
This is what western men are nowadays, try men from latin country they're so much better. They would never let a girl paid for herself not to think about the whole date. if he was some "modern men" he would have split the bills. he's just a hater of women and stupid since he block you not even try to talk things out like an adult would do.
Well, men from Latin countries will also expect you to cook and be a subservient house wife. I'd say Latin men get the better deal.
@hahanoway
You know, you sound like a guy who has a tough time getting dates.
Maybe because we rich guys take them all.
@WalterRadio You got me :( My girl ran off with a 44 year old sugar daddy 2 years ago and I'm still not over it. She sent me a birthday card from her yacht in the Caribbean, though, I thought that was nice of her.
You turned on now, babe?
If you expect a guy to pay for everything in order to date him, you are by definition a prostitute.
@hahanoway This is attend to Western men too it's for this reasons they want Asian and European women.
I don't mind cooking, clean the house or being submissive at all. I believe in gender roles it's so much better than all this stuff from America
@amphet11 No, because I will cook for him, support him, take care of him, doesn't go out every night, etc...
And not going sleeping with every guys I see.
@amphet11 You can call me names all you want, just to let you know that in my country it's the norm. Like many other country in Europe...
Don't let amphet11 get to you. He is jealous because other guys get the girls he can't.
@WalterRadio Yes, so he become bitter with every girls he see
"No, because I will cook for him, support him, take care of him, doesn't go out every night, etc...
And not going sleeping with every guys I see." that's superfluous to semantics, now you are just a prostitute and a maid. Even if i am bitter, tat is not mutually exclusive to me being right.
*that
Which country are you from, opinion owner?
@jessica5d France
@amphet11 So it's for that American men want to date Asian and european right? It's because they're more traditionnal and submissive but when a girl is like that you said to her she's a whore? Isn't that a bit hypocrite? I think so
lmao, what are you even talking about? I spent a year in France, EVERY couple I knew and was friends with split the bill on dates. I can think of exactly ONE guy who always paid.
@hahanoway Which part where you in? In change a lot. Where you in a city or no?
@hahanoway
If you are a loser with no money, then chances are you only knew losers with no money.
So your first text to him is criticizing him for not picking up the tab?
Good troll bahaha. You'll take a few people with this.
Sad thing is... she probably isn't even trolling lol
@Afro-dite9 lol, yeah it's a good one but HE is trolling, Too much of a baited scenario to randomly pop up, he just wants to see the responses.
Oh... convinently anon too.
Another clue to this being a troll is that this person has not replied to anyone.
Lmao damn... y'all might be right now that I think about it😂👏
I'd love to agree with you if it wasn't for the fact that plenty of girls like these exist outside GAG. Just recently a girl asked me to go out for drinks and acted really offended when I let her pay her own drinks (not even mine, just her own). Two days later my best friend told me that she talked sh*t about me behind my back because of it. The sad part was that it wasn't even a date, it was just a friend who asked me out for drinks. Needless to say I should choose better friends lol.
Another reason this probably isn't a troll is all the girls replying they agree with the OP. Unless they are all fake accounts by the OP lol.
I do agree though it's a tad suspicious that she doesn't reply but she could just be offline. Or she's scared of all the negative replies lol.
Dating rule.
1. Women are more valuable than men that is why you have to approach them more often than not.
2. When you take women out on dates you are expected to entertain them and pay for them because your paying for their time and them giving you a chance.
3. A woman does not owe you sex. This is why escorts overall are better because there is no guarantee.
Speak for yourself, no one with any self respect is going to follow that crap.
@Kkaos This is what majority of men do. Just look at how you grovel and suck up to women on here.
Who's you? Me? Do I? Quote it. Grow up.
@Kkaos Ah telling someone to grow up doesn't make you morally superior. Being childish like you are doing requires someone to grow up. Look around you the vast majority of men suck up t women, WHITE knight women.
PUSSY>>Dicks. You have to work for women.
He is telling you to grow up because you accused him of something you have no proof he does
@tyber1 No proof? Look around you and get out of your mother's basement and see the world.
Who approaches who more? Men
Who pays for dates and tries to get the other genders attention? Men
Which gender on here panders up to the other? Men.
Which gender here is always posting/asking question on what the other gender likes? Men.
Which gender here constantly is passive aggressive towards their own gender but ass kisses women? Men.
"When you take women out on dates you are expected to entertain them and pay for them because your paying for their time and them giving you a chance"
You know what kind of women are paid for their time? Prostitutes...
What a fucking cuck, no wonder you posted anonymously, you beta male.
@lualesca I was outlining the general trend in dating. if you think that makes the vast majority of men CUCK then so be it but that is the usually trend in dating.
If a guy not paying for you makes you not like him, then you are just a prostitute. He did the right thing blocking you, he is the one who has to give you a second chance, if he blocked you he doesn't want a second date.
I wouldn't try talking to him since it seems like he wasn't concerned about impressing you and now blocked you , I mean he could have offered to pay half since you did ask him out and it was just a first date type of thing I'm guessing, did he at least leave the tip? I use to always pay for the meal when I was dating but I was never asked out so it would be different for me if that happened
Women on here keep saying whoever asks out should pay. Why should he have split and why shouldn't all women split then?
@JuicyBrain I guess I'm old fashioned, let's hope he left the tip at least but yeah if she did ask to take him out I guess it only makes sense
Well as a man I never made a girl pay, I was raised like this and its coming from my culture, but if the guy is broke then there is nothing to do and its stupidy for you to expect him to pay. However I support everyone to pay their own bill but I never made a chick pay for "whole things" and I won't do it ever. I usually pay for the bills and whenever they want to pay I say that I am just only okey with things she ate and drank.