"he is one hour and 40 minutes late and I’m still waiting"
Why the hell would you wait that long for someone? You should have left looong before that. You are giving him waaay too much power over you. Stop doing that. You are letting him use you like a doormat.
This is way beyond the point of a "nice" response. You need to tell him in no uncertain terms that this is going to stop. You have to mean it. Tell him that the next time he's more than ten minutes late, you are going to walk. Then at ten minutes and 1 second, walk away.
He is using and abusing the hell out of you. He is also sending up major red flags as a controller and manipulator. You are probably better off getting away from this guy. But if you want to be with him, you need to put your foot down right now.
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Yes I would. But you know how you break them of that? Next time you plan a date when he is supposed to pick you up. Don't get ready untill he arrives and remain in your big hair curlers with your zucinni face make up on & in your bath robe, (make your self loom like an unmade bed, no deodorant... etc) when arrives, play stupid & look at your watch asking "Oh I'm sorry Honey, what time was was our date scheduled for again?" (Especially make sure it's a date when a show or event STARTS at 1 particular time. This will get him steamed and May, (repeat after me say MAY) teach him a lesson. Some will never learn though.
It would totally piss me off, because I'm very punctual and reliable person when it comes to making arrangements. I'd rather be half an hour early for somewhere, and hang about, than be a second late lol It's okay being late sometimes, but not every time you meet up.
If I was in this situation, I'd tell my partner to meet me say for example at 2pm , knowing really, I wanted to meet up at 5. That way, he'd be on time. If he's early, then so be it, he'd have to then wait for me.
Failing that, I'd tell him to ring or text me when he arrived. Then I'd leave wherever I'm coming from to meet up with him.
20 minutes of just schedule things half hour before I’ll be ready then he can wait ten minute 😅
1 hour way too much!! ESP bc he knows how HARD it is for you to get out of your home.
you should talk it over with him. Not bc it makes you feel bad but bc it’s wasting your time. I don’t mean bc your feelings do not matter. but it’s wrong For him to do this, no matter what. ESP if he doesn’t text.
this isn’t ok. If he can’t make it at that time, he shouldn’t agree to Meet, at that tone.
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1 hour and 40 minutes... by that time I would have already left.
My ex always was like this and I could be waiting for him even 30 minutes... one time I waited for 50 minutes and just as I was leaving he arrived.
It shows lack of respect and disregard for your time, I would talk to him about it.Yes. That says a lot about a person. You cannot rely on them to be there when you need them or would really like to have them. It's not just because you are his girlfriend. It's a matter of respect. A person showing 20 minutes to an hour late does not value my time.
nah i wouldn't be mad. honestly id just keep myself busy or do my own thing till he shows up. unless we were going to a show and i tell him i want to be there to see my dj or something then id be mad XD
It sounds like this is just the type of person he is. He's probably late for everything? I wouldn't take it personally. However you have to decide if you can accept that about him, because I don't think that will ever change.
It might possibly have nothing to do with you. Some people are just horrible at time management (in EVERY area of their life). He needs to get it together, though. He needs to fix this.
Yes, it would piss me off for sure
I would simply be patient. For me, I do get ansy. But for the right person it's worth the wait 😊
I think that would probably make anyone frustrated regardless of whether your a man or a woman.
He ain't does not care about your feelings if someone maked you wait all the time like that. When I am late I feel so bad for making them wait
Try to see why did he get late 1st!
Ask him about why he's always late!
Some people just can't be on time 😏When you said 20 minutes I was like hey it is what it is but when you said two and a half hours I was like this guy's a douchebag. I wouldn't wait that long for Aubrey Plaza.
Do the same thing, so he can understand how it feels
He needs to prioritize his college work then. What is he doing if his college work is not done?
Once and I'll be frowning, twice and I'll be annoyed, third time I've had enough.
Disrespect if it’s happening every single time.
Well that sorta means he has to spend 2 less with you. Dump him. He doesn’t respect your time and thinks you’re a doormat for waiting. He can get away with it, so why shouldn’t he do it?
I don't mind 20 minutes. An hour is too long.
That would bother me a lot tbh
Yes, I'd be quite pissed off
I would say what took
you so long.
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