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Going out on 4th date... Should I ask what he's looking for? (Page 2)
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why does everyone. want to ask that question? why can you just go with the flow and see what happens?
I've gone with the flow before with someone that wanted to marry me and was way more into me than I was into him and before you knew it he started playing games on me while at the same time making me think he's serious. Now he's about to marry his ex this weekend. I just don't want to be in a similar situation ever. I don't mind going along for the ride but where is the destination?
Because a lot men just go with the flow while wasting the woman's time when they know they don't want anything long term or serious. They just with her cause its convenient until he gets bored or find someone else, I don't want to just go with the flow with someone how has no real intentions of being with me seriously.
and women today wanna jump right into a relationship. with out knowing the guy better first. that's why things don't last long these days.
some do, some don't. I'm not one of those women, i do want to get to know the guy as we go on dates but at the same time i want to know if getting to know him and going on these dates are worth it or just pointless/time being wasted when i could either just stay at home and watched tv.
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You're wasting time by not asking him what he's looking for. So go ahead and ask. If he's scared off by a simple question he wasn't worth your time anyway.
Usually, that is a question in the very first email contact.
You can't scare someone away with whom you are in sync. He seems a little slow anyway.
If I were you I'd mention that. Just be clear that you really like him and like your time getting to know eachother, but are curious about what he's looking for.
My similar case now but in my case the guy wanted sex when never ever we had sexual converstaions int he past and I never hinted him I wanted sex, but it seems he did and caught me off guard one day asking me if we go to a hotel to get off our urges. He knows I like him and i guess he liked me too but he wants sex and we have not know each other taht much. I mean we do know each other better tan before but that does not mean I wanted sex now, even if we are grown up adults, but it seems the guy got upset I turn him down and told him he was rushing things and everything in due time, he did not like me to say that.
I think by the fourth date, it is certainly appropriate to have this conversation. He probably has similar questions for you, if he is serious as well. It is the obvious next step to seeing if you are right for each other.
Yes, that is a fair question. Pay attention to tone and body language during his response.
I think it's a mistake to assume he's looking for anything serious, why don't you just live in the moment?
Do ask. These things need to be clear before the 2nd date.
4th date is about time to have The Talk.
Any pointers on how not to scare him? Or should I just be direct?
Just be direct. If he likes you, he won't be scared.
No. Way too soon for that. Take it slow and enjoy it
In my opinion, I tell guys what I am looking for when they ask me out. I am sorry but I am not going to be a hoe for them.
How can you not know that on the 4th date? XD what have you been talking about all the time?
I've just been going with it. Most of our convo is centered around getting to know each other better or random things going on with us.
He said he is looking for something serious but hasn't dated in awhile... I guess now we will just see if it's me or not. Lol in the meantime I'll keep seeing him and remain open to other options
well you know what he wants then xD so why don you ask? :P
lol I just did last night. I feel better about things but will just take it slow
haha obviously. though you should be careful not to let your insecurity kill it.
why would you ask that on the 4th date it's just a date you're not in a relationship you're an idiot obviously he wants to spend time with you and get to know you he doesn't know what he wants yet it's only the 4th date you're dumb
Thanks for your unwarranted immature comments. I assure you I'm way smarter than you will ever be.
sure says the women that can't figure out what to do with her dating life I'm sure your smart dumb ass
lol.. First of all it's you're* not your.. if you're going to try to insult me please do so without grammatical errors. Thank you.
2nd.. If you don't have anything useful to say without lacing your comments with insults please stay off of this post. I know you're young and immature but don't bring your negativity here where grown ups are speaking. Thanks :)
I'm not typing silly I'm just saying what I say im to busy to proof read so if the app types your our you're not on me
Too* busy
yeah way too busy
Do you want to ask him or do you want to just "skirt the issue"?
Isn't that a first date question? I usually ask that even before the first date.
if it meant to be, it will find it's way. you women always love to bring stuff like this into the picture that actually ruining everything in the end lol
You must give up the snatch before even thinking to ask him such tripe.
no. igjt get offended... just hang out
I would have asked on the first. Isn't it an obvious thing to ask. Nothing to build up on.