Why don't I ever get approached?

[nelly83]

I consider myself to be pretty cute. Back when I was in college, I've had some guys develop crushes on me. Now that I've graduated, maybe only 1 stranger had a crush on me ever since. Nobody has ever approached me over the past yr. When I look in the mirror, I think im still really cute. I don't know why I never get approached

[Usernamesrdumb]

😂
Feminism/metoo. Men dont want to be perceived as creepy.
“Many attractive women in their 20s reject all but the most attractive and powerful men
Many of those rejected men go on to become more attractive and powerful in their 30s and 40s
When those women turn 30, they become less marketable and are surprised to learn that the top men don’t want them—because they’re now chasing the young women they used to be.”

several articles on it. Google it. Did couple for you. https://danielmiessler.com/blog/the-dating-power-flip-at-age-30/ ,https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-men-women-age.html

Welcome to equality! Time for you to pursue.

[nelly83]

Its an overhyped stereotype. There are tons of women their 30s still dating in my city. I've seen two teachers get married in their late 30s

[Usernamesrdumb]

2 people out of a city population hardly Makes a trend.
I wasn’t saying dating stopped. I am saying the dynamics change. Women pursue men as you reach 30s, Instead of men pursuing women, earlier in life. Trying to answer “why men don’t pursue me anymore”.

Read the articles instead of getting triggered

[nelly83]

Actually I've encountered many more women over the internet such as this website who told me they married late in life. I've also seen a few female celebrities such as eva longoria, lori greiner, Barbra cororan who married pretty late in life. Most women in my city where I live in, all get married and have kids in their 30s. I also read an article about a Chinese woman who married at 36.

Its really just a stereotype that isn't true.

[nelly83]

And believe it or not, most men look worse in their 30s too. I know quite a few men who are balding or have gone bald by the age of 33. They're all gaining weight as they're getting older. I don't find most guys in their 30s to be attractive either. You only get to look good in your 30s if you have the right genes. Just because you're a 35 yr old and you want the 25 yr old, it doesn't mean she would want you either.

[nelly83]

What I think you're trying to do is to look for every opportunity to degrade women. You think you have power over women by belittling them by trying to claim that only women 18-24 are worth dating. Believe it or not, most women get married in their late 20s or early 30s. If most men are still willing to marry women over 24 , then you're obviously just bullshitting.
You can spew out lies if it makes you feel better.

And what makes you think that men don't look like crap in your 30s? I have a couple of guy friends in their 30s and MOST of them are balding, or already bald, white hairs coming out, gaining weight, wrinkles, beginning to look like uncles than young guys. You talk about women aging but never about mens aging. I wouldn't go out with a guy that is 34. he's way too old. He'll look like shit before I marry him.

[Usernamesrdumb]

Lol another woman triggered by fact followed up by cited sources. You’re entitled to your opinion. Have a nice day!

[nelly83]

Not all sources are real. Not all studies are true. It can be written by biased, woman haters like you.
by the way. My parents married at 36 and birthed me at 37. So yea, nothing you've said was true

[nelly83]

You obviously know I am correct, which is why you're running away.

[Usernamesrdumb]

You’re the one not getting approached. Denial is a mofo. Still missing the pursing point. I never said people didn’t get married. deflection is not becoming.

[nelly83]

I don’t know but you said girls only reject everyone in their 20s. Obviously that’s not always the case. And yea I have had guys chase me back in college

[Usernamesrdumb]

That is litterly a quote from article i cited. why does no one read the sources here? And thats what the article is saying: Women get chased in high school/college, after that women do the chasing.

[nelly83]

Nobody cares about your trolling. Go waste someone elses time.

[knucklehead87]

How cute are you? If you're too cute, a lot of guys won't approach you. They'll either think you're taken, or out of their league. Also, in my experience, dating gets a lot harder after school--we just don't have all the social interaction that we did in school.

[Will23v]

I agree with this. Also go to the bar maybe

[DerpyDuckie]

I think nowadays people approach via the internet. Use social media like Instagram or dating apps like Tinder. I've seen a lot of guys approach girls on Instagram. Maybe times has changed and guys no longer approach female stranger in real life.

My own experience: I never got approached by a stranger at school/real life but always got approached online on the internet.

[Doody22]

If you're too cute a lot of men will probably think there is no way your single and if you still look young enough to pass for under 16 they might be a tad cautious for obvious reasons.

[Truthatanycost]

Why should they? how will it benefit them? I've approached many girls before with positive results, but I no longer do it. I spend my weekend doing other, more interesting stuff now!

[RHK36]

Maybe you're not as good looking as you think. Or maybe your looks have nothing to do with it. School setting is a different environment. Now that you're out and older it's just different. Why don't you take the initiative and approach a guy?

[metalhead_66]

Just don't worry about too much. Just be yourself, smile more and go out and have fun with your friends, and you'll never know who will approach you

[Noodle_fan]

well there is nothing wrong with you for sure , i think this guy can give perfect answer

https://www.youtube.com/embed/zY9TVpgqf_I

[Tunasub]

Hey Nelly83 how you doin'? Jump in my DM let me talk to you. Um you ask questions around here often?😎

[Shamalien]

Men dont approach much anymore cause of all the feminist bullshit. Nobody wants to be called names and have people think they r a dog or rapist

[Liam_Hayden]

Where do you go? Go to places frequented by guys who might interest you.

[outside_Toronto]

it must be something you're saying or doing (or not)

[Anonymous]

Or you could just go and talk to people like a normal person.

[Itsmeeeee77]

Okay let me approach u. Hi...