If I don't care if he sees other people does that mean I don't love him?

[Anonymous]

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He's not exclusively seeing me, but it doesn't bother me at all. I'm usually more attractive than the other girl anyway... but even if I'm not, I want him to have fun. I'm looking at this from an objective point of view. Does it mean I'm polyamorus or just see him as a friend? Today he showed me a picture of a girl and she was average looking... but still cool. It made me happy for him instead of jealous? What? Lol!

Does this mean I don't love him romantically? Does he love me? Are we both poly? What is going on?

Yes

No

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+1 y

I just want him to be happy, he's pretty much my best guy friend!!! :) He's wild and sets me free!!!

[TripleAce]

As long as he’s putting you first, it could work
However there will be a day that he meets a girl then starts ignoring you I don’t think you’ll be all ‘cool’ with it anymore 😃

Its basically a open relationship
I met a girl that has an open relationship lol so funky 😂 no way I was getting involved in that mess hahah
What weirdos. He told me her boyfriend use to buy her side boys food and they use to chill. But he’s going home with her because they live together 😂but the dude just bought you lunch for banging his girlfriend
Oh man where am I

[Asker]

Holy shit! I like it!! Note; they never hung out yesterday because of the weather lol!

[kbharadwaj3125]

You are too comfy and confident in your thing and you are not jealous so you are not into him that's for sure.

[Asker]

I'm into him, but when we're not being sexual, we're not that romantic... my Feelings for him are friend-like. He bought me something though for Christmas and I bought him something too!!

[Hannah591]

Maybe you are poly. Usually people who love someone and are monogamous, just the idea of them being with another person upsets them.

[Asker]

Can I be a "non-practicing poly"? I am trying to also find a girlfriend and he's cool with that too! The fact that it doesn't upset me is really cool lol.

[Hannah591]

If you're actively finding a girlfriend, then surely you're practising it?

[SarahsSummer]

You more than likely do love him, but do you love yourself as well?

[Asker]

I do. I don't think either of us need to settle down yet.

[SarahsSummer]

just be safe, you can't control the health of all his other partners. You can only control keeping your own body safe.

[Asker]

He hasn't been seeing anyone really... maybe just attempting to

[SarahsSummer]

whatever he does or doesn't do, just keep your own body safe.

[Asker]

Of course!

[loveslongnails]

It might mean you realize that not one person can fulfill another person's entire needs.

[Asker]

Very true. Plus, I rather have someone be able to tell me he's dating others... than be dating someone so afraid to to be monogamous that they cheat...

[Asker]

This way, he gets what he wants and I don't have to worry about marriage... unless he wants open marriage

[loveslongnails]

I agree, and I also believe that if have you're free to have multiple partners and it isn't taboo or stigmatized or forbidden, it would actually happen LESS in the long run.

[Asker]

Definitely! I know he likes me at least... maybe even loves me... to the point where these other girls could just be "bodies" to him. But if he were to find someone else he liked just as much as me, I know he wouldn't leave one of us! It's cool because I am not threatened by these women.

[loveslongnails]

You're a unique woman to embrace that understanding. Now let me ask you this... if the situation is reversed, does he respond the same way?

[Asker]

Well, at first he might be jealous, but maybe after awhile he would be okay with it. Though, I don't really want to date other guys right now.

[Asker]

I just wish he knew how lucky he was to have me. Hmm should I buy him a "sexual whip" for his bday?

[loveslongnails]

You're going to have to message me to continue this conversation !! My messages are open!

[Asker]

I don't want to reveal my username :/

[Jackblue]

If you take pleasure in his "happiness" you have a cuckquean fetish. If that is not how it is you probably just don't want a serious relationship.

[Asker]

I think I am a cuckquean! <3 <3 <3 If the girl is hot and alternative... even better!!

[findingdreamland-1]

You love him like you love your best friend. But you are not in love with him. Falling love means you can not share him with others. You just cannot.

[AngryNoctis]

Personally it's just trouble brewing multiple partners put you at risk of sex related illnesses I don't think you would be happy then

[emmily2396]

It doesn't bother you because ypu are more attractive that the other girl... maybe he doesn't tbink that... i thought the same about another girl, but he said somthing different...

[BananaGrey]

My take is this... He's simply not the one. So make no mistake,
he's no NEO and this love isn't
a Matrix love.

[Pamina]

No, it does not mean that. Other people don't get to decide how you feel about someone.

[capncool]

So are you just platonic friends or are you doing stuff that "more than friends" are doing?

[Aphrodite8789]

I think you are not really that into him lol

[VaIiant]

You're definitely not that into him.

[CoffeeWC]

you're probably not into him that much

[EDWINDUNDEE999]

l would only date one girl

[Asker]

what's that have to do with my question. He's a recovering-player. Now he's honest with his conquests ;) !

[EDWINDUNDEE999]

very good

[Asker]

:D hehe

[EDWINDUNDEE999]

What more can l say? lol

[Asker]

I guess I'm okay with it, because you can't teach an old dog new tricks BUT you can give the dog his freedom ;)

[EDWINDUNDEE999]

Yes please lol

[Millesa80]

Only you know if u love him or not

[JP_Man]

Well that's very rational indeed

[eagle1951]

i'd say yes