I have a tinder date tomorrow, any safety tips?

Question

I'm not looking for a serious relationship right now I'm just trying to meet new people. He's pretty cute so I do have some interest in him, but I don't want to be murdered or something hahah. Any tips?

Pasiton5 · Accepted Answer

Do a cat fish search make sure his last date is still with us, serious you got to be careful with online meeting people, it's a lot of not so nice people there, tell a friend or family member to keep a distant dryer on you have them already at the place your meeting to watch over you, or at least inform someone off ever your going, just use caution and don't drink too much, or walk away and come back drink f from same glass, keep eye contact her might have someone there watching his back, and always know you surroundings ways to spilt in a hurry, and no sex let him earn the right to ok damn feel like it's my daughter I'm talking to, i told her these things when she started pre school, to she graduated college, just be safe use caution ok all that's cute is not good just saying

whatdoyouwantt · Accepted Answer

I met aloooot of guys from dating app in my life.

Nothing bad ever happened, thank god 🙏 but I do suggest you to meet them in public somewhere you feel safe and then decide what you want to do. Sometimes you can easily tell they are a bit suspicious, while other times you might encounter yourself with a two faced person. Just be careful. I’d say meet in public, maybe google them out before, hear their voice, or talk for little bit. Don’t have to meet the same day. Also when you do meet, let some friend know about it, also share location to them, give them the name of the guy.. if you decide to hookup, ALWAYS USE CONDOMS!!

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

1. Meet at a public place with witnesses, preferably somewhere they know you.
2. Make sure you send a picture of your location to your friends & keep them updated on.
3. Make sure the person your meeting is the same person in the photo. If they say they're his friend its a no go to leave your location with them
4. Drive separately.
5. Try to arrive early & talk to any staff about if you need "saved" that there is a code word to get you out of there fast. This works best in a restaurant or bar.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Meet publicly, don't go back to either of your places, don't get drunk, and don't give him access to your beverages.
Other than that, just have fun, keep it light, enjoy yourself. It's more about conversation and being a good communicator than logistics.

GhostKnight666 · Answer

ALWAYS WATCH YOUR DRINK! I can not say that enough. Also meet in a well lit place and not some shady back alley nightclub that he says "is the best I know here". And take some form of protection with you. By protection I do not mean condoms, but what I mean is a pepper spray or foldable knife which are easy to conceal and quick to draw and use. Also make your intentions clear on the first date or before that. If he does anything wrong with you, don't leave but make a scene so that you have testimony of the people and can exert social pressure on him. Finally, do not visit his house. Hope this helps and best of luck with your first date.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Well, if you're seriously having this approach, then I do not recommend you to go this date after all, since you will be feeling insecure the whole date and making the guy uncomfortable also.

If he seriously wants to murder you, chances are he's a calculating guy who knows how to fool people, and I do not know how to advise you on that.

But if you go to this date anyway despite you having this fear, then avoid being alone with him, if he asks you "let's go to a place alone", you reject his advance, and if he keeps insisting, cancel the date.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Meet in a public place.. tell your parents your going out for dinner with a guy and if you dont hear from me by 8pm please come check on me. Dont go in your dates car or anywhere alone with him... stay among other people a few times before doing something in private. Something feels off it is dont try and force yourself its okay. Trust your instincts!

Remember even if he offers to pay you owe him nothing... waitress brings one bill speak up immediately say separate.. guys these days seem to feel entitled if they pay for you.. dont need to feel obligated to do anything..

I hope it goes well!!

MotorcycleMan · Answer

All the obvious stuff. Meet somewhere public. Don't leave there to go anywhere non public on the first meeting. Always let someone know where you are. If you leave there to go somewhere else, let them know that too. Let them know when you expect to be back and let them know when you are.
You don't have to hide this. Any decent guy will respect that you are being safe. If he is bothered by it, that should bother you.
Carry pepper spray. It's just smart.
The vast majority of men are OK, but it's smart to be safe.

JuliaStyles · Answer

Did you also ask this anonymously as it is pretty much identical, with minor changes, to yours?

"I'm not in a mind frame for a serious relationship right now, but I do want to fuck someone, any safety tips on how to have fun with no attachments?"

Anonymous (18-24)

exitseven · Answer

I don't know how Tinder works but I have heard it is sketchy. Make sure you meet in a clean, well lighted place, make sure you tell somebody you trust where you are meeting him and where you go after that. Hopefully you know his name and where he lives and found out he is who he says he is. See if you can check him out on line.
Make sure you keep your gun within arm's length.

Anonymous · Answer

Meet in the daytime and stay in public, have a friend to text/call one hour into the date and after.
And just relax, there are some horror stories out there but it is way below one per mille of every first date meetings that end up with someone getting physically hurt in anyway.
I have met more than 50 men from dating sites (mostly tinder). No one ever tried anything violent. At most some did not understand that I did not want to go back to their place but they never laid a finger on me when I declined.

JackSmy · Answer

I WANT, with ALL MY HEART, to BELEIVE that people are innately good!!
However, I have several lady friends, like little sisters, as I think of them!!
Whenever they go on a date, ESPECIALLY an internet date, we all talk about it, and one of the others, is always close by, just watching, and I am on my phone, in case something happens!
We are not 'family' but are CLOSER, than "family" and we take care of each other, especially, if the date is at a place, where there is a lot of unrest, and things, this last year.
Several times, I have kind of just stayed away, but watched, at a First Date, and they are always nervous, and unsure, like anyone might be, meeting for the first time!! We have a certain motion, or a phone call/text, and one of us is always close by, just making sure we are all safe!!

At least, call several friends, and family, and tell them where you are, and keep your phone GPS on! Just in case!!

ohshee · Answer

Just meet in a well-lit place pay attention to his every word because if he's lying to you he will tell you the truth in the same breath pay attention to his eyes when he's talking to you and see if he looks into your eyes or if he moves his ice a different direction and don't go any place with him not unless you feel one hundred percent safe and somebody knows where you're going

friendzoned4life · Answer

You are not looking for anything serious than why date at all.

There is 2 possible reasons for a guy to be on tinder

1. He is attractive and Just wants sex if you met that one you gonna have a good time

2. It his last resort to find someone if you met that one you gonna destroy him

integrale77 · Answer

Meet somewhere public maybe with a friend initially or have a friend ring you a few mins after you meet so if you want to get away you can provide an excuse without hurting feelings.

Make sure you have a friend that knows where you are maybe a check-in later on.

BakedBeanieBabie · Answer

Meet at the date location, don't let him pick you up. Let a friend or family member know where you are going and have a safe word that means you need help. Do not drink ANY alcohol. Don't agree to go anywhere that isn't a public place. Have a cut-off time where if you're not home, someone knows to come get you.

I've had too many bad dates mate.

JustDebra · Answer

Tell many people at least one where you will be going and when you should be home. Stay in public with the person, do not go off anywhere alone with them until you truly get to know them. Take pepper spray if you have any. Dont let them pick you up in their car, drive there or be dropped off. Dont be alone in a car with them until you get to know them. Listen to your gut your intuition about the person, if something seems unsafe odd about them dont ignore your gut. Keep in mind they are a stranger... stay level headed about them so you can be cautious an protect yourself.

Rok4bakAR · Answer

That’s the problem with tinder. Makes girls delusional. All you mentioned was how he looks like.

Men were never designed to be beautiful and the difference between a good looking girl and a good looking guy is.
Guys look like in their sleep, when they’re wake, night, day time and etc..

And for safety tips make sure you take 55 cops with you maybe call the military have a fence between you and him wear 17 masks on top of each other and put a plastic bag over your head and duct tape it shut. because the masks don’t completely stop you from breathing.

The_Maphio · Answer

You might be fucked.
If you end up being physically fucked, good for you, but I'd urge you to vet your "partner" thoroughly before giving him any confidence.
Unless, indeed, is some sort of booty call. Case in which, have fun.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

-Always have the first meeting in public place
-Always have your own mode of transportation for arriving at the date and to leave whenever you need to, even if that's taking the bus or a cab
-Always tell someone else where you will be and the name of who you are meeting. I would even send one of his pictures to them as well, just in case he gave a fake name
-Have a plan in place for someone to check in on you after the date

loveslongnails · Answer

Meet in a very public place
Don't go anywhere private on date #1, no matter how "safe" you feel
Have a friend ready to meet you where the date is being held, and wait for her/him to arrive there after your date ends and he leaves.

Finchie40 · Answer

I doubt he wants to murder you I am pretty sure he wants to stab you with something else , especially meeting him on Tinder , his intentions are to fuck your brains out

DWornock · Answer

It appears you have already met, so the risk should be infinitesimal. Regardless, you can meet in a public place and, without telling him the reason, have a friend take a picture of the two of you together. Even better if she includes a photo of the two of you and his car. Then should your feel threatened in any substantial manner, tell him, "I told my friend if I didn't call her in a couple of hours, to take the photo (s) to the police."

Guardian45 · Answer

Meet him at a public space. Initially, a short meeting is best, with an option to extend. Tell a trusted person where you are to call you at a preset time. At that time, you can decide if the date should continue or end. ALWAYS tell people where you are and that you are safe.

rosemilk · Answer

Is it too late to suggest a group date/double date with your friend to be extra cautious? 🌸

spartan55 · Answer

Where is the date planned? That would help provide some better advice.

Miristheiss · Answer

Meet him somewhere. Don't let him pick you up in his vehicle. Tell friends/family where you will be, who you are meeting... maybe arrange to check in a time or two throughout the night. What your drinks... don't let him go get you a drink and don't leave your drink unattended. Take it slow.

Anonymous · Answer

Look im only 18 and i have been to a couple of tinder dates just out of boredom... always go to like a restaurant and neve get on their car always uber or whatever but once i went to a date the guy looked fine but he was sooo creepy his voice was like of someone that had problems and i had to stay until the end of the date which sucked

Anonymous · Answer

Meet at a public place. Stay in places where there's other people. Have someone else know about where you are going to be and what times do you expect to go and return.

And my bonus: I have a safe sentence for when I want to exit a date via phone call. I text my friend that sentence and he phones me in some minutes to simulate an urgent thing that needs my attention.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, stop assuming people are murderers just because they have a penis.

Its at this point that all the feminazis are going to tell me that women are much more likely to be killed by a man than a woman, sure ok fine, thats true, but whats also true is that men are twice as likely as women to be killed and we aren't all living in fear.

Browneye57 · Answer

He's there for a hook up. If you're not DTF he'll ghost. I guarantee it.

Anonymous · Answer

nope just keep your cellphone near you and have your friend call you with an excuse to get out of there if you need one and keep a bottle of mace and taser and knife and brass knuckles with you just in case

Kas19 · Answer

Let someone know Bring a taser and pepperspray I personally wouldn't to anywhere alone with him.  Check the locks before you get in the car.  Don't be afraid to say no.

Agape93 · Answer

Go out in the afternoon. Tell people where you’re going and with whom. Carry a weapon. Don’t accept drinks from him. Don’t stay out too late. Maybe have someone nearby to save you if needed

kamalravi25 · Answer

You should inform someone you trust about the details of whomever you are going to meet.
Always be cautious.
Always visit in a public place.
Don't disclose everything to him.
Always set ur gps on wherever you go.

Scotsmanky16 · Answer

Meet him at a public place that doesn't serve alcohol perhaps Starbucks or whatever. Tell a friend/family member (someone reliable ) your plans and have them ready for potentional text/phone call if you may need it. Look out for red flags.

Levin · Answer

Just meet in a public place. Trust your gut. Respect your own boundaries, ie say no if you don't feel comfortable with something.

monkeynutts · Answer

Meet in a public place, just in case he is a freak that way you can get away easy, also get a second cell, it’s not cool to give your number to guys you don’t really know.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Tell someone where you are going and what time you are exspected to come home that's what I suggested to my sister she is 21

kidvid80 · Answer

make sure friends or family know you are meeting someone- take separate vehicles and meet him somewhere public

Mangospacho · Answer

Someone swiped right on the picture of a potato, didn’t they.

Still-alive · Answer

yeah if he screams and runs away its not you its him

CentralPerk77 · Answer

Meet in a public place, bring pepper spray in your purse. Take separate cars. Google search his name (check sex offender lists and such), Etc.

ManHater · Answer

You have to go into this date with the one thing on his mind... He wants to get in your pants and fuck you hard. He is a guy what were you expecting some Disney fairy tale? He could care less about your feeling and you better think that he's going to play you because he's going to feed you all those nice words you want to hear. Get you do drip just by getting your heart to melt with his sweet talking and you spreading your legs for him with no problem.

Women are weak minded and when men chip away at their minds and heart their cunt is ready to be taken with little to no resistance.

Bean2thousand · Answer

Call the police and have him arrested before the date. Then, go visit him in jail. There you can be sure he is unarmed and unable to hurt you through the bars.

DarcRefractions · Answer

phone tracking device and tell somebody where ur going. and who with that's about it. link it to your computer google and a friend or family member phone

Shihab91 · Answer

drive your own car if you have one , meet him at public place

Shy_Steve · Answer

Just tell the people you live with what your doing and what time you should be home by and odviously have your phone with you.
As long as your meeting in a public place you should be fine as long as you don't go alone with him anywhere too early.

TallAnon · Answer

Tell someone that you're going and where. Meet in public, if you don't feel comfortable then trust your feelings, make sure your phone is charged, if you're planning to fuck bring condoms, don't do what I wouldn't do.

FakeName123 · Answer

1. Tell someone where you go and with whom.
2. Choose a public place.
3. Make it clear you don't look to instantly get into bed (assuming you don't). Considering this is tinder you definitely should be clear about that.

blank_expression · Answer

Pack a gun, take copies of consent forms, and get it all on tape.

Anonymous · Answer

These days guys are all easy man whores. Non virgin men are only good for sex/money-they deserve to be used So if he is non virgin, leave him lol. Statistically non virgin men cheat more. I am done how manwhores like to use women for sex and want virgin girls but get butthurt when women does the same and use them for money. Anyway i never understand why anyone want a second-hand man. You also would not want to be a second-hand.

princeofromance · Answer

Meet in a public place. Do not let them come back to your place on the first date. If You plan on having sex, Please use protection in the forms of Birth Control and other measures.

Jxrdyn_13 · Answer

Mace and taser. Goodluck hun, keep your phone on you at all times and stay in a mildly populated place. Also dont go back to his, dont share to much information and get your own drinks.

drownsbytheriver · Answer

You should face time him to make sure he’s not cat fishing you or have his Instagram or Facebook. Drive your own car and meet at a public place like a restaurant tell your friend or family member where you will be at. And have fun

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, meet in a public setting and let someone know where your going and what the guys names are. Do not let them know where you live either.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Yep. Always meet in a public place and take a friend with you, even if you keep them out of site just in case you need them.

Leavesbound · Answer

Always have a safe call. Always meet in a crowded public place. Let your date know you will be making a phone call part way through the date and why.

Anonymous · Answer

Meet in a public place... like a coffee shop with a lot of people. Run a background check afterwards to see if they are who they say they are. Give them a Google number instead of your real phone number.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Dating is not a way to meet new people, let's just put that out there. He may have an interest of looking for serious relationship and you are not. Just go networking or something and stay off tinder.

EaterPeter · Answer

Public place. well lit. Very many people. Exit strategy. Notify friend. Have game plan.

lpoots · Answer

let someone know  1 what time you extpect to be bak  2 where you are going  3 the name and number of who the date is with  apart from this  good luck

somesoul · Answer

Have sex if you wanna hookup, if you don't wanna hookup, pls stop using the app and save yourself from a heartbreak. Don't do the mistake I did.

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