Would you be mad if your boyfriend is always like 20 minutes to an hour late every time that you guys have to meet up?

[pink_and_inlove]

My boyfriend has been late ever since the first day I met him even back then he was 20 minutes late and I thought that he was going to ditch me. He still is late every time that we meet today for example he is one hour and 40 minutes late and I’m still waiting. I don’t feel mad just pretty sad and like maybe he doesn’t want to spend time with me. I’ve been dressed up for a while now. Still waiting

I would be mad

I would be sad

I wouldn’t care

I would dump him

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+1 y

When I see him i want to say “hey I've been waiting for a while” and “do you maybe not want to spend time with me?”

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+1 y

He came afted 2 hours and 35 minutes, i talked with him i told him that i have been waiting for him all day and was worried and he promised to be more punctual he said that it was becasue of all his college work but i finished mine beforehand

[WindAtMyBack]

"he is one hour and 40 minutes late and I’m still waiting"

Why the hell would you wait that long for someone? You should have left looong before that. You are giving him waaay too much power over you. Stop doing that. You are letting him use you like a doormat.

This is way beyond the point of a "nice" response. You need to tell him in no uncertain terms that this is going to stop. You have to mean it. Tell him that the next time he's more than ten minutes late, you are going to walk. Then at ten minutes and 1 second, walk away.

He is using and abusing the hell out of you. He is also sending up major red flags as a controller and manipulator. You are probably better off getting away from this guy. But if you want to be with him, you need to put your foot down right now.

[pink_and_inlove]

Im waiting at home and very sad I was going to give him a bracelet today.

[WindAtMyBack]

Waiting at home is not as bed as waiting to meet him someplace else. But an hour and 40 minutes is still way too long to wait.

You still need to put your foot down. I would strongly recommend against giving him a bracelet after making you wait that long. You would basically be rewarding him for extremely wrong behavior. If you want to give a bracelet, or any other gift, wait until he changes his ways.

If you are still waiting for him, I'd either just leave and go somewhere, or lock the door and not answer when he gets there. You seriously need to crack down on this.

[pink_and_inlove]

He came almost 3 hours late we talked it out and he promised to be more punctual

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with @WindAtMyBack. Save the bracelet for next time. (While you're at it, I would even save the sex for next time.)

[pink_and_inlove]

@Jamie05rhs i gabe him the bracelet before i saw this but im definitely not in the mood for sex so no sex

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. That's fine.

[Maxamillion61]

Yes I would. But you know how you break them of that? Next time you plan a date when he is supposed to pick you up. Don't get ready untill he arrives and remain in your big hair curlers with your zucinni face make up on & in your bath robe, (make your self loom like an unmade bed, no deodorant... etc) when arrives, play stupid & look at your watch asking "Oh I'm sorry Honey, what time was was our date scheduled for again?" (Especially make sure it's a date when a show or event STARTS at 1 particular time. This will get him steamed and May, (repeat after me say MAY) teach him a lesson. Some will never learn though.

[Espresso-Grande]

It would totally piss me off, because I'm very punctual and reliable person when it comes to making arrangements. I'd rather be half an hour early for somewhere, and hang about, than be a second late lol It's okay being late sometimes, but not every time you meet up.

If I was in this situation, I'd tell my partner to meet me say for example at 2pm , knowing really, I wanted to meet up at 5. That way, he'd be on time. If he's early, then so be it, he'd have to then wait for me.

Failing that, I'd tell him to ring or text me when he arrived. Then I'd leave wherever I'm coming from to meet up with him.

[VIVANT]

20 minutes of just schedule things half hour before I’ll be ready then he can wait ten minute 😅

1 hour way too much!! ESP bc he knows how HARD it is for you to get out of your home.

you should talk it over with him. Not bc it makes you feel bad but bc it’s wasting your time. I don’t mean bc your feelings do not matter. but it’s wrong For him to do this, no matter what. ESP if he doesn’t text.

this isn’t ok. If he can’t make it at that time, he shouldn’t agree to Meet, at that tone.

[VIVANT]

and I don’t think he’s late bc he doesn’t want to see you he’s disorganized and thinks it’s ok bc you don’t speak up.

[pink_and_inlove]

It’s been two hours vivant and I am crying sad I had the bracelet that I was going to give him in my lap

[VIVANT]

Thu j of all the things you don’t do bc you learned it was not ok. Either through external teaching or internal empathy.. think of all the things you might do If you did not have that learning experience.

There is a learning curve. People learn to u sees tans things once. Threshold is crossed.

He needs to learn it’s not ok to leave people waiting. No one has taught him and or no one has taught him in a meaningful way where he was made to understand and care.

[VIVANT]

Think of*

[VIVANT]

Ugh jay I’m sorry I didn’t even know this was the day for the bracelet 😕

He hasn’t texted? Did you try texting him?

It really sucks you’re waiting bc at least if you were meeting up you could physically walk away. This is 💯 not ok but I know that doesn’t help.

He should’ve been extra mindful bc pf yesterday. It’s mean tbh 🤨

I need to ask someone with more experience I’ve never waited so long. I’m not sure what to say. But I’m really sorry 😐 💗

[pink_and_inlove]

He came almost threr hour later he said that he was doing schoolwork and he promised to be on time. I had to call him twice and i told him how i felt in a kind way. I dont know if he's lying though because he was also doing schoolwork when i came over.

[pleasestopthis]

1 hour and 40 minutes... by that time I would have already left.
My ex always was like this and I could be waiting for him even 30 minutes... one time I waited for 50 minutes and just as I was leaving he arrived.
It shows lack of respect and disregard for your time, I would talk to him about it.

[Ripper_E]

Yes. That says a lot about a person. You cannot rely on them to be there when you need them or would really like to have them. It's not just because you are his girlfriend. It's a matter of respect. A person showing 20 minutes to an hour late does not value my time.

[MindYourEyes]

nah i wouldn't be mad. honestly id just keep myself busy or do my own thing till he shows up. unless we were going to a show and i tell him i want to be there to see my dj or something then id be mad XD

[Smirnoff23]

You sound very chilled and laid back

[MindYourEyes]

@Smirnoff23 I pretty much am! :) regardless they are gonna see me so no biggie.

[Smirnoff23]

Normally it's the woman who is late lol but true if he is interested he will turn up

[MindYourEyes]

@Smirnoff23 hahaha thats true xD i know I've been late a lot too. but when they are i dont care XD

[Jamie05rhs]

It might possibly have nothing to do with you. Some people are just horrible at time management (in EVERY area of their life). He needs to get it together, though. He needs to fix this.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, it would piss me off for sure

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@pink_and_inlove Guys need to on time for girls. your too precious to be late <3 🙏

[Anonymous]

It sounds like this is just the type of person he is. He's probably late for everything? I wouldn't take it personally. However you have to decide if you can accept that about him, because I don't think that will ever change.

[Phoenix98]

I think that would probably make anyone frustrated regardless of whether your a man or a woman.

[TonyMetal___86]

Try to see why did he get late 1st!
Ask him about why he's always late!
Some people just can't be on time 😏

[VIVANT]

Yes but all people can _try_ 3 hours is not trying.. and no text 😳

[TonyMetal___86]

@VIVANT agreed skyscrapper girl, if someone is late he should call or text the person who's waiting...

[VIVANT]

Yes indeed 😌

[Jjpayne]

I would simply be patient. For me, I do get ansy. But for the right person it's worth the wait 😊

[Anonymous]

Do the same thing, so he can understand how it feels

[amyba]

He ain't does not care about your feelings if someone maked you wait all the time like that. When I am late I feel so bad for making them wait

[IlluminatiExposed0]

When you said 20 minutes I was like hey it is what it is but when you said two and a half hours I was like this guy's a douchebag. I wouldn't wait that long for Aubrey Plaza.

[Maxamillion61]

When he says He'll try to be more punctual and on time, Ask him "Can I have that in writing please?"

[TallAnon]

Once and I'll be frowning, twice and I'll be annoyed, third time I've had enough.

[TallAnon]

Update: 2.5 hours late without a message? Fuck off. Just don't come at that point.

[jabberwocky00]

Disrespect if it’s happening every single time.

[pink_and_inlove]

It has been I've been very patient i spoke to him about it for the first time he felt terrible

[COMMODOREII]

He needs to prioritize his college work then. What is he doing if his college work is not done?

[Anonymous]

Well that sorta means he has to spend 2 less with you. Dump him. He doesn’t respect your time and thinks you’re a doormat for waiting. He can get away with it, so why shouldn’t he do it?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't mind 20 minutes. An hour is too long.

[pink_and_inlove]

He’s usually later than 20minutes today he is an hour and 47 minutes late and still not here I was starting to get very sad

[pink_and_inlove]

I feel like he doesn’t care about spending time with me and I want to tell him that. I feel quite sad. Still waiting for him

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Your boyfriend is out of line. I would have left a long time ago.

[pink_and_inlove]

Im at home waiting for him actually we agreed to meet at 3pm today to go out grocery shopping and then go to his house I was looking forward to this.

[pink_and_inlove]

Im kinda teary eyed right now.

[pink_and_inlove]

I also have the bracelet that I brought him in my lap while waiting for him. And now I’m crying

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Listen, I can understand if he was working or very busy, but if he isn't working nor busy and he constantly does you dirty like this then hon this might be a sign he's trying to tell you he might not want to be with you anymore but doesn't have the guts to tell you. Ask him if he wants to be with you?

[pink_and_inlove]

He does i haven't given him a reason not to. We talked this out he promised to be more punctual

[Gwenhwyfar]

That would bother me a lot tbh

[Deku2009]

I would say what took
you so long.

[Rangers]

Yes, I'd be quite pissed off