Never did want a smoker, but it happened anyway. Luckily he’s not one of those that stinks of cigarettes, where his hair, clothes and breath is concerned! Can’t complain anyway, as I’m a stress smoker and there’s been a lot of that lately!
@Sarahr123 we’re not married, but we’ve been together 2 1/2 years. My ex husband was also a smoker, although he did quit when we had child number 2. Twelve years later he started again.
Smoking is an instant turnoff for me, so yes, I'd reject or lose interest in someone if they're a smoker.
I don't smoke, nor do I want to be exposed to second hand smoke.
When I was younger, I tried dating a smoker... it did not work out. He even tried to quit because he knew it bothered me (no, I didn't ask him to quit; he did it on his own). However, he wasn't motivated enough to stick with it and went back to smoking... which yes, that's his prerogative. But I certainly didn't like kissing or being near him when he smelled like cigarettes.
Hmmm not sure.. I actually teach high school kids to pass their exams and teach people in dance. Next to that i’m starting my new bachelor soon, but i do smoke sometimes. Just a habit i picked up from back in high school and being around friends that are smokers. I usually only smoke a couple of cigs when i have a really awful week. Makes me calm and less stressed. But besides that i’m trying my hardest to not touch it when i feel like i don’t need it. Not like you necessarily need it when you feel awful, but it does give me pleasure whenever i feel like that.
It is a sign of being influenced from the outside or being a little unstable, but definitely not a sign of low IQ. I bet even genius professors or scientists can be smokers depending on how they grew up and what kind of mindset they have.
In the US, smokers are generally regarded as low IQ people, with the possible exception of those who are so old that they became addicted before the dangers were widely known.
actually IQ is not related at all. Some people say it is, due to the fact lower IQ people are easier to be influenced to follow other people's actions, Therefore drinking or smoking peer pressure is less likey to bother a higher IQ person but this person can still go into smoking of there own will. Enstien was a heavy smoker himself and the doctors always told him to stop he was stubborn and never did stop.
I do indeed see a difference in how smokers are seen in the US and in Europe. Most US people i speak to are really against cigarettes. In Europe it’s more common to smoke. I still don’t know why there is such a gap between the US and the EU when it comes to smoking, maybe because they dealt with it differently over the years (in terms of rules etc). But when i go to a terrace to drink something, i usually see 30% having a smoke while having a drink.
IQ does not equal wisdom. IQ does not equal "more likely to be correct."
I know this isn't about politics. But as a life long left winger, I proudly touted the fact that science says liberals are more intelligent than conservatives, to the "stupid and uneducated" conservatives that I loathed so much.
I'm no longer a left winger. I'm truly an open minded person now. I now see that the smartest people are on the left and they are also the most brainwashed people. I was one of them.
High IQ doesn't mean jack diddly if you ask me. It's useful for work or creating things. But its not useful for wisdom. The dumbest person can be the most wise.
@HiveBee actually a person with higher IQ is factually more likely to be correct in problem solving. So there yes it does mean more highly to be correct in circumstances. And if you have low enough IQ your actually mentally disabled. So it means a damn lot lol.
@HiveBee lots of dancers around me suck at school. They are not really good at theoretical stuff. But their emotional intelligence or empathy is crazy high. That’s called intelligence too
No society shouldn't be ran by IQ. IQ is a big factor to science tho and humans will only abide by science more time goes on which we have already seen.
And yet, IQ is not distinguished or powerful enough a trait for you to say society should be run by those with high IQ. Even though, if the truth is that high IQ people are more likely to be correct, it makes sense.
But that is not the truth and you know it.
Maybe you believe for some moral reason, that its wrong to put those choices in the hands of a few high IQ people.
How about a hypothetical? In a hypothetical society run by the mist intelligent people, is it better in every way than today's democracy?
Because it’s a legal drug that’s easy to get a lot of people fall victim to the trap I don’t know why weed was ever legal but cigarettes were always legal, well actually scratch that I do know why because the stupid ass government makes money off of cigarettes. But anyway I personally don’t know how they got hooked but that doesn’t automatically make them dumb
My dad quit in definitely my mom has quit like 5 different times she’s currently trying to quit now. Nicotine is extremely addictive so that doesn’t make someone dumb for not being able to quit smoking and I would appreciate it if you would refrain from calling my parents dumb thanks
And your the one that called them dumb for falling for a trap that has been around for hundreds of years if you want to call something dumb call the government dumb for not making cigarettes illegal by now
@HiveBee IQ is about how fast you learn. Those with superior intelligence grasp things faster and more easily than those with normal or below average intelligence. Mentally retarded people don’t get anything.
This warning first appeared on cigarette packages sold on January 1, 1966:
I am assuming that your parents are not 65 years old and also that they did not begin smoking as infants. Therefore, these warnings, or warnings with even stronger language, were on every package of cigarettes that they ever smoked. These warnings were widely discussed in the 1960's and 1970's. Anyone who started smoking after January 1, 1966 cannot claim that they were unaware of the hazards of smoking cigarettes.
I won't date a smoker. That is my hardest of hard limits and one of the few things I'd consider an absolute deal breaker. Most of the people I have ever loved have died of lung cancer or other smoking related illnesses. Also I have had cancer that resulted from years of involuntary exposure to second hand smoke. I never smoked myself. I have one remaining lung and chronic breathing problems including asthma. I also have developed an allergy to nicotine so I would need an epi pen if I accidently kissed a smoker or one touched my mucus membranes.
Here's the thing. I will not date a woman that smokes a lot. I don't like the taste of cigarettes or the smell. And it's kind of a turn off.
I know women that smoke get very stressed when they don't and that tells me they develop a strong dependency on things, and that can be destructive to a relationship, and it can be good for a relationship too, but I'd personally rather not deal with that.
I worry about if I'm going to lose somebody down the road. I don't play games I play for keeps. If I get in a relationship I want to keep the relationship, and I have had to say goodbye too many times with deaths and other problems in life. I want something that will last forever. Some women want their cigarette to last forever
Yes. That's instantly a no for me. Mostly from seeing my father struggle with smoking and having a difficult time helping him stop, eventually he did. But seeing that made me really dislike smoking so I vowed to never smoke, till this day never have. So if I was thinking of dating someone it would make me not pursue because that shows bad habit and make me feel like you don't care about your health. I also workout a lot and eat clean so I'm big on health and would want someone that can match that.
I wouldn't date a smoker. I would dislike it if a girl I was into smoked tobacco or vaped, but it'd be a dealbreaker if she was a stoner, smoking weed. That speaks more to her character flaws (in my opinion) than merely bad habits. Bad habits are fine if you're trying actively to break them, but most stoners I know not only avoid breaking their bad habits of getting high, but actually celebrate them! That'd be like me being happy I was overweight and trying to gain even more weight, as opposed to the reality of trying to reduce my weight. In other words, I think stoners are losers.
Personally I don't give s damn what or how others live their lives, is they're to do so as they choose, and personally I don't smoke and have no interest in being with a woman that does my choice, sand I don't give a damn how fine she is I rather a longer life with out the smell of cigarettes, we have to respect others for how they live their lives and choices they make, we have the choice to either be involved with them or not that's true freedom that's our God given right not man's
I'm not into smoking sand knock no one for their choice to do so, as I have the choice to not be involved with someone that does, in not against what others do I get respect their decision as I'm sure there are things I do that some don't agree with, but as long as we respect each other is all that matters, now I won't turn up my nose and make an ugly face like I'm better than someone who smoke that's ignorant, but with mutual respect nothing need not be said about it, why can't more people just understand that and the word respect of others instead of trying to force their way of life, beliefs, ideals on others only keeps this division between us on going needlessly, no on here is better than anyone else despite how special you think you are or need to feel, not saying we are all equal, we all have our quirks, do see things in our own way, wavy is it so hard difficult to accept and learn from each other
If I rejected girls who smoked when I was young and in places like Tokyo, I'd have to reject like 85% of girls. It is very rare to find a girl who doesn't smoke in Japan at least in the sort of places I hung out. My wife is one of the rare ones though.
I didn't mind it so much as long as it's not like chainsmoker. If a girl lights up a cig here and there like when she's at a bar, I didn't mind it.
For me yes. My girl now only smokes 1-2 cigarettes of a very specific brand that is light and only does it once in awhile. That's low enough for me to be unbothered. She's amazing and this is something small I can overlook.
But if she was a heavy smoker it would be a problem and probably would not have gotten together with her.
I know one too many people who smoke and too many who are second hand smokers , and I absolutely cannot take the smell. It's a complete turnoff and dealbreaker for me.
There is no circumstance in life where I would ever date a smoker. None. He could be THE most attractive man in life, and I would pass. My aunt used to smoke and I remember going out of town to visit her with family and getting violently ill just being in her house and in her car that were just permeated with years of cigarette smoke. It got so bad that every trip after, we have always booked a hotel and rented a car just to avoid being there. I can't live a life without fresh air and lungs.
Yes i personally will not ever b with a smoker bc first i cannot stand the smell at all and the addiction can b passed on- plus second hand smoke which i would b inhaling if around him is even more dangerous for us than them. So no plus you can tell when a person is a smoker they reeks of smoke
One of the biggest turn-offs for me (and many other men) is a woman who smokes. I've dated one whom I later found out happened to be a smoker. They always smell like it and kissing them was even worse. Glad I experienced it myself considering it only reinforced my belief to not want to date a smoker.
I don't like it in a woman. But it can be complicated if you fall for someone who doesn't smoke and get into a deep relationship and then one day they start chain smoking - yeah, it happens.
I also don't agree with government trying to ban people from smoking almost everywhere since cars put out way worse pollution than cigarettes and we don't ban them from rolling down residential streets or idling near restaurants.
I have never thought about it. I have never smoked in my life and I’m also a teetotaller. I don’t like alcohol because it ruins relationships. Smoking doesn’t cloud judgement but can damage health, cause premature death and if done at home it can harm me and my kids if we get married and have kids so I guess I would prefer a non-smoker. I do want to live a long and fulfilled life with my future husband.
For me it depends. I'd prefer a person who doesn't smoke, but I wouldn't turn someone immediately down because they smoke. My ex did it occasionally, and I asked her to stop doing that because I didn't want her to get addicted to it, but if you find someone who has been smoking for years, who are you to ask them to stop...
I don't judge smokers but wouldn't date one. If the girl can't quit smoking, I would leave immediately. The reason being that she doesn't value her life. How would she value mine?
I honestly sometimes smoke myself, but only when i feel terrible and when i go through a really stressful period. Other than that i try to not touch it as much as possible because i want to stay healthy, I’m a dancer after all. I rather want the guy im dating with to not smoke because I don’t want to be stimulated into smoking and keep it healthy. I don’t mind him smoking now and then if he is really stressed and go through a lot, cause i do the same. Just not daily.
That’s true, but it’s hard to stop the habits. Im really trying to not touching it as much as possible. But my mind really says “you need it when you feel awful”. Its all in my mind, i know. I am happy that i can go without cigarettes for months or almost even a year. I just have to stay strong :)
I wouldn’t because my mom smokes and it’s really annoying to me because I feel like she doesn’t care about her health which scares me so I wouldn’t want to have to worry about my significant other too and I really don’t like the smell and I wouldn’t want to kiss someone with cigarettes on their breath
I don't want to kiss an ashtray, I don't want to be around someone that stinks and PAYS someone to stink like that, I don't want to be around someone that'll probably die young or is committing a very slow suicide and expects me to be okay with it, or someone that'll get old fast and be covered in wrinkles before they're 50 and, I'm allergic to it!
I dated girls that smoked. It was a lot more acceptable 30 years ago. I dated one girl who smoked a lot. She made it look like it was really enjoyable. I tried it a few times but never liked it all that much. I didn;;t mind kissing her but going out to my car the next day after we went out the night before was gross.
Not really. There is many way's to die, and funny enough another one don't bother me. Also people who say no to smoking are often hypocrites who drink alcohol.
I will not date anyone who smokes (including pipes and cigars) or uses chewing tobacco.
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I had an ex-girlfriend I used to smoke in my small car because I used to deliver flowers during the week so on the weekend my car was smell of smoke and flowers not a good smell that's why Miss queen be Amy number one there was a Amy number two when I want some passion yes I was a bad boy I have my reasons.
Yes it does. It's one of the reasons why I would reject someone. Smoking is disgusting , it ruins your health and the smell of cigarettes stay in your clothes, hair and even in your skin. So, no, no, no.
If I see a guy smoking and he looks cool, he will look cooler for smoking. But then when you get closer to him, the smell is definitely not cool. It’s a weird trope from movies I guess where the bad ass guys all smoke
I quit 2 years ago so I prefer non smokers I can't stand the smell anymore. I have family members who smoke around me so it really doesn't bother me Its just a reminder of why I quit in the first place
I have astma and I'm very sensitive to the smell. I can smell cigarettes even if it was days ago or someone showered recently. It's a dealbreaker for me personally. I can't stand bad smells.
Regardless, only 15% of women in the United States smoke. Among university graduates, who are primarily the women I date, it's under 7%. I'd have to go back to the 80's to recall large numbers of women smoking.
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Back when I was single, I would have very much preferred that the girl didn't smoke. But it wouldn't have been a deal breaker by itself if she was otherwise lovely.
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Boyfriend is smoking so much and it’s disgusting. Someone said that it’s a sign of low IQ, but that’s not the case with him as he’s really intelligent. Today I found out that his brother smokes too, so he’s surrounded by smokers, so it’s hard to quit. I dumped his ass today.
I've dated girls who smoked practically anything that can be lit with a match. It's horrible. their breath stinks and their teeth are yellow. I would never do it again.
I would never date a smoker! I like kissing her, and if she has that STANK, NASTY Cigarette smell, and 'taste' in her mouth, NO WAY!! Besides, she's going to die of Lung Cancer in 30 years, anyway!!
Smoking is an instant deal breaker. Smoking is a sign of low intelligence and an addictive personality, neither of which I want transmitted to my children via the DNA of their mother.
The instant deal-breaker for me. I don't care about all your other attributes: if you smoke you are out. If you smoke in secret, I will find out and cut all contact with you with no explanation. Tabacco is as bad as cocaine in my view.
Absolutely. I would never date someone who smokes, its gross.
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Although i do find it attractive from far away, i don't think i ever can date a smoker. I already hate its smell and cover my nose when someone smokes near me
One thing I have seen most of my life, is people who say they don't smoke and if you happen to see them at a bar, they just happen to be smoking. I don't care, just don't lie about it.
It’s usually a dealbreaker for me unless it’s not very often or never smoke around me but you can always tell from their breath or when kissing, it’s usually on their clothes and hair that smell too
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