I hate to say I'm the messy partner. Though my is also on the messy side. Most people expect men to be the messy ones but I am naturally very unorganized. It's just in my nature (it's been scientifically proven that there are people who are just naturally organize or unorganized by nature). I am not any man's dream of a house wife. I won't even do the dishes, I make my boyfriend do them. As a messy person I think it's much worse being with another messy person because our habits feed off of each other. I was never as messy before as I am now. I use to have a very clean house aside from my room and maybe a pile of dishes in the sink. Now my whole house is messy. I think one messy and one not messy is a good pair, at least for the messy person. Honestly if I were with a very clean organized person I think I'd be much less inclined to be messy myself for multiple reasons. One, they'd yell at me to pick my stuff up, two I feed off of other people's energy so I'd be more likely to cope my partners habits around the house. It's kind of like going to the gym, on my own I probably wouldn't do it, but if I had someone raring to go with me everyday and work out with me I'd probably want to go. From the organized persons point of view it would probably be a loss. For an organized person it would probably be better to be with another organized person. I could see that going poorly too though, I mean what if you both have different organization patterns and you end up always fighting about the way the dishes should be put up or silly things like that. I guess it just depends. But I think I would break up with someone if they were the nasty type of messy. I use to have a roommate that was disgusting. He use to drop food all over the floor and just leave it. He once dropped grapes all over the floor and I left them just to see how long it would take him to clean them up. They were still there a month later. I'm messy but I'm not nasty messy, at least I don't think I am. Mainly I'm just really unorganized and my possessions end up all over the place but if I drop a slice of pizza on the floor I'm going to clean it up. There are different levels and types of messy. I'm the disorganized type.
Messy isn't so bad as lazy. I don't mind general clutter, but when there's actual filth and grime because they are to lazy to clean, that's where I'd draw the line.
I haven't. Life will be easier if things are neat, tidy and organized. Just imagine his hygiene. OH NO.
Oh my fucking god yes. I wouldn't say dumped but I have ghosted on some women for this. Most women are pretty neat and organized but for whatever reason a sizable number are the complete opposite... they live in a complete fucking sty
Yes, I have. One guy I dated not too long ago wasn't ashamed of his mess. His car's full of junk. He's apartment looks like a calamity zone. Plus, he neglects his pets!
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Yes I have! Yesterday, 9/7/23, I broke up with a 50 y/o man who is a slob! We were together for 6 moths and that was enough time to show me that he will never change! His house is a mess!! Doesn’t flush the toilet and doesn’t wash his hands! A hole in the wall in the living room been there for months and he hasn’t fix it! Broken and rotten hot tub in the back yard been there for years and became an eye sore! Garbage can in the kitchen filled up and stunk up the house!
Few times I offered help to organize his home, I even calmly talked about it with him but going no where! He is setting bad example to his 13 y/o daughter who is doing the same thing!
Being a slob was just one thing why I broke up with him, he also doesn’t care about his health, always choosing Pepsi or beer over water. When I suggest him to start living more active life he would give me an excuses, and told me that fishing and golfing and doing yard work are categorized as a work out (his yard is a mess!).
He is also very cheap and stingy!! Closed minded and afraid of changes! So finally, yesterday I broke it up with him! Beside, he never wanted to anything, because he doesn’t want to spend any money, so I always ended up doing things on my own or with my friends. What’s the point to have a boyfriend like that? I was just there to delivery sex to him, nah!
I am done, I would never dated someone like that again. Done!
no, but I definitely should've. I went over to a guy's house a few times and it was an absolute mess. it was really gross. he ended up being messy with his emotions and intentions too so that should've been a sign for me to leave sooner
I wouldn’t be with someone like that in the first place.
No, but I would. I'm not saying I'm the cleanliest person around but that is just disgusting.
Cleaning up after others can kill a person but
so can the neat freaks, who are not a loving about how they do it
Never dated anyone like that. Little messy yeah, didn't mind it, but crazy live in your own trash kind of messy no.
No. I'm not a neat freak myself. But I'm cleaner than my man or kids.
No, but I would. Food all over the shop is a no-no because it attracts vermin I don't want to share my living space with.
A little untidiness I can (and do) live with.
One of my high school teachers got divorced because he was messy.
But I personally haven't.
I haven't had a real girlfriend or boyfriend so I haven't dumped anyone
Women who are messy are great in bed!
I voted yes but there were deeper reasons.
And you consider this messy already?
No because I can be messy myself
I shouldn't fire a trebuet inside a glass house
No i never dumped any girl for being messy.
No. I have yet to meet a person worse than I.
I don’t date messy people
Of course, there's a limit to all things
Can't say that I have.
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