How often do you find yourself infatuated with a guy / girl?

[Anonymous]

By that I mean you have really strong feelings (butterflies in stomach, heart sinks etc.) , you think they're very physically attractive, and they seem nice and cool, but you haven't really ever talked to them besides basic greetings. there's just "something different" about them. State your age please if anonymous.

Once a month

Once every few months

Once a year

Once every few years

Other

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Please also say if you would date someone that you didn't have a crush on first.

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Can you guy answer this one by too:

girlsaskguys. com/dating/q2218837-girls-mainly-i-like-a-girl-her-sister-what-do-i-do

[SensualScribe]

Now that I am older, not that often. When I was in high school, I had a new crush every few weeks or so.

When I first met my boyfriend, I did not have a crush on him. I started finding him more and more attractive as I got to know him, though and began to notice things physically about him that I found attractive that I hadn't paid attention to at first.

Now that I am older, true attraction takes a while to develop. I can see someone walking down the street or while I am out somewhere and think they are hot, but it is very fleeting. I do not find myself thinking about them after they are out of my sight.

[Sonjita]

I had the biggest crush in the beginning of high school. Literally the first day I fell in love with the guy and it lasted for 3 years. Never ever have I experienced such feelings for anyone else.
And the answer to your other question, most guys that I dated weren't really that attractive to me. And one of them was completely unattractive until he seduced me both physically and mentally [and after the breakup was still playing mind games with me], it took me more than a year and a lot of rebounds to get over him. After that I had only a few minor crushes and I'm sad to think that I might never fall in love again.

[MissMurphy]

I can't say I've ever felt the type of infatuation you're asking about. I might think someone is particularly physically attractive, but I think I've always been practical enough to understand that's a shallow thing and not the basis of a good relationship. I'm independent and not particularly social, it takes time to figure out if someone suits me that way. Finding someone intriguing is a good first step, but I'd rather build from a base of friendship than infactuation. I would absolutely date someone I wasn't "crushing" on, how else are you supposed to get to know them? Instant connection or bust?

[MasterHiruki]

Its rare for me to be really into a woman unless i start dating them but if i do have moderate interest in a woman i meet if i do won't just leave at a greeting i will try and make a move even if its difficult. I lost too many oppotunites being indecisive.

[DougTheDingo]

Rarely. I sort of have a crush right now but there's a 99.99 repeating decimal chance that it will go anywhere, which Im perfectly okay with. They are a cool person and just being friends with them is enough.

[Asker]

Would you date someone that you didn't have a crush on first? What if you're friends first and they're good looking, great personality, etc. compared to most people you've dated but you hase no feelings?

[DougTheDingo]

Well, I dont believe in romantic love and the little bit of "feelings" if you could call them that in my opinion come from sexual attraction. So im not sure how to answer you. Perhaps in my situation it could be asked would I date someone im not attracted to and the answer is probably not.

[pumplenickel]

A few times I've experienced this it takes a lot to attract my attention.. lol you gotta be different every time or your just boring. I love excitement and butterflies it's the only way to live so everyone else in between is something to pass the time. Call me a hopeless romantic since these things never turn out good and most chicks will dump the nice guy

[Ersacol28]

Wow what an interesting question I don't find myself infatuated with anyone I guess I have been hurt so much in the past that now I think everything is a game so I don't fall in love easily and I don't develop feelings for anybody in years I guess what it worked for me is just French kiss and have sex once in a while but don't fall in love

[Mila4321]

Answer to your second question, I might depending on how desprate they seem. If they say something like I'm in love with you I would freak and try to avoid them at all costs, but if they're sweet and shy or maybe even outgoing then I would give them a shot even if I didn't have feelings first !

[Anonymous]

Well, I don't see him often. I have met him a handful of times if that. He is different then others I've met before. I like him for who he is and probably always will. I'm not really sure if he knows that or cares but he carries something special with me that maybe only I could understand but I'm good with that.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

If I'm being honest it hasn't happened in years.
I only get infatuated after getting to know them a bit lol but even then not really. I'm more into a mutual deeper level attraction kinda thing.

[ASEXY]

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[Kolya]

Maybe once a couple of months but since i decided to not date anyone in this country anymore, the internet provided... not so many occasions

[datgirl]

Not very often. Before when I was younger it qas the opposite; I'd get attached easily and would always crush on someone. Now, I just check guys out, momentarily hit on them, then move on.

[Toad-1]

*hits on you* ;P

[datgirl]

@Toad-1 *feels faint* 😉😝

[datgirl]

Was*

[Toad-1]

haha <3 <3

[Warmapplecrumble]

I keep falling in love with my partner every time I see the things he does for me :-)

[oreodair]

I've felt that way about a certain guy since last year and it's frustrating tbh

[Anonymous]

i was infatuated with a guy 2 years ago but then we became close friends and the infatuation returns sometimes

[babeeeone]

It hasn't happened in person with someone I know in a very long time. I miss that feeling! lol

[Asker]

Would you date someone that you didn't have a crush on first? What if you're friends first and they're good looking, great personality, etc. compared to most people you've known or dated but you have no feelings?

[babeeeone]

Yeah, with me, it's a much stronger of a feeling I'll have for a person when I'm not physically attracted to them at first. If they have a sweet personality and I like who they are as a person, that's what I'll fall in love with, and I'll start to find them physically attractive and get very strong feelings for them that are hard to let go. Though I do want to like their looks initially to move forward to that point, but I don't have to be crazy about it.

[ChocEyes1]

Oh boy, I haven't had butterflies in stomach since I was 16 or 17..

[Anonymous]

Shit. Very rarely. I am abnormal.

[lovydoey]

My first crush happened when I was 15

[Asker]

Have you had any crushes since then? Would you date a guy you didn't have a crush on first?

[lovydoey]

I don't know if I have a crush on a guy now or I just like him as friends or his precense. So I don't know. I don't fall for guys that easily.

And no. Lol. Reason. I don't fall for guys easily and I'm shy. So I have to open up first in order to be comfortable with him

[Anonymous]

It happened to me three times in my life.

[Lopezz1999]

Every few months.

[jemmyjems]

at the beginning of a relationship

[lalala07]

Very rare

[likesitrough]

I don't

[likesitrough]

I have and its who I fell in love with but its not enough