I have a tinder date tomorrow, any safety tips?

[just_a_potato]

I'm not looking for a serious relationship right now I'm just trying to meet new people. He's pretty cute so I do have some interest in him, but I don't want to be murdered or something hahah. Any tips?

[Pasiton5]

Do a cat fish search make sure his last date is still with us, serious you got to be careful with online meeting people, it's a lot of not so nice people there, tell a friend or family member to keep a distant dryer on you have them already at the place your meeting to watch over you, or at least inform someone off ever your going, just use caution and don't drink too much, or walk away and come back drink f from same glass, keep eye contact her might have someone there watching his back, and always know you surroundings ways to spilt in a hurry, and no sex let him earn the right to ok damn feel like it's my daughter I'm talking to, i told her these things when she started pre school, to she graduated college, just be safe use caution ok all that's cute is not good just saying

[just_a_potato]

Pre school? 😂😂😂
Thank you for the advice

[whatdoyouwantt]

I met aloooot of guys from dating app in my life.


Nothing bad ever happened, thank god 🙏 but I do suggest you to meet them in public somewhere you feel safe and then decide what you want to do. Sometimes you can easily tell they are a bit suspicious, while other times you might encounter yourself with a two faced person. Just be careful. I’d say meet in public, maybe google them out before, hear their voice, or talk for little bit. Don’t have to meet the same day. Also when you do meet, let some friend know about it, also share location to them, give them the name of the guy.. if you decide to hookup, ALWAYS USE CONDOMS!!

[Dazed0N0Confused]

1. Meet at a public place with witnesses, preferably somewhere they know you.
2. Make sure you send a picture of your location to your friends & keep them updated on.
3. Make sure the person your meeting is the same person in the photo. If they say they're his friend its a no go to leave your location with them
4. Drive separately.
5. Try to arrive early & talk to any staff about if you need "saved" that there is a code word to get you out of there fast. This works best in a restaurant or bar.

[AmandaYVR]

Meet publicly, don't go back to either of your places, don't get drunk, and don't give him access to your beverages.
Other than that, just have fun, keep it light, enjoy yourself. It's more about conversation and being a good communicator than logistics.

[GhostKnight666]

ALWAYS WATCH YOUR DRINK! I can not say that enough. Also meet in a well lit place and not some shady back alley nightclub that he says "is the best I know here". And take some form of protection with you. By protection I do not mean condoms, but what I mean is a pepper spray or foldable knife which are easy to conceal and quick to draw and use. Also make your intentions clear on the first date or before that. If he does anything wrong with you, don't leave but make a scene so that you have testimony of the people and can exert social pressure on him. Finally, do not visit his house. Hope this helps and best of luck with your first date.

[just_a_potato]

Thank youuu

[improve]

most helpful and full answer thank you

[SupremeWarlord]

Well, if you're seriously having this approach, then I do not recommend you to go this date after all, since you will be feeling insecure the whole date and making the guy uncomfortable also.

If he seriously wants to murder you, chances are he's a calculating guy who knows how to fool people, and I do not know how to advise you on that.

But if you go to this date anyway despite you having this fear, then avoid being alone with him, if he asks you "let's go to a place alone", you reject his advance, and if he keeps insisting, cancel the date.

[just_a_potato]

It's not him specifically I think everyone is a murderer, like everyone. Thank you for the advice

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Meet in a public place.. tell your parents your going out for dinner with a guy and if you dont hear from me by 8pm please come check on me. Dont go in your dates car or anywhere alone with him... stay among other people a few times before doing something in private. Something feels off it is dont try and force yourself its okay. Trust your instincts!

Remember even if he offers to pay you owe him nothing... waitress brings one bill speak up immediately say separate.. guys these days seem to feel entitled if they pay for you.. dont need to feel obligated to do anything..

I hope it goes well!!

[PeacefulRainDrop]

If you happen to get in his car before you do ask to see his license.. take a picture of it send it to your parents.. look make sure his age is the same age he told you. If he won't let you see his license laughs it off red flags call off the date

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Also when you go to leave say someone is picking you up.. it was nice meeting him.. don't let him see your car or he could stock you

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Or better yet get a friend to pick you up and drop around abit then go back to your car

[MotorcycleMan]

All the obvious stuff. Meet somewhere public. Don't leave there to go anywhere non public on the first meeting. Always let someone know where you are. If you leave there to go somewhere else, let them know that too. Let them know when you expect to be back and let them know when you are.
You don't have to hide this. Any decent guy will respect that you are being safe. If he is bothered by it, that should bother you.
Carry pepper spray. It's just smart.
The vast majority of men are OK, but it's smart to be safe.

[JuliaStyles]

Did you also ask this anonymously as it is pretty much identical, with minor changes, to yours?

"I'm not in a mind frame for a serious relationship right now, but I do want to fuck someone, any safety tips on how to have fun with no attachments?"

Anonymous (18-24)

[just_a_potato]

That's does sound weirdly similar, but no that isn't me I usually don't post anonymous questions.

[exitseven]

I don't know how Tinder works but I have heard it is sketchy. Make sure you meet in a clean, well lighted place, make sure you tell somebody you trust where you are meeting him and where you go after that. Hopefully you know his name and where he lives and found out he is who he says he is. See if you can check him out on line.
Make sure you keep your gun within arm's length.

[just_a_potato]

I know his full name, I have his snap location, I've seen his mom (never talked obviously) I video called with him twice and talked on the phone everyday since matching and both my mom and my best friend know where I am at all times. I'm ok 😂

[exitseven]

Thanks for the update. I hope you have a nice time.

[just_a_potato]

I diiid 😀

[exitseven]

Oh. Good. 😊😊😊😊

[Anonymous]

Meet in the daytime and stay in public, have a friend to text/call one hour into the date and after.
And just relax, there are some horror stories out there but it is way below one per mille of every first date meetings that end up with someone getting physically hurt in anyway.
I have met more than 50 men from dating sites (mostly tinder). No one ever tried anything violent. At most some did not understand that I did not want to go back to their place but they never laid a finger on me when I declined.

[JackSmy]

I WANT, with ALL MY HEART, to BELEIVE that people are innately good!!
However, I have several lady friends, like little sisters, as I think of them!!
Whenever they go on a date, ESPECIALLY an internet date, we all talk about it, and one of the others, is always close by, just watching, and I am on my phone, in case something happens!
We are not 'family' but are CLOSER, than "family" and we take care of each other, especially, if the date is at a place, where there is a lot of unrest, and things, this last year.
Several times, I have kind of just stayed away, but watched, at a First Date, and they are always nervous, and unsure, like anyone might be, meeting for the first time!! We have a certain motion, or a phone call/text, and one of us is always close by, just making sure we are all safe!!

At least, call several friends, and family, and tell them where you are, and keep your phone GPS on! Just in case!!

[ohshee]

Just meet in a well-lit place pay attention to his every word because if he's lying to you he will tell you the truth in the same breath pay attention to his eyes when he's talking to you and see if he looks into your eyes or if he moves his ice a different direction and don't go any place with him not unless you feel one hundred percent safe and somebody knows where you're going

[friendzoned4life]

You are not looking for anything serious than why date at all.

There is 2 possible reasons for a guy to be on tinder

1. He is attractive and Just wants sex if you met that one you gonna have a good time

2. It his last resort to find someone if you met that one you gonna destroy him

[just_a_potato]

I made it very clear what my intentions are his feelings are not my responsibility. Especially considering he's a good amount older than I am. Trying to figure out what I'm alive for lol.

[friendzoned4life]

Just so you know if you ever want a serious thing in the future keep the amount of dicks that have been in you 2 or lower

[just_a_potato]

I don't have sex

[friendzoned4life]

Nothing serious and no sex? No reason for you to date then

[integrale77]

Meet somewhere public maybe with a friend initially or have a friend ring you a few mins after you meet so if you want to get away you can provide an excuse without hurting feelings.

Make sure you have a friend that knows where you are maybe a check-in later on.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

Meet at the date location, don't let him pick you up. Let a friend or family member know where you are going and have a safe word that means you need help. Do not drink ANY alcohol. Don't agree to go anywhere that isn't a public place. Have a cut-off time where if you're not home, someone knows to come get you.

I've had too many bad dates mate.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

And if its legal, carry pepper spray.

[JustDebra]

Tell many people at least one where you will be going and when you should be home. Stay in public with the person, do not go off anywhere alone with them until you truly get to know them. Take pepper spray if you have any. Dont let them pick you up in their car, drive there or be dropped off. Dont be alone in a car with them until you get to know them. Listen to your gut your intuition about the person, if something seems unsafe odd about them dont ignore your gut. Keep in mind they are a stranger... stay level headed about them so you can be cautious an protect yourself.

[Rok4bakAR]

That’s the problem with tinder. Makes girls delusional. All you mentioned was how he looks like.


Men were never designed to be beautiful and the difference between a good looking girl and a good looking guy is.
Guys look like in their sleep, when they’re wake, night, day time and etc..


And for safety tips make sure you take 55 cops with you maybe call the military have a fence between you and him wear 17 masks on top of each other and put a plastic bag over your head and duct tape it shut. because the masks don’t completely stop you from breathing.

[Rok4bakAR]

Men look like that in their sleep when they wake up morning time night time in excel

[just_a_potato]

I'm... delusional? I just wanted to meet someone and go on a date. Huh.

[Aphrodite801]

Lmfao, someone’s angry they’re not attractive to women.

[Rok4bakAR]

Just a potato! Then look for a watermelon to date.

[Rok4bakAR]

@aphrodita801 20 years old huh? Wtf do you know? You sound like you’re still being breast fed

[Aphrodite801]

I sound like I’m still being breast fed because you’re ugly ass is bitter about women wanting actually attractive men who aren’t pieces of shit like you? Nah.

[Aphrodite801]

Anyway, I don’t argue with unattractive bitter men, bye bye

[Rok4bakAR]

Male honesty male misogyny! Next Time you’re in trouble I want to see those soyboy soft-spoken girly man that you love so much what is going to do when you being beat up by 6 guys. That’s what you girls wanna do. Fag us up!! you got no logical reasoning you took what I said copied and paste it back to me and told it back to me you and your fucking peanut sized brain.

[Rok4bakAR]

I see how beautiful you are that you decide to hide your face behind the screen and click on my comment and talk pure nonsense! I’m not only not attractive. I’m also very ugly I’m actual minus -10. But doesn’t matter. I’m a guy. Hot young girls don’t date me for me looks. As is not part of men’s design to look beautiful. You fat cunt.

[The_Maphio]

You might be fucked.
If you end up being physically fucked, good for you, but I'd urge you to vet your "partner" thoroughly before giving him any confidence.
Unless, indeed, is some sort of booty call. Case in which, have fun.

[just_a_potato]

No sex sir, I'm waiting until I'm in love

[Inexpensivefurniture]

-Always have the first meeting in public place
-Always have your own mode of transportation for arriving at the date and to leave whenever you need to, even if that's taking the bus or a cab
-Always tell someone else where you will be and the name of who you are meeting. I would even send one of his pictures to them as well, just in case he gave a fake name
-Have a plan in place for someone to check in on you after the date

[Finchie40]

I doubt he wants to murder you I am pretty sure he wants to stab you with something else , especially meeting him on Tinder , his intentions are to fuck your brains out

[just_a_potato]

But I don't want someone to fuck my brains out, I want to stare into someone's eyes while talking about music 😭

[Finchie40]

How long have you been talking to this guy before actually deciding to meet him? It pretty much comes down to that since Most people that go on Tinder are just looking for sex , especially from how Tinder is designed , it’s more based off of a persons appearance then anything , especially by just swiping left and right on each other , So by matching with someone on there you are pretty much just matching based off your appearance first , he just found you to be attractive so he swiped right on you and saying to himself , I will bang that , I hate to sound so forward but sadly That’s how Tinder is designed. So your chances of finding someone that really wants to talk about music and to get Lost in your eyes is a 50/50 chance , just depends on how long you both been talking
To each other and if he is really telling
You the truth or just telling
You what you want to hear to get into your pants. It’s ok to meet people from the internet but it’s best to be cautious about it and to really see if you have chemistry with someone before taking the chance of actually meeting them , if this guy you are talking to is just pushing to meet you right off the bat then you should be cautious cuz his intentions might be completely different then yours. Just because we find someone to be attractive it doesn’t mean they have a good heart , I have friends that met girls from Tinder and sadly my friends intentions were just to get laid and not have a real connection , Most the girls they met denied them because they were looking for more , which was funny , that right there shows the difference between most guys and girls but some of the girls were looking for the same thing , so it just comes down to your chemistry and connection with each other I guess , So my word of advice is just be careful that’s all

[just_a_potato]

We talked for a week before the actual date I see a lot of good points here, thank you for not calling me a slut or something along those lines or telling me I just want to break someone's heart. We had chemistry but I don't know how I feel about that I don't really know what I'm looking for I'm just getting out of highschool. Thank you sir.

[Finchie40]

No problem , just be careful is all I am saying , I am in the dating field as well and all I can say from my experiences is things have totally changed compared to the way things were back then , people nowadays are more selfish and only really care about themselves , It seems people don’t really value one on one relationships anymore they either have others lined up , or they are secretly involved with someone else and cheating , so just be careful is all I am saying , don’t get your heart messed with

[loveslongnails]

Meet in a very public place
Don't go anywhere private on date #1, no matter how "safe" you feel
Have a friend ready to meet you where the date is being held, and wait for her/him to arrive there after your date ends and he leaves.

[just_a_potato]

Very good reminder on the "safe" thing I do tend to not see red flags when I feel safe

[loveslongnails]

Good, because you need to. Remember - no matter HOW good it "feels", or HOW much you "think" you connect or really like the guy - it's still only the first meeting. Don't let your emotions get the better of you. If he's the real deal, he'll understand and won't push you. If you like him, take some time to look into him a bit. If there's a second date, same thing - be cautious, it's only date #2.

[DWornock]

It appears you have already met, so the risk should be infinitesimal. Regardless, you can meet in a public place and, without telling him the reason, have a friend take a picture of the two of you together. Even better if she includes a photo of the two of you and his car. Then should your feel threatened in any substantial manner, tell him, "I told my friend if I didn't call her in a couple of hours, to take the photo (s) to the police."