How long was the longest first date you've been on where afterwards both you and your date made sure to see each other again?

[Rab1901]

Someone said to never have a first date go much more than an hour, and though I recognize why it's not a bad idea to listen to that, I still feel like that's a short time, especially if the date is going well.

I want to see if people have actually had good experiences with long first dates. I have by the way.

Round to the nearest.5 hours.
Ex. If it's 2.75 hours, round up to 3 hours

I haven't had a first date

Less than an hour

About 1 to 1.5 hours

About 2 to 2.5 hours

About 3 to 3.5 hours

About 4 to 4.5 hours

Longer than 4.5 hours

[DizzyDesii]

Hmm could be right. I know on one date, it lasted from like 7pm-11pm. I spent the first hour sitting with my friends, too shy to sit with him. After they all pressured me to go down there witht him, (we were at the movies), my friends followed and joined his friends. It was so many of us alltogether that we tookup the whole row at the theater. Our friends kept pressuring us to kiss and it was so annoying. A big verbal fight broke out after the film where my friends tried to make me choose between staying with him or going with them. I chose him and he and i made out for a while. But once it was time to go home, all of my friends ignored me and i lost some friendships that day. On another date, it lasted from 2pm-11p. I started off shy again with this guy but the rest of the date was fine. Then one of the same friends who tried to ruin the date with the first guy tried to ruin this one as well when she passed out at the theme park and was mad i chose to continue my date and not leave with her in the ambulance. That night, i had dinner with his fam and they were extremely rude and trying to break us up. I’d love to have a first date that doesn't involve friends/fam 🤣

[Gingersnapz74]

Do you only go out on group dates? This sounds like something highschool kids do.

[DizzyDesii]

@Gingersnapz74 the first one was while in HS. The second was a college double date. Almost all my first dates are partnered with another couple because i dont fully trust being alone with someone im just dating

[Gingersnapz74]

Girl, you're gonna have to get over that... How long does that go on for? I can't imagine any man wanting to deal with that for long. That would get super old super quick if some dude was like my boys and his girls are coming with... Id be like nah i'm good.

[DizzyDesii]

@Gingersnapz74 only first date. And we dont even stay together the full date. The friends are just there for the first hour. Then its just he and i the rest of the date

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii Wow- your friends are trifling.

[DizzyDesii]

@Jamie05rhs and thats why i happily got rid of the last “friend” in 2019. I dont fck with em anymore

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii That's great! 👍

[Gingersnapz74]

Not voting because it's a terrible take. You know if you have a connection with someone and if you want to see them again within the first half hour... well at least that's been my experience.

I think the length of the first date is irrelevant and shouldn't be something that's pre planned, unless of course it was already pre planned, like grabbing a quick coffee or lunch where you know the other person is on limited time.

Why put a timer on something that doesn't need a timer? Why not enjoy getting to know and talking to a new person who you found interesting to ask out on a date. All of these stupid rules are stupid. Why do guys think like this?

[Rab1901]

Lol I think it's terrible too but it wasn't a guy who said it. I actually heard this from a female dating coach on youtube. If you read my description, you can see that I think one hour is a short time.

[CallMeDave]

I don't actually remember, but I think almost all of my first dates have been more than an hour. An hour's really not very long at all when you're trying to get to know someone and decide whether you think there's potential for a relationship. If both people think it's going well, I think even 3 hours goes by quickly and I could easily spend more time than that.

If two people are going to spend the rest of their lives together, why would spending more than an hour together on the first date be a problem for the future of the relationship? That makes no sense to me!

[Redstang88]

Overnight

[msc545]

All weekend