Is poor English grammar a turn-off?

[Anonymous]

Is poor English grammar a turn-off?

Yes

No

Updates

+1 y

Wow. So many guys think it’s a turn off. Would you really reject a hot Russian woman with a thick accent just because she has grammar errors?

[InTimoreDei]

If they're a native speaker and do any of the following mistakes, I can't take them seriously and will look down on them:

"Your awesome" (correction: you're awesome)
"There bags are over they're" (correction: Their bags are over there)
"Its defiantly a warm day" (correction: It's definitely a warm day)
"There not coming" (correction: They're not coming)
"Is you're favourite colour blue?" (correction: Is your favourite colour blue?"

I've seen all of these mistakes made by people that have English as their first language. It's quite pathetic because this is easy grammar.

[InTimoreDei]

P. S - I'd turn a Russian woman down on the accent alone. I hate that accent lol.

[evm987]

Oh my gosh defiantly is probably the absolute worst for me! I hate it. It doesn't even sound the same as definitely!

[InTimoreDei]

@evm987 I know right? It's not even the same thing...

[ImpressiveUsername]

It really varies.

If I know English is her second language, than no, it's not a turn off. Hell, if anything, her being capable of speaking more than one language is sexy.

Now, if English is her primary language and her poor grammar comes from ignorance or laziness, then it's definitely a turn off.

[Asker]

Most sensible opinion here. Thank you!

[ImpressiveUsername]

You're quite welcome!

If I may, what prompted this question?

[Asker]

Because English is my second language and I make errors sometimes.

[ImpressiveUsername]

Ah, anyone judging you on that is foolish. I only speak English, and even then I occasionally fuck it all up. Plus, English can be an absolute pain to learn for non-native speakers, or so I have been told. Are you Russian? I only ask because of the example you gave.

[Asker]

No I’m not lol just an example I thought of that’s all but I am from Europe.

[ImpressiveUsername]

May I ask where in Europe? I'm in the US, Maine to be specific, and if I start talking fast I have a terrible regional accent that shines through the nails down a chalkboard.

For a time I knew a bit of French, basic pleasantries and whatnot, but that was because I was working of a French FOB in Afghanistan for a few months. Once I stopped speaking it regularly I forgot it.

[Thatsamazing]

This is the correct answer.

[ImpressiveUsername]

@Thatsamazing thank you!

[MissKittyz]

Depends. If English is the only language you know and you can't even write/type it properly, it is a huge turn off. But if it isn't your first language, then that's a different story. We all make mistakes. But people who type like retards on purpose aren't cute.

[simplyaramdomgirl]

I would excuse the guy if he's not a native speaker, if he isn't that capable with English, if it's a typo or a mistake of texting quickly, but there aren't any other excuses. Grammar is a very important thing because it speaks about who the person is.

[MrOracle]

Yes! I give a lot of leeway if you are a recent immigrant (within 10 years), but for people born in the United States, there is no excuse for not being able to speak properly.

[LSKJA]

can you speak theirs too? US covers French and Spanish... Probably amongst others... Not just English... Only judge equally to your country. If you can't speak them properly too, you're merely a hypocrite... from someone who is non-US

[WalterBlack]

There are at least a dozen languages spoken in the US. While there is no legally defined official language, English is the de facto standard. (Ironically "de facto" is a latin phrase). The US got by quite well for the first 200 years with English as the language for nearly all official communications. Schools in the United States teach English first and recommend students to pick a foreign language to study (usually Spanish, French, Latin or another language that is popular in the region where the school is located). For comparison, Canada has two official languages which are English and French.

[WalterBlack]

en.wikipedia.org/.../Languages_of_the_United_States

[Jamie05rhs]

Walter is right.

[LSKJA]

@WalterBlack most commonly... commonly... Louisiana is french too etc etc look I'm non-us... I clearly don't need wiki lmfao

[WalterBlack]

If I permanently moved to Germany or France or Spain, I could probably get by for a while because there is a good number of people in those countries who speak English. But I would definitely make it a priority to learn the local language if I was going to spend the rest of my life in one of those countries. It is not hypocritical. If you are going to live in the US, then learn English. If you are going to live in Germany, then learn German.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree, @WalterBlack.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Very. I like being able to read or understand what the other person is saying, not have to decipher every other word.

And I REALLY hate "text talk," that's a big turn off as well

[OlderAndWiser]

If she is a native English speaker, poor grammar would reflect a low level of educational achievement and that would be a turn off. If she speaks English as a second language, Я буду слушать ее сладкие слова и игнорировать ее ошибки.

[Logorithim]

Only if she is a native speaker

[Thatsamazing]

Correct answer

[evm987]

@Logorithim what if she has dyslexia or another disability that makes spelling and grammar difficult?

[Logorithim]

@evm987 i

[Logorithim]

I didn't think of that

[InTimoreDei]

@evm987 I've met dyslexic people with better grammar than neotypicals. They have to try harder yet they still manage it.

[Kurαȷ]

Honestly, I would not date someone if it meant there is going to be any sort of a language barrier between us.
In fact, I prefer someone whose speech and diction is levels above the average person.

Communication is such an important part of a relationship.
A partner misinterpreting the tone, coming across as accidentally insensitive (and vice versa) or simply just failing to interpret their feelings and thoughts effectively because they aren't well versed in the language, it is a huge strain on the relationship that is going to unnecessarily complicate a lot of things.
It is not worth it.

[311WasAnInsideJam]

I voted yes, but I meant to vote no. I'm not wearing glasses and I'm a 200ml of everclear into the night

I find it very cute. Both my parents and my girlfriend do this. My parents and girlfriend speak English as a second+ language, so I don't expect them to speak it perfectly. Grammar issues make me feel at home.

[SuperTroll]

For me not at all. Well, English is not my first language so maybe that's a part of the reason. But I've traveled to many different cultures with many different languages and I always found that what counts is communication on some deeper level, and that doesn't require perfect grammar. In fact, you can find someone with perfect grammar in any language and still no ability to communicate on a deeper level.

[WalterBlack]

I voted yes before I saw the update. If English is not your first language, I would definitely take that into consideration. However, if you move to an English speaking country, you should make an effort become fluent in the language within a few years.

[Baggz]

I like to have an intellectual conversation with the person I want to be with. I don't like having to decipher what they're trying to convey.

If I just want to have sex, it doesn't bother me at all. It's not like women are able to hold a conversation when being penetrated.

Me love you long time I show you heaven. 🤣

[Anonymous]

If it was someone who didn't speak it as their native language, of course not. But if English is your first language and you went to an English- speaking school and are still making errors like a second grader, I'm gonna assume that you're at least a little dense.

[Joel07]

Well I wouldn't reject a hot Russian if she isn't a native speaker, in that case I don't see a big problem. Im Portuguese and I find a lot of people speaking wrong even being native speakers. I think it's acceptable if we see some improvement with time, or if the person it's willing to learn. At some specific situations it can be very annoying. Anyways when it comes to a relationship it can be really significant.

[evm987]

Bad grammar honestly drives me nuts. I'm a perfectionist and a control freak and I can't handle bad grammar. I'm so conflicted, because I know there's so many valid reasons for people to have bad grammar, but I just can't stand it.

[Bismarck_96]

No for me it’s cute seeing her try 😂I’ll help her with her English skills plus it’s also a benefit you get to learn a new language I once dated a German thanks to her I learned Deutsche English isn’t my first language so I understand the struggles I’ve been there before

[dropkicknj13]

It depends on if you are a native speaker or not. If you grew up in America and can't manage to actually speak English, we have a problem. If as you said you're a Russian girl with a thick accent, it's probably cute.

[Lliam]

It's a definite turn off except when English is the person's second language, in which case I give them lots of credit. What really bugs me is "text" language. Some people need to learn grammar.

[Cammy137]

It depends. If English isn't their first language then it probably wouldn't bother me. If English is their first language then it would almost certainly be a turn off!

[Farawlaa]

If English is his first language, and he lives in an English speaking country, I kind of expect him to have alright grammar. English is my third language, and I feel I’m doing okay?

[pinkpearl270]

You have perfect grammar.

[Farawlaa]

Thank you sis 😚

[FunkyMonkee]

No, someone that wasn't born & raised speaking the language gets a pass, for the most part. It's people that are SUPPOSED to know how to speak and spell the language that get the thumbs down.

[ibodi]

Their English is good
I should let them teach me as well.
but they have different accent that is strange
I think there is only one accent base on mother language
but they have many.

[tenukitanuki]

I think women attempting my native language are brave enough as it is; how often are you stoutly grammarians attempting to speak new languages in public?