Describe the first time you told a romantic interest "I love you."?

[exitseven]

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I was with my girlfriend of over a year. She had come out to visit me and I had decided I was going to say it before she left. We were in my car driving to a friend's house. It was 8 or 9 PM and it was dark outside. We were parked in front of my friend's house and as I turned off the engine. I mouthed the words a couple of times and then I put my arm around her shoulder and pulled her towards me. I turned towards her and in her ear I softly said. "I love you". I didn't know what would happen nex

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next but she said "And I love you, too" and she kissed my neck.

[NathanDavis]

I met my first girlfriend in the first year of high-school so I was just turning 16...

While of course was there on time, sharp at 8pm on the very first day of classes, she only showed up till days later and and close too noon, late for most class, and so she enters into the classroom without knocking and stating she'll take a seat, "what a rebel" the teacher said to her... "just tell me to leave then" was her reply, so the teacher told her to take a seat, exactly what she didn't want to do. I did notice she really bit her tongue that day and held back. Still, today, I can remember this quite clearly, all of what she was wearing, what she said, where she sat and stuff... since the very first steps into that classroom "I knew and I could feel it" I was going to get in trouble, with her...

And I sure did, fast forward the days, weeks, and some good months... she approached me, we met, we got to know each other, we got closer, we befriended one another. It would be very accurate to say that we were very troubled teens with quite troubled young lives, however... we were not trouble to each other, not in the least, we only had goodness and greatness to share, and everything else didn't matter or it wasn't there for the most part. And sure there were many moments that were difficult, and challenging but not within ones, it was us versus the world as they say... it would also be accurate to say that she was and could be quite explosive while I was implosive pretty much... she was also impulsive while I was suppressive in many ways.

Of course, we ended in love and how could we not, we completed each other, and as much as we guarded and sort of refrained from this, we just ended up drawn into each other more and more, and about this she ended up being like "fuck it... I'll do it" and she showed up at my house, I have no idea how she found my house, since I would never tell anyone where I lived except for one person who knew it, and that person was someone she did NOT like at all, lol.

She showed up, it was a Sunday... and I instantly noticed her smile to me was different, a kind of smile I had noticed before but it was one she would avoid me with, look away and let it go... this time she did not, she did face me with it, she felt vulnerable, all this happened in less of a second, so I knew right away she was going to say it, and I didn't want her to say it... I wasn't ready, that's what I've always said, that I was not ready to "belong with someone" but today I can say, I was afraid... to belong with someone, with her.

[NathanDavis]

To make the long story of that day shorter, and because I could describe as if it were, and it felt like a lifetime, I'll just rush forward, she told me how much loved me, how much she loved and needed "us" to be, she broke herself into pieces and said, I want you to be my boyfriend. And I, in many ways I explained to her very reasonably, " I just can't right now" what a mess... and yet, the very next day, there she was again, 14 hours later and still with tears of fury and others of determination, recently wiped out, she said to me I'm not leaving (-you mf- this part was implied she did not say but I knew her eyes said exactly this)

Many days went by, difficult ones, we could get close and be together but were not really with one another, after all, I was still hidden behind 9 different sets of walls, I was still very wary, I had already fallen in love with her of that I never had any doubt, but I did not want my walls and shields, and seals to fall down, I fought that stupidly and relentlessly... so I'll go fast-forward again till the day I finally did not. That one day, at the living kitchen of her apartment I said to her "I should tell you about something..." and she instantly smiled like she was the most excited she ever was, and then right away she shut it down, and just said "yeah?" and I said "yep..." we moved to the living room, and we sat at a distance on the big couch, I finally started to open up about every, single, thing... I had bottled up inside me, that afternoon went all by, turned into evening and went into the night... we moved from that couch to another, then to her bed, back to the living room, ended up at her balcony, and then finally... at the love seat.

[NathanDavis]

After eight hours or so of me pouring out all of that mess that I was and had, and she listening very closely and patiently while also saying enough and asking me some, as if, making sure nothing was unsaid it all came to an end, "that was all.." and at that point, we were closer than ever, together, in the love seat, physically and emotionally, mentally... and in love, there was no doubt and no more denial about that other than the words yet no spoken by me, she was cuddling up and snuggled on my lap, and so she approached once more, made the move.. her eyes were on mine, her lips close to mine, waited one second, one of those that feel way too long, next she aske me "why are you still afraid?" to which I said "because I love you..."

[exitseven]

Holy Shit. Great story.

[Tunasub]

I had just taken a fall and hit my head rather hard.. it's still kind of sketchy but for some reason I blurted out "I love you" I hope I never hit my head again!!!

[AmandaYVR]

Have you ever seen this video? It's pretty cute/funny.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DiviQfLyQX4

[exitseven]

@AmandaYVR This was me after i had the hip replacement last April.

[AmandaYVR]

Sweet story.
How old were you?

I honestly don't remember. Imagine that. I know the first person I thought I was in love with. But I didn't say it, because I knew he was conflicted about our relationship.
In retrospect, it was a sort of love. But nothing at the level compared to later relationships. And I knew that. I had great, great, admiration for him. And he deserved that. Great man. But we didn't have all that much in common (other than character/integrity), and were at very different stages of our life (thus, the conflict for him.) Still, I'm glad I met him, had those months with him. He renewed my faith in men. I was 19. He was late twenties. He created a high bar in my mind. No one has ever been like him. But even if the stars has aligned, we were not compatible, really.

I have certainly been in love. But I've never counted how many. And I don't really compare them anymore. There are certainly different degrees, different intensities. I think it's fair to say that generally with each relationship, person, the relationships became deeper. The men were all very different. But perhaps I realized I wanted, needed, more. Yet I do not find the world is bereft of quality men. Logistics and practicalities and availabilities often prohibit more, but I am somewhat reassured by their existence. I can tell that if I was dating today, I would have the same openness that I did before. I was too timid, often (I would not be now), but I was open-minded, and that is the way to meet great and interesting people. I'm stunned at much of the closed-mindedness I see today. So many lists. And so little focus/commitment. When I dive, I dive deep. There are no shallow waters for me.

Also I can say that the older I get, the more I know (about myself, others, relationships, how to recognize connections, etc.) I have great conviction about many things now. I did decades ago about some things as well, but it wasn't with the same knowledge, if you know what I mean. There's a lot behind my conclusions now.

Hmm. That didn't even remotely answer your q. But I answered a q you didn't ask (because how can one ask this, whatever this is), which maybe you'd be interested to read anyway.

[exitseven]

Even though you did not answer the question I enjoyed everything you wrote. i guess the thing that surprised me about this question was that others did not find this the big deal that I did. It took a lot of guts for me to say it. I was very insecure and if she laughed at me or said that we were really just friends I didn't think I would survive. I was 20 years old and on some level I knew that I was much more invested in the relationship than she was.

[AmandaYVR]

I'm sure there are lots of interesting stories on this subject. Too bad more people can't see the question. Or take the time to really answer it. You're right, these are pivotal moments.

[exitseven]

I don't know if it is because I have such a good memory or that I am just totally out of step with the whole world but the things that were pivotal to me are not the same things that are pivotal to most people.

[loves2learn]

Well, he said early in the relationship he would only have sex with someone he loves. So, 3 months in we had sex. A few days later I asked him about what he had said. He said he knew he said that, but wasn’t sure if he loved me yet (perhaps trying to prepare himself for me soon leaving for college), but it crushed me.
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Of course after that I just waited patiently for him to tell me. 6 months in, I was visiting him for a weekend and he accidentally said “I would never do that, I love you.” And we both looked at each other kinda stunned. And said something like “well I said it so it stands, I was waiting for you to say it first.”
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I was elated. Grabbed him and kissed him on the lips and asked whyyyy on earth he thought I would say it after he told me he didn’t love me. 😂
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After that we probably had sex on his loft bed. With free condoms from residence life. Good question! I enjoyed your update!

[exitseven]

Great story. It's a scary thing but it is awesome when it all works out.

[loves2learn]

Indeed it is! Thanks for pulling that one out of my memory banks. Lol

[exitseven]

Thats what I do.

[loves2learn]

😊😊😊

[loves2learn]

TY for the MHO !

[KimmyKimmy]

I was in college at the time, and having a bad day. I was drinking red wine and then out of the blue, this blonde chick shows up on my door step...

I won't bore you with the details... I'm sure you've heard this same story a million times.

[exitseven]

I can't say that has ever happened to me.

[KimmyKimmy]

You just never know. LOL

[Tiptoetamm]

I felt butterflies and warmth in my heart it was amazing. I hope I find it again soon

[exitseven]

@Tiptoetamm c'mon lets hear some deets.

[Tiptoetamm]

We'll I'm not a pushy partner so I'll give him space to let it happen naturally. I think I love you should only be said of you really mean it. To many people say I love you too quickly. The first time we kissed and had sex it was like fireworks. Best I've ever had. I was so so in love with man. I still love him. I was with him 11 years. I world work things out of he got his shit together but I can't wait forever for him to choose so I'm moving on. Have a hot date coming up and I really like him so hope it goes well

[exitseven]

Wear your PFD.

[Tiptoetamm]

Few friends and I are going shopping I'm going to get something sexy he showed me what he wants me in so

[exitseven]

yippee

[Tiptoetamm]

That's what he did lol

[TrueConfection]

I was 15 and mistaken. I had a crush, called him my boyfriend for almost a year, and then it was over.

[TrueConfection]

I don't recall the details of actually saying, " I love you," but we used to day it to eachother (I think me more than he).

[humanearth]

We have been together so long, I'll be using a walker by the time I remember when

[Snakeyes7]

It was May of 2017 and I told her that and got my first kiss on a aircraft carrier made into a museum.

[Blackcupcake]

that’s such a sweet story🥰


I’ll be the party pooper here and say that I’ve never told a guy that I love him lol. At least so far...

[exitseven]

give it time.

[Blackcupcake]

yeah, I’m not really in a rush either... just taking things as they come and if it happens it happens

[genericname85]

the classical "i like you too but not that way". it was horrible xD

[exitseven]

I cn do you one better
Me: I love you
Her: You're crazy

[genericname85]

Meh. That's about the same.

[karaspara]

I was at school still I meant it and it was well received however to look back on it's still kinda cringe lol

[MissEm96]

I texted my ex it when I broke up with him. He was a narcissist and we dated a year and he didn’t ever say it. My current boyfriend said it after about a month

[exitseven]

deets?

[Jamie05rhs]

I learned from an early age that you should never tell a romantic interest that you love them.
(Wait until you're in an actual relationship.)

[sage2021]

I wish I could. I just don't remember. Sorry.

[Coulis]

Same.

[Wiredone]

It was so long ago that I don't remember.

[DaveToo]

1966

[exitseven]

That is all the explanation we need.

[DaveToo]

I knew the moment I saw her that we would spend the rest of our lives together.

[exitseven]

😊😊😊😊😊I get it.

[sullyk1234]

i haven't told him yet someday i will

[Jamie05rhs]

Better hurry up before he dies.

[msc545]

Fortunately, I can't remember that stupid moment.

[exitseven]

damn- what is up with everyone. This was such a big deal for me. I can't believe nobody remembers it.

[msc545]

It ranks up there with one of my biggest mistakes. I am very glad yours was not, Exit.