I'm way too shy, regular looking (maybe 5-6), and some guys have said to me they find me intimidating. Still when someone seems interested I avoid them like the plague, as there are a lot of reasons I avoid relationships completely but to sum them up being single (for me) is easy, comfortable and peaceful. Dealing with myself is complicated enough lol
My flaw is my learning disability18-p mild to moderate t. it maker harder to find good people. as well keeping getting myself in toxic relationship or bad relationship. other flaw that seen online dating men with some learning go too fast. flaw i am also overthinking , can get jealous other women. have lots of trust issue and can't even keep friends of women. I am in middle of centre when it comes to intellectual. i too high for learning disability people but falls under that mainstream hills. I also I get very tired emotional and physical.
I'm honestly not sure myself... All I know is I try to use the dating app and make an honest attempt and get nothing back. I can't even get a bad date let alone a good one 😞 I'm open for advice if you got it...
Aww, how can a guy like you have hard time dating? Seriously, I've seen your posts on here and you seem like a catch!
I would give you some advice but heck, you see I'm not much better myself, haha. Ironically I give good advice, yet can barely help myself. Why do you think you're undateable?
On dating sites, I don't get messages and no dates even with the paid version and In public I've never been approached by a girl either... š I'm just not sure what I am doing wrong
I guess not really making an attempt at dating does make me for the most part undateable to many. That said, a few days ago someone did ask if Iād like to go on a date with her. Thatās only happened like 4/5 times in the last 2-2.5 years, so for the most part my reasoning holds.
Iām undateable because of my insecurities. There are a lot of negative messages about my worth that Iāve internalized. The minute someone says something that validates my insecurity about something, I crumble. Makes being in a relationship hard because sometimes people say insensitive things. And once itās said, itās hard to āunhearā it and give the person another chance.
Because I'm insecure and have low self worth, deep fear of failure, rejection and not being good enough. Inexperienced with dating, only had one girlfriend and got cheated on which reaffirms thoughts of not being good enough. No friends, job, independence or talents and hobbies. I'm just a terribly underdeveloped and sad person and even writing this makes me cringe at myself.
Pretty much too much baggage and insecurities, unreliable, no future or career.
How about you? Why do you think you're undateable?
My flaw is that I'm a perfectionist. I know perfection can't be attained, but I try. However, I don't seek the woman I'm dating to be perfect.
My other flaw is I date casually. I do it because I don't want to spend weeks or months in a relationship only to find it won't work. I can see three at one time, see that two won't work out and then invest in the one who has the traits I'm looking for.
A flaw that I don't think as one, but is found frustrating by some is I don't get sexual when casually dating. I just found sex causes too many problems in that. But some see it as a lack of commitment.
Yes I am undatable and honestly have no clue why. My main issue is just that I'm not very social but even on dating sites or asking people out it always results in being ignored, ghosted, or rejected. Hell I'm 29 and I've only ever had a girl say yes to me (in person) once.
Well, for the first time in my life, now at the age of 27, I have fallen in love. She is independent, ambitious, passionate, open-minded, and flexible. Though she is just as toxic as I am, and that is creating problems for us, at least for now.
Then there is another girl, she is independent, passionate, open-minded, and flexible, but not ambitious. She has a major crush on me. I like her personality, and she is very cute.
Both of them are free spirits, they have traveled a lot over the world. I admire them, I like them, and I love them. I want the both of them in my life, I know the first one will agree to that. I don't know how the second one will see it.
I might as well be due to anti social and lazy and let myself rot away in my bedroom but i like doing that so... just wish somehow magically a girl did to and we got together. I am kinda unhygienic but once in a relationship i focus on that way more. So i would say i am not that undateable i just don't know how to find people like myself.
Hmmm🤔.. Inexperience, distrust, fear, being introvert, being picky, unwillingness until a period... Yeah, these are the first things that come to my mind😌
Very justified and understandable reasons. I definitely can relate to the introversion (I'm happier alone), not settling, and having a hard time trusting others.
I have red hair most women hate this feature. I love history, international studies, travelling, learning about new cultures. I've always wanted to meet a nice girl with similar interests. I exercise, keep fit rarely drink yet been on tinder and bumble and not even a single match.
While I've ran experiments on dating websites with guys with brown hair and brown eyes who don't look l after themselves... Guess who gets matches and interests in real life as well.
No homo but you got masculine looking face. Symmetrical.
Iām have the same color hair as you and I know EXACTLY what you are taking about. How I got a some blonde and I can get it highlighted to look convincingly blonde. But bleaching my hair has all its own ramifications (especially at my age) of looking effeminate. It has to be done carefully. When itās done right I do get a lot more attention from women.
But I do remember this. The girl of my dreams met her future husband right in front of me in college. The guy was shorter than men, balding (shaved his head) but he was pure redhead. He was also a military pilot and his game with her was tighter the mine.
As horrible as that was its not all about appearance.
Yes both of you. You are a 50 year old man who wants kids.. good luck with that.. and she is a 35 year old woman with standards that 99 percent of men will never meet. I love you both but you both give me a migraine.
Don't mind me, I'm just going to eat some popcorn and enjoy this conversation between you two~
@coachtanthony Hey! I resent that; I have realistic standards! My problem is finding said guy that meets said standards... do you know how hard it is to find a guy that's a geek, gamer, AND likes to exercise, yet still eat lots of good food? Now that's an unicorn.
@Avicenna Never. I've tried dating a non-gamer: it does NOT work out! They either oppose my gaming or think it's stupid. I'm sure such relationships Even my poor boss, he's a gamer, his wife hates his gaming. He won't play it around her to make her happy. Does it work? To an extent. But is he happy? No.
I'm not saying it's impossible, and yes, I'm sure there are couples were a non-gamer can date a gamer and be happy. But realistically, I'd prefer a partner that can related to me on that level
I think itās good when you can pursue a hobby or interest separately. I have yet to get a girlfriend who really wants to go running with me. if sheās gaming while I run, then sheās not going to complain about all the time I take for that.
Itās my standards, difficulty to fall in love and even feel attracted, the fact that I will not accept any lies (and will call him out on them, which Iāve found to create huge issues with past relationships - they expect you to just accept their bs and not question it) and that I donāt do ācasualā anything. The goal is going to be a lifelong monogamous relationship or there wonāt be even a first date (obviously you canāt know from the start how things are going to go, may become nothing but a few dates or whatever, but the goal shall be longterm - no ālets see where itās goingā, ālets just have funā, āiāll date you while I talk to/date 5 others as wellā kind of bullshit).
You toxic? Nah... I do believe certain people that give off the appearance of being so "nice" only to turn out to be snakes once you get to know them : Speaking from experience
People who suck at relationships give the best relationship advices and it sadly applies to me. Still thanks Ik right. Such people makes you think good guys do exist and and how we got lucky to meet them when they're closet snakes š
I think dating is two crazy people with compatible issues🤣 and you don't find out about it until y'all spent some time together LOL.
That being said I don't think I'm undateable. I just don't think I've found that person that is willing to put up with my mess and I am willing to put up with theirs yet😂😂😂😂😂
Iām very antisocial & donāt go out with people my age lol. People say Iām picky but I just donāt want to date a guy that I donāt find attractive & thatās all that comes my way. I will not settle for the sake of not being alone.
That's not a flaw at all- that's just smart!!! No one should settle just for the sake of saying they're in a relationship. Those people are the main ones that are miserable or wind up in unhappy relationships/marriages.
Being hurt again. I hate the fact that the partners don't have a stable mind which makes me more mad and unstable. I am really afraid that they will change or their feelings will change on the unexpected time. This is what drives me more crazy and I tend to be controlling but eventually I break up because if it was true love then I wouldn't have to be controlling. Because it means lack of trust.
I think I am pretty undateable, but I actually have little trouble finding dates. Maybe it is because I am not focused on sex and that intrigues the girls. Or maybe it's because I ask while the Chumleys are giving hints but never getting off their behinds to approach.
I am the most unattractive and repulsive looking human in existence and I've been called as such my entire life and a lot of rejections listed such as the reason for rejection. I'm sure there are millions of other reasons as well.
That's kind but people I have considered blood related, friends and most girls I've ever asked out would disagree as I have been called so my entire life.
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I'm way too shy, regular looking (maybe 5-6), and some guys have said to me they find me intimidating.
Still when someone seems interested I avoid them like the plague, as there are a lot of reasons I avoid relationships completely but to sum them up being single (for me) is easy, comfortable and peaceful. Dealing with myself is complicated enough lol
"Dealing with myself is complicated enough" I felt that, LOL
My flaw is my learning disability18-p mild to moderate t. it maker harder to find good people. as well keeping getting myself in toxic relationship or bad relationship. other flaw that seen online dating men with some learning go too fast. flaw i am also overthinking , can get jealous other women. have lots of trust issue and can't even keep friends of women. I am in middle of centre when it comes to intellectual. i too high for learning disability people but falls under that mainstream hills. I also I get very tired emotional and physical.
I'm honestly not sure myself... All I know is I try to use the dating app and make an honest attempt and get nothing back. I can't even get a bad date let alone a good one 😞 I'm open for advice if you got it...
Aww, how can a guy like you have hard time dating? Seriously, I've seen your posts on here and you seem like a catch!
I would give you some advice but heck, you see I'm not much better myself, haha. Ironically I give good advice, yet can barely help myself. Why do you think you're undateable?
On dating sites, I don't get messages and no dates even with the paid version and In public I've never been approached by a girl either... š I'm just not sure what I am doing wrong
I guess not really making an attempt at dating does make me for the most part undateable to many. That said, a few days ago someone did ask if Iād like to go on a date with her. Thatās only happened like 4/5 times in the last 2-2.5 years, so for the most part my reasoning holds.
Hey, but you got asked out- grats!!! Apparently that's the key: stop trying and people will naturally gravitate towards you
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Iām undateable because of my insecurities. There are a lot of negative messages about my worth that Iāve internalized. The minute someone says something that validates my insecurity about something, I crumble. Makes being in a relationship hard because sometimes people say insensitive things. And once itās said, itās hard to āunhearā it and give the person another chance.
Itās not that I canāt get into a relationship, but theyāre unlikely to last.
Been there.
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Because I'm insecure and have low self worth, deep fear of failure, rejection and not being good enough. Inexperienced with dating, only had one girlfriend and got cheated on which reaffirms thoughts of not being good enough. No friends, job, independence or talents and hobbies. I'm just a terribly underdeveloped and sad person and even writing this makes me cringe at myself.
Pretty much too much baggage and insecurities, unreliable, no future or career.
How about you? Why do you think you're undateable?
My flaw is that I'm a perfectionist. I know perfection can't be attained, but I try. However, I don't seek the woman I'm dating to be perfect.
My other flaw is I date casually. I do it because I don't want to spend weeks or months in a relationship only to find it won't work. I can see three at one time, see that two won't work out and then invest in the one who has the traits I'm looking for.
A flaw that I don't think as one, but is found frustrating by some is I don't get sexual when casually dating. I just found sex causes too many problems in that. But some see it as a lack of commitment.
Yes I am undatable and honestly have no clue why. My main issue is just that I'm not very social but even on dating sites or asking people out it always results in being ignored, ghosted, or rejected. Hell I'm 29 and I've only ever had a girl say yes to me (in person) once.
Well, for the first time in my life, now at the age of 27, I have fallen in love. She is independent, ambitious, passionate, open-minded, and flexible. Though she is just as toxic as I am, and that is creating problems for us, at least for now.
Then there is another girl, she is independent, passionate, open-minded, and flexible, but not ambitious. She has a major crush on me. I like her personality, and she is very cute.
Both of them are free spirits, they have traveled a lot over the world. I admire them, I like them, and I love them. I want the both of them in my life, I know the first one will agree to that. I don't know how the second one will see it.
I might as well be due to anti social and lazy and let myself rot away in my bedroom but i like doing that so... just wish somehow magically a girl did to and we got together.
I am kinda unhygienic but once in a relationship i focus on that way more.
So i would say i am not that undateable i just don't know how to find people like myself.
Hmmm🤔.. Inexperience, distrust, fear, being introvert, being picky, unwillingness until a period... Yeah, these are the first things that come to my mind😌
Very justified and understandable reasons. I definitely can relate to the introversion (I'm happier alone), not settling, and having a hard time trusting others.
I have red hair most women hate this feature. I love history, international studies, travelling, learning about new cultures. I've always wanted to meet a nice girl with similar interests. I exercise, keep fit rarely drink yet been on tinder and bumble and not even a single match.
While I've ran experiments on dating websites with guys with brown hair and brown eyes who don't look l after themselves... Guess who gets matches and interests in real life as well.
That sexy jawline though...
No homo but you got masculine looking face. Symmetrical.
Iām have the same color hair as you and I know EXACTLY what you are taking about. How I got a some blonde and I can get it highlighted to look convincingly blonde. But bleaching my hair has all its own ramifications (especially at my age) of looking effeminate. It has to be done carefully. When itās done right I do get a lot more attention from women.
But I do remember this. The girl of my dreams met her future husband right in front of me in college. The guy was shorter than men, balding (shaved his head) but he was pure redhead. He was also a military pilot and his game with her was tighter the mine.
As horrible as that was its not all about appearance.
Youāre not undateable!
Im single because I want to meet a nerdy woman who wants to have a large family. No such unicorns seem to exist.
Sounds like you both are undateable.
@coachTanthony : You mean @Cynicaldreamer?
Yes both of you. You are a 50 year old man who wants kids.. good luck with that.. and she is a 35 year old woman with standards that 99 percent of men will never meet. I love you both but you both give me a migraine.
@coachTanthony: Iām actually 48
@Avicenna Honesty isn't important at all lol
@coachTanthony: Well, that wasn't intentional. It's not as if I claimed to be younger than I am.
Don't mind me, I'm just going to eat some popcorn and enjoy this conversation between you two~
@coachtanthony Hey! I resent that; I have realistic standards! My problem is finding said guy that meets said standards... do you know how hard it is to find a guy that's a geek, gamer, AND likes to exercise, yet still eat lots of good food? Now that's an unicorn.
But this is about Avicenna not me, carry on, lol.
@Cynicaldreamer, Iād advise you to drop the gamer requirement. Just an example of compromising.
@Avicenna Never. I've tried dating a non-gamer: it does NOT work out! They either oppose my gaming or think it's stupid. I'm sure such relationships
Even my poor boss, he's a gamer, his wife hates his gaming. He won't play it around her to make her happy. Does it work? To an extent. But is he happy? No.
I'm not saying it's impossible, and yes, I'm sure there are couples were a non-gamer can date a gamer and be happy. But realistically, I'd prefer a partner that can related to me on that level
@Cynicaldreamer sorry that was a typo I meant to say 96% lol
I think itās good when you can pursue a hobby or interest separately. I have yet to get a girlfriend who really wants to go running with me. if sheās gaming while I run, then sheās not going to complain about all the time I take for that.
@coachTanthony 96 percent huh? That means there are about 4 percent of men out that do meet my standards: there -is- hope!
@Cynicaldreamer That's the spirit!
@Avicenna You could be 53 for all we know! Ha
@coachTanthony: LOL, could be. But I have dated someone on here and she could confirm my age.
@Avicenna Because that person could be also lying about her age.. you both could be in this together! LOL
@coachTanthony: LMAO. I actually look younger than my age, so...
Itās my standards, difficulty to fall in love and even feel attracted, the fact that I will not accept any lies (and will call him out on them, which Iāve found to create huge issues with past relationships - they expect you to just accept their bs and not question it) and that I donāt do ācasualā anything. The goal is going to be a lifelong monogamous relationship or there wonāt be even a first date (obviously you canāt know from the start how things are going to go, may become nothing but a few dates or whatever, but the goal shall be longterm - no ālets see where itās goingā, ālets just have funā, āiāll date you while I talk to/date 5 others as wellā kind of bullshit).
In other words, you don't put up with nonsense and games, and guys that aren't serious are turned off by that?
I see absolutely no problem there!
There's a high chance i am toxic. Also i think all the guys i attract are really good guys. But they're the most poisonous snakes of all
You toxic? Nah...
I do believe certain people that give off the appearance of being so "nice" only to turn out to be snakes once you get to know them : Speaking from experience
People who suck at relationships give the best relationship advices and it sadly applies to me. Still thanks
Ik right. Such people makes you think good guys do exist and and how we got lucky to meet them when they're closet snakes š
I think dating is two crazy people with compatible issues🤣 and you don't find out about it until y'all spent some time together LOL.
That being said I don't think I'm undateable. I just don't think I've found that person that is willing to put up with my mess and I am willing to put up with theirs yet😂😂😂😂😂
Iām very antisocial & donāt go out with people my age lol. People say Iām picky but I just donāt want to date a guy that I donāt find attractive & thatās all that comes my way. I will not settle for the sake of not being alone.
That's not a flaw at all- that's just smart!!! No one should settle just for the sake of saying they're in a relationship. Those people are the main ones that are miserable or wind up in unhappy relationships/marriages.
Being hurt again.
I hate the fact that the partners don't have a stable mind which makes me more mad and unstable.
I am really afraid that they will change or their feelings will change on the unexpected time. This is what drives me more crazy and I tend to be controlling but eventually I break up because if it was true love then I wouldn't have to be controlling. Because it means lack of trust.
I think I am pretty undateable, but I actually have little trouble finding dates. Maybe it is because I am not focused on sex and that intrigues the girls. Or maybe it's because I ask while the Chumleys are giving hints but never getting off their behinds to approach.
I am the most unattractive and repulsive looking human in existence and I've been called as such my entire life and a lot of rejections listed such as the reason for rejection. I'm sure there are millions of other reasons as well.
Really? I find that hard to believe you're that unattractive
That's kind but people I have considered blood related, friends and most girls I've ever asked out would disagree as I have been called so my entire life.